Jacking-Off Log

[bridgeburner]

Honestly, is there enough sex in the world to satiate us? I go through phases when I feel incapable of arousal , but I WANT to be able to be aroused so I don't think it counts as being beyond/above sex.

 

[Recidiva]

We are recapitulating a whole conversation I had with myself in the shower this weekend.

No, I don't think I would support the opposite. I've never been with a woman that had a stronger sex drive than I did and I wouldn't like it. It's a double standard, for sure. I'm a bit kinked in that I enjoy the idea of sexual control and frustration of women/female orgasm control/one-sided sexuality/orgasmic imbalance. One hears of the whole femme-dom thing where the guy has to wear a chastity belt and isn't allowed to O...I'm kind of into the reversal of that. Of course, I'm always guilty of talking as if my private kinks were somehow representative of the populous at large. It amuses me to do so.

Can you define why you wouldn't like being with a woman who had a stronger sex drive than you have?

Where did the double standard originate?

What's the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow?

 

[Recidiva]

Honestly, is there enough sex in the world to satiate us? I go through phases when I feel incapable of arousal , but I WANT to be able to be aroused so I don't think it counts as being beyond/above sex.

It is ultimately up to ourselves to satiate ourselves, I think. Sexual gluttony is just as destructive as food gluttony. There are times where you become bloated, your senses and tastes are dulled and so you need more and more...when the answer might be less and less until you experience real sexual desire again. Like a true hunger pang rather than the habitual "Time to eat"

 

[Hester]

no no no, I just don't see it happening. I've been there, tried it out, didn't do anything for me, I've moved on and will stick with men.

i am the same, although i have had thoughts of topping a woman lately. i could deal with that.

 

[Hester]

Last fall, I was listening to some young Teamsters talking while they waited their turn to get offloaded. All tattooed, fresh-faced, muscular macho young guys, some Rican and some white. They were talking about getting fucked with strapons as if it were the latest thing. I was rather stunned.

the younger (under 30) set seems to be more open to this. were they young?

I jacked last night around the onset of astronomical twilight, but it was nothing to write home about. A weakish spattering of the ejaculatorium basin. I'm going to try to rebuild vitality. The mental process was interesting, though: I was thinking that it is the duty of every wife to make sure that her husband is sexually satisfied at all times. Why does that sound so radical these days?

is it the duty of the husband for the same?

i would say yes on both counts.

 

[Hester]

We are recapitulating a whole conversation I had with myself in the shower this weekend.

No, I don't think I would support the opposite. I've never been with a woman that had a stronger sex drive than I did and I wouldn't like it. It's a double standard, for sure. I'm a bit kinked in that I enjoy the idea of sexual control and frustration of women/female orgasm control/one-sided sexuality/orgasmic imbalance. One hears of the whole femme-dom thing where the guy has to wear a chastity belt and isn't allowed to O...I'm kind of into the reversal of that. Of course, I'm always guilty of talking as if my private kinks were somehow representative of the populous at large. It amuses me to do so.

i'd end up killing someone like you in his sleep. sex deprivation makes me genuinely insane.

 

[Hester]

It is ultimately up to ourselves to satiate ourselves, I think. Sexual gluttony is just as destructive as food gluttony. There are times where you become bloated, your senses and tastes are dulled and so you need more and more...when the answer might be less and less until you experience real sexual desire again. Like a true hunger pang rather than the habitual "Time to eat"

i wish self satiation were possible for me.

there's something about the physical act of coupling that i need on a very visceral and deeply psychic level.

 

[Recidiva]

i wish self satiation were possible for me.

there's something about the physical act of coupling that i need on a very visceral and deeply psychic level.

I think that's why I cultivate schizophrenia.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Can you define why you wouldn't like being with a woman who had a stronger sex drive than you have?

Where did the double standard originate?

What's the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow?

I'm sure that it all comes down to control with me. I have a hard time seperating the concept of "woman with higher sex drive than me" from images of nagging; which is intolerable. I like being the initiator of sex and I am perverse and contrary.

I suppose that the double standard originated in about the same place as my whole unfair sexuality/power exhange thing.

2 meters per second is roughly the swallow speed.

 

[Recidiva]

I'm sure that it all comes down to control with me. I have a hard time seperating the concept of "woman with higher sex drive than me" from images of nagging; which is intolerable. I like being the initiator of sex and I am perverse and contrary.

I suppose that the double standard originated in about the same place as my whole unfair sexuality/power exhange thing.

2 meters per second is roughly the swallow speed.

I always think of a higher drive as "more highly motivated"

I can't imagine how wringing a sexual response out of someone with low drive is fun. So how is that fun?

