If ED, does a feeder become an eater?

[CuriousTxGuy]

Just curious, about opinions on this. I don't have this problem. But any of us men could as we get older. So you've been happily having sex with women and getting quality head jobs from a guy now and then. ED strikes, and meds don't work. You are unable to get hard enough for intercourse to climax. Blowjobs don't do it either. Feels good, but you are unable to climax.

So do you give up on sex, or start sucking cocks? If so do you just have a taste now and then, or become a total cum slut?

 

[Riverliver]

I had prostate surgery a year ago and haven't had an erection yet. Stimulation just feels ok but that is all. I was in another city and went to a bath house mens club mostly just to observe. In the steam room I ended up giving a hand job and liked that. After walking around and observing another guy and I were playing with each others cocks and his cock was average length and slim. He started fingering my ass and it felt good. He wanted to fuck me and there were plenty of rubbers there. We went to his room, he put on a rubber, and I kneeled on the bed. I told him it was my first time and he went slow at first. I was surprised at how much I enjoyed it. I didn't cum but it felt good and I look forward to doing that again. I would also like to suck but feel it is only safe with a condom. I am not attracted to men at all but look forward to the uncomplicated pleasure.

 

[canogagrizz]

I have ED and I have never had a problem yet being able to climax. If I get hard a little at all, it's usually just before climax. I could be wrong, but I don't think with ED most men have a problem climaxing. it's more so just the problem of not sustaining much of any amount of erection.
The thing that is horrible mostly about having ED is that the sex drive is still there and it still builds up. For me anyways. The desire is still there very much so. It's even sadder when maybe for their female partner they can't sustain an erection for anymore and thus the sex life becomes less frequent. My wife understood when I had this happen in the past. She could give me oral sex & I'd still cum but it would stay soft. Which was a horrible feeling for both of us really. And it stinks because I still wanted sex badly. Even more so once it became less frequent. Very frustrating for guys dealing with ED.
I think with a lot of men so much so they are willing to seek other options and sex with men that have the same problem. The sensations in the penis (for me anyways) still feel just as great as they always have, but usually my dick remains limp. Massive amounts of precum though. With these issues and lack of sex with females, it makes the wanting & desire for any kind of sex, even with men, exciting and becomes a fantasy that maybe was never really there that much before. Understandable really. The less ex one gets, the more the desire builds up and thoughts also of other possibilities to help stimulation.
Thankfully I haven't had the problem of not being able to climax at least. Hope this is not a issue for most with ED I'm not certain of that though it might be for many.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

I had prostate surgery a year ago and haven't had an erection yet. Stimulation just feels ok but that is all. I was in another city and went to a bath house mens club mostly just to observe. In the steam room I ended up giving a hand job and liked that. After walking around and observing another guy and I were playing with each others cocks and his cock was average length and slim. He started fingering my ass and it felt good. He wanted to fuck me and there were plenty of rubbers there. We went to his room, he put on a rubber, and I kneeled on the bed. I told him it was my first time and he went slow at first. I was surprised at how much I enjoyed it. I didn't cum but it felt good and I look forward to doing that again. I would also like to suck but feel it is only safe with a condom. I am not attracted to men at all but look forward to the uncomplicated pleasure.

I guess the bath house makes it easy because everyone is there only for one thing. And for sure if a guy does not get erections, it's going to be blow jobs and hand jobs to get him off. So although no erections, do you climax?

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

I have ED and I have never had a problem yet being able to climax. If I get hard a little at all, it's usually just before climax. I could be wrong, but I don't think with ED most men have a problem climaxing. it's more so just the problem of not sustaining much of any amount of erection.
The thing that is horrible mostly about having ED is that the sex drive is still there and it still builds up. For me anyways. The desire is still there very much so. It's even sadder when maybe for their female partner they can't sustain an erection for anymore and thus the sex life becomes less frequent. My wife understood when I had this happen in the past. She could give me oral sex & I'd still cum but it would stay soft. Which was a horrible feeling for both of us really. And it stinks because I still wanted sex badly. Even more so once it became less frequent. Very frustrating for guys dealing with ED.
I think with a lot of men so much so they are willing to seek other options and sex with men that have the same problem. The sensations in the penis (for me anyways) still feel just as great as they always have, but usually my dick remains limp. Massive amounts of precum though. With these issues and lack of sex with females, it makes the wanting & desire for any kind of sex, even with men, exciting and becomes a fantasy that maybe was never really there that much before. Understandable really. The less ex one gets, the more the desire builds up and thoughts also of other possibilities to help stimulation.
Thankfully I haven't had the problem of not being able to climax at least. Hope this is not a issue for most with ED I'm not certain of that though it might be for many.

