It didn't turn out how you planned

[fenghuang]

For many years I wanted something specific sexually from my SO. :caning:
I had thoroughly enjoyed it with previous partners. :caning:
Eventually I got it from my SO, and whilst it was fantastic at the time, :caning: I was a little uncomfortable with it afterwards :caning:.
This may yet change with repatition, I don't know, but it seems the desire to share this experience is to some degree specific to whom the other person is.

The precise details are not important just now (as I'm not seeking advice as such) but I'm curious to know if other people have had similar experiences?
(And no, it's not caning - I just love that smilie.)

 

[fuckmeat]

When G began to really give me the humiliation play I'd been craving for a long time, it was fantastic, sublime but the emotional fallout from that was huge. G has a talent for twisting truth instead of creating fiction and halftruths like the ones she spat at me took up residence in my mind and drove me half mad with self loathing. I managed to convince myself that she genuinely despised me on some deep emotional level. Of course she doesn't and only time and hard evidence to the contrary in her words and actions has deactivated whatever switch she threw in my head. Now I am more of a slave than a sub to her, I'm in a mindset where I'm more comfortable with being treated with disregard or contempt at times. I know when she goes on one of her mindfuck missions that she does it because I crave and need it so much. I could never look at her again the way I did before she started with the hardcore humiliation stuff but I've made peace with that knowledge and now feel that I've in fact traded up into a new, more emotionally raw and intense dynamic where she really does know me better than I do myself a lot of the time.

I don't know if this is the sort of thing you were after.

 

[subwannabe]

If I understand you correctly, I think the answer is yes. Some things that can turn you on with someone sometimes just doesn't work with a different partner. It's kind of like when a woman has a fond memory of a hotel stay she had with a romantic partner but if someone else took her there it just wouldn't be the same. Sometimes you just need different experiences with different people.