"I'm better than you."

[KillerMuffin]

Well, that's a crappy attitude to have. Who is plagued with it? I don't mean point fingers at the dorks you know think they're better than you, because they're not, but you yourself, personally.

"I think I'm better than you" is a pretty common tone around here, I believe. Most of us don't actually wallow in that, but some of us have high horses we sit on and survey the rabble below. We "better than you's" tend to infight some because we're better than the other "better than you's" and we have to make sure they know it. Right?

Or is it not actually people thinking "I'm better than you" but people who are used to being the Alpha? They're wired to make decisions, judgement calls, and form opinions and state them. They don't think that they're better than anyone else, but they do thrust themselves strongly into any position they feel even the most remotely qualified to comment on, they have to have the last word, and no matter what, they think they're right.

Yes, this is a place where people come simply for the purpose of having fun. Interestingly enough, we all define fun in a single, multileveled variation.

However, we're also a society within ourselves. One like any other, only the admission and secession of members is purely voluntary and the government is tres laizze-faire. Society has leaders and those who don't. The Alpha thing again.

So, what do you think? Alpha or do they just think they're better than everyone else?

 

[bluntforcemama]

I know you are but what am I?

 

[April]

I am better than a number of posters here. But I don't need to prove it.

 

[MacCortz]

Better than ME?

Ya, your right your better than me! I can live with it and laugh about it all the way to the future...

 

[sexy-girl]

i dont think anyone is better then anyone here


everyone has skills and is better at something ... i guess it depends what skills you believe to be vital in judging if someone is better then someone else


and judging which of those skills are most important is just a matter of opinion

 

[Asendin]

I know you are but what am I?

hot

 

[Tabby432]

I fall into a third category. People who think they're better than you but suck at writing and communicating their superiority. You all just don't know it.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

So, what do you think? Alpha or do they just think they're better than everyone else?

I can't really be certain what they are thinking because I am not inside their heads. But I know of at least one person I would be willing to take an educated guess about. This particular person makes it a habit to go around making personal insults in the guise of what he calls "observations", and snidely calling people names and calling that humor. Then covers it all up with a bad boy attitude that some people seem to find appealing.

I think his problem is not that he is an "alpha", or that he truly thinks he is better than anybody else - quite the opposite: he seems so insecure about himself that he has to cast aspersions on everybody else to make himself appear better than he is. The more he does it, the more insecure he seems in my eyes, and after a while it just got so pathetic he is now on my ignore list.

I can play alpha games, but with the rare exception (like today - see above) I usually don't get personal, I try to win debates by presenting the better argument. Beyond that, I don't try to compete that much verbally, and while I may come across as pedantic and arrogant at times, I also am rather forthcoming about where I am lacking and where I have made mistakes.

People who think they are better than other people are not going to give such openings to their opponents (everybody is a possible opponent to them, or possibly somebody to bully) - you can see it in their posts; rarely anything about themselves, the mistakes they have made in their lives, it is all about their opponents. They aren't really interested in people getting to know them, nor in sharing their experience, just in putting on that facade that they are better.

True Alphas exists, people who always want to be in charge to one degree or another. I see them i nthe workplace all the time. As long as they lead well, don't harm the pack, and aren't control freaks, I have no problem following them if they are leading where I want to go. If they continually stumble, are control freaks, or are leading the pack down the wrong path - I am out of there seeking another pack.

 

[freakygirl]

I know I'm a loser...

I live with it.. hopefully you will too

 

[portal65]

But if one does not declare their superiority, how will
others ever know?

I say let them be judged by their actions.


portal65

 

[Saturn Return]

All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.
~George Orwell

Yeah..what can ya do?

It's really funny/sad when a person develops a superiority complex even though they lack the steam to keep it up.

 

[Guest]

 

[lavender]

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I think if you're worrying to much about the people who think they're so great, you need to spend more time worrying about yourself.

 

[Nathon_88]

People that obsess about being better than other people normally have larger issues.