 

[Hester]

I'm sure that it all comes down to control with me. I have a hard time seperating the concept of "woman with higher sex drive than me" from images of nagging; which is intolerable. I like being the initiator of sex and I am perverse and contrary.

I suppose that the double standard originated in about the same place as my whole unfair sexuality/power exhange thing.

2 meters per second is roughly the swallow speed.

usually i think the person who has the ability to withhold sex has greater power in a relationship.

it looks like you see that differently. is it that she would be trying to coerce you instead of the other way around, and that might be something you would miss?

 

[rimmy]

Good to see you wanking, Rimmy. Keep 'em coming!
radical these days?

That's it? Did you not read the first line of my post? I want a damn nickname so you'll go back and shorten my name god dammit.

 

[rimmy]

usually i think the person who has the ability to withhold sex has greater power in a relationship.

it looks like you see that differently. is it that she would be trying to coerce you instead of the other way around, and that might be something you would miss?

Withhold sex? Orgasm denial is one thing but withholding sex all together is unacceptable and will earn you a one way ticket to D-town in rimmyville.

 

[Hester]

Withhold sex? Orgasm denial is one thing but withholding sex all together is unacceptable and will earn you a one way ticket to D-town in rimmyville.

don't get me started on this topic.

 

[Recidiva]

don't get me started on this topic.

Tell us about it, Hester!

No, really, I'm with rimmy on this one.

I'm lucky enough to never have been involved with anybody who did this.

 

[bridgeburner]

My preference is to be the lesser-drive partner in the mix. I'd far rather be sexually imposed on than ask for it and be told "No". Yes, yes, it's rooted in age-old insecurity blah blah blah, but the why of it isn't all that important so long as I can arrange things to suit my needs.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I always think of a higher drive as "more highly motivated"

I can't imagine how wringing a sexual response out of someone with low drive is fun. So how is that fun?

I'm not all that interested in sexual response. I don't get off on my partner having big Os, eyes rolled back in head, etc and telling me what a great lover I am. I get off on doing what I want, when and how I want.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Random wank

I spent this morning deep in fantasy land. Had my toy, had peace and quiet, had a brain filled with all kinds of degrading scenes. It's funny but on those rare days when I feel like getting myself off, it only happens if 2 things have been met:

1) complete privacy
2) a conversation which leaves someone else wanting me..

So today's session centered on getting a certain female to the brink, repeatedly..and stopping. Making her hold it, and hold it until she had tears streaming down her face and looked as if someone had beaten her half to death.

*sigh*

Usually I don't require toys and I have gotten so that I don't require clitoral stimulation at all..I can just clench and release my cunt muscles until I get off, but today..well I needed that extra bit of stimulation..and the o, when it hit...turned into 4 or 5 within the space of a heartbeat, leaving me drained and laying in a huge wet spot.

 

[rosco rathbone]

That's it? Did you not read the first line of my post? I want a damn nickname so you'll go back and shorten my name god dammit.

Oh, you mean the ticker tape code for regular jackers. Keep posting!

 

[rimmy]

don't get me started on this topic.

Start. I dare you.

 

[Recidiva]

I'm not all that interested in sexual response. I don't get off on my partner having big Os, eyes rolled back in head, etc and telling me what a great lover I am. I get off on doing what I want, when and how I want.

Seems to suit a goal-oriented, objectification viewpoint.

I'm all cooperative, go team. Win-win or bust. Partially why I think I don't respond much to anything not directed at me specifically.

 

[rimmy]

Oh, you mean the ticker tape code for regular jackers. Keep posting!

How many jacks or posts do I need for my own symbol?

 

[Hester]

I'm not all that interested in sexual response. I don't get off on my partner having big Os, eyes rolled back in head, etc and telling me what a great lover I am. I get off on doing what I want, when and how I want.

is it okay if that's an unintended side effect, or do you not want her to enjoy anything ever at all no way no how.

 

[Hester]

Start. I dare you.

i have an appt in a few. i'll pontificate when i return.

 

[rosco rathbone]

How many jacks or posts do I need for my own symbol?

It's a matter of spirit. Few, if the vibe is right.

Is it okay if that's an unintended side effect, or do you not want her to enjoy anything ever at all no way no how.

Sometimes it's OK, sometimes it is a turnoff. Sometimes it's a turn on!

My preference is to be the lesser-drive partner in the mix. I'd far rather be sexually imposed on than ask for it and be told "No". Yes, yes, it's rooted in age-old insecurity blah blah blah, but the why of it isn't all that important so long as I can arrange things to suit my needs.

I am always glad to see you here, beebs. I've been following your Pure battles with interest.