If the stars aligned... Would you?

[Tooshytosct]

Simple backstory, I am a near middle aged guy in decent shape. I have been with the same woman for over 20 years. I have always been faithful. I do however have fantasies that do not involved her, as we all do. The question is, if you had the opportunity to engage in a sexual relationship with a different person, would you? I mean if the situation was right, the sexual energy was palpable and there was no chance of your better half finding out. Would you do it? I'm, er, asking for a friend.

 

[Hornblende]

Simple backstory, I am a near middle aged guy in decent shape. I have been with the same woman for over 20 years. I have always been faithful. I do however have fantasies that do not involved her, as we all do. The question is, if you had the opportunity to engage in a sexual relationship with a different person, would you? I mean if the situation was right, the sexual energy was palpable and there was no chance of your better half finding out. Would you do it? I'm, er, asking for a friend.

No, I wouldn't.

 

[Jada59]

I'm not involved with anyone now but if I were, then no I would not. Some things are best kept in the fantasy realm.

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Not while I was still involved... all parties deserve more than that, myself included.

 

[roc23]

Nope and no way.

 

[michael2956]

Absolutely!

 

[Poprockz]

Hm. I personally have never been married myself, but the way I see it, marriage is a contract. By promising to be faithful to each other (if that was agreed upon), you are essentially forcing the other person to give up some freedom, by giving up some freedoms yourself. It's probably normal for you to want to try new things, but you would be violating your contract with your spouse.

The only straightforward way around it are amending the agreed-upon terms, or dissolving the contract. If you don't want to go through the ordeal of doing either of those, it would probably be best to keep your desires, as Jada59 said, in the fantasy realm.

I wouldn't do it because even if they never found out, I would bear the weight of the guilt for a long time, and that shit festers.

 

[gtnlynn]

No. I promised my wife I would never be unfaithful to her, and I intend to keep that promise. I didn't require the same from her.

 

[ReadyOne]

Yes...

I was in that position, and I went with it.

Understand that my spouse and I had discussed such a situation in generalities long beforehand. Further, I told spouse about meeting this particular person and how they "checked all the boxes on my list". Spouse gave permission for an encounter should conditions converge.

I might add that this person was very different than my spouse in shape, temperament, background and life situation. Spouse had met the person, knew all this, and decided that love, loyalty and respect would allow a potential me an encounter without danger.

All went well, believe it or not. I remain eternally grateful to both.

 

[draconus_infernus]

I’ve been married for fifteen years, but in all that time we haven’t been monogamous. We practice consensual non-monogamy. We both have other partners. So yes, I have done this, as have my other half. For us it’s perfectly normal.

 

[tnhardon]

Would I want to, of course. Would I, no.

 

[Shelly2inme]

The stars did align

Four years ago I was in a situation where I had been sexually exclusive with me husband but there was a guy at work that was driving me crazy with sexual desire. I would never have cheated on my husband but the stars did align and I found out that he was very turned on by the idea of sharing me. That changed everything in our sex life. The last four years have been incredible. I love my new sexual freedom and so does he. But again, I would not be having sex with other guys unless my husband wanted me to.

 

[genxer36]

I would if she was there to watch.

 

[newrandomperson]

If I was in a monogamous relationship then the stars could align, have a cheer leading troupe and a brass band but I would not go there.

It is about respecting the boundaries and rules that I have set with my partner and what that means to us, to her and to me. If the relationship changes, or the rules are different from the outset then that may change what would happen but fundamentally it is the same as the rest of life really.

Respect the people you are with, respect the people that you know and respect yourself and what you do.

 

[Followmenow6969_2]

It all depends on the dynamic of your relationship

My Hubby and I met on Lit many years ago and we have played with many women alone and separately... Our secret is being open and no lies......

 

[HughManitee]

Yes...I would

 

[Series 6]

When I was married, I had an incredible crush on a friend of mine. When I was single, she was married. When I was married, she was single. Now that I'm divorced, of course she is married again.

But she could have very easily seduced me if she wanted to. I don't think she had the same feelings for me.

But I think it depends on the happiness level with our current relationship. When I was happy with my ex, cheating would never have entered my mind.

 

[Gelista]

Not sure I'd have the guts to go through with it