I mean, someone wants to be better than me at something? Go right ahead, and welcome to it.

Point men usually get shot first, anyway.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

ShyTallGuy... you make me so hot. Seriously.

And that body of yours in your av makes me drool

Too bad I am not a sub huh?

 

[PowerOfOne]

Better than you? You better than me?

I am a nobody, nobody is perfect, and therefore I am perfect.

 

[Marxist]

I think if you're worrying to much about the people who think they're so great, you need to spend more time worrying about yourself.

Ditto for once.

 

[sexy-girl]

Each person is blessed with different traits.

Where Muff's writing style might be better than mine. My comprehension of international politics might be better than hers.

Where Cheyenne's skills make her better at organizing and very adept with numbers, Never might be more creative or have a more vivid imagination than Cheyenne.

Where DCL may be wittier or Problem Child funnier, others might have more open arms and provide others a better sense of security and warmth.

My point is in some ways we are better than others. In other ways they are better than us. As a whole entity we can't be compared on a scale of better than and less than another person. The true measuring is on specific individual attributes.

I think this whole "I'm better than you," simply has no basis for proof.

Ok, probably not the answer you were looking for.

what i was trying to say but you said it better ...


but also hardkore might know more about wrestling then just about every member here


maybe most of us would think that is useless info


but what right has anyone to say which skills and subjects are more important then others


its all subjective and therefore everyone is better then someone at something but nobody is "better" then anyone

 

[Sabineteas]

Better?

Her are my thoughts

1. In the most basic sense, we are all the same, none better than the other. You can buy the chemicals in our bodies<we are mostly water>for about $3.00.

But, there are some people on here who are better at expressing themselves than me, better at making a point. They have more knowledge than I do, so in that sense they are better. But only from that point of view. In other things, I am just as good as they are. Similarly, there are other women who look better than me, have nicer bodies and so on. From that standpoint, they are better, but from no other.

Others on here know more people, understand them, you are almost like a club that I don't belong to and don't think I ever will, because it appears hard to get into that club. Because you are in and I am out are you better? No, just different and in somes priveleged.

Last, there are some here who I think I am better than they are. I think I am more insightful and more accepting of people's differences. But, really, I am not better than they are, just my values and thoughts and knowledge is different, and I think my point of view is better.

Really I think that the world and Literotica would be nicer if we treated each other as equals as much as possible. I have seen insults and arguments that make me very uncomfortable and I am sure that I miss some important knowledge because I bail out when I see that stuff.

Anyway, my smal little thoughts for whatever they are worth. Anyone who reads this, thank you for hearing me out.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Better?

Her are my thoughts

1. In the most basic sense, we are all the same, none better than the other.

As you and others have pointed out, it depends on the criteria applied. I do believe that given a criteria one can sometimes say person A is better than person B.

I even think that sometimes given a criteria, that some people can truthfully say they are better than other particular people. You will rarely hear them say it - if they are truthful.

You will however often hear insecure people either talk incessantly about how they are better than others, about how others are no better than they are ("we are down in the slime, you are no better than me"), or constantly denigrate others to (in their minds) either bring those people down to their level, or to elevate themselves. This is what politicians do when they run for office, this is what some religious people do, and sometimes you see adults doing it in online communities. It is sad but true.

Maybe someday they will grow up.

 

[nasty]

Not me. Were all the same.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Not me. Were all the same.

That would be boring! We are all different! And as we said, some of us are better at somethings than another. We judge and discriminate based on what we percieve that we like in other people. That is life. Saying we are all the same is a fallacy.

That doesn't mean we have to act or feel superior to others, whether we are better or not. The sign of a truly superior person is that they don't act superior. If for no other reasons than the facts that:

1) There is always someone better than you are.

2) You should treat others the way you wish to be treated.

3) If you are truly superior to most other people, then by definition those people outnumber you.

Now. Any of you truly superior people want to join me in the Dogbert New Ruling Class?

 

[nasty]

That's not exactly what I meant. Refer to your point 2.