makes a lot of sense. puts you in the bottom category / eater although with a hard dick that'd be different. But mainly its about getting off one way or another not categories and labels.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

My dad was a bisexual (oral and anal) before ED but became a big time cocksucker and anal bottom after. Mom was fine with it.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

My dad was a bisexual (oral and anal) before ED but became a big time cocksucker and anal bottom after. Mom was fine with it.

Well, who would have dreamed ... ED moved a regular biguy into a total cumslut of a cocksucker.

Let's everyone deepthroat a hard cock just in tribute to that story. Maybe a couple.

 

[little cletus]

Just curious, about opinions on this. I don't have this problem. But any of us men could as we get older. So you've been happily having sex with women and getting quality head jobs from a guy now and then. ED strikes, and meds don't work. You are unable to get hard enough for intercourse to climax. Blowjobs don't do it either. Feels good, but you are unable to climax.

So do you give up on sex, or start sucking cocks? If so do you just have a taste now and then, or become a total cum slut?

I’d be fine to be 100% bottom if I couldn’t maintain an erection. Just getting my wife to agree to use a strapon would be the hard part.

 

[canogagrizz]

makes a lot of sense. puts you in the bottom category / eater although with a hard dick that'd be different. But mainly its about getting off one way or another not categories and labels.

LOL. I ain't going into no category because of ED. Especially any bottom category. LOL. That ain't my tempo. But to each their own however they choose & like to get off.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

Yes exactly its all about getting off.

 

[MidTownBob]

Yes, that pretty much has summarized my existence since developing ED. I do occasionally get sucked by other guys but, by and large, my sex life consists of being on the bottom side of things.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I preferred sucking to being sucked, even before my prostate enlarged. Now, as then, the biggest problem is opportunity; I'm married, retired
and live in a small community. Guys wanting their cocks sucked are few and far between. Even if they were queuing up, finding the time would be tricky. So masturbation is my outlet. But, to make things worse, as well as ED, I have dry orgasms. Sure it's tidier, but I used to really enjoy seeing my cum shoot from my hard, erect cock. Getting old is a bummer.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

A hundred ways of coping and getting by.

 

[none2_none2]

I'm 36, I have ED and my relationships with women suffered because of it. I was occasionally able to maintain an erection long enough to climax, but the sex was usually short and largely unfulfilling for either of us. After breaking up with my last GF around 2013, I turned exclusively to men for three years. It was so much more enjoyable to not have to worry about the pressure of maintaining an erection. When I'd get one, I'd be complimented on the size of my unit, but it never lasted long enough for me to use it in any way, so what good is an above-average penis if you can't use it? Besides, I'm a grower not a shower, so most of the time my equipment looked more like that of a Greek statue. I still produced a lot of precum during sex, but I rarely got more than semi-hard (through probably more like quarter-hard). Instead, I put all my attention on pleasing the men I'd take to bed.

I noticed a change in the way I interacted sexually. With women, I was more interested in enjoying myself, which probably prevented me from bonding with my girlfriends intimately (though we also didn't connect on most levels, so it wasn't an exclusively sexual thing), and though I occasionally went down on them, it was out of obligation, not desire. The "afterglow" was always awkward and something I'd try to escape from by offering to order dinner or do something else. With men, I became naturally service-minded and desirous of providing maximum pleasure to my lover. Far from begrudgingly eating pussy, I willingly and enthusiastically ate ass, sucked dick, and took it up the rear. Then after their orgasm, I genuinely enjoyed laying in bed, making out, chatting, cuddling, and preparing for round two. Round two with women? Not a chance. With guys, it was the norm and I loved it. And all throughout this man-on-man experience, I was more than content to not have to bother with an orgasm of my own. Usually the night would end and I'd go to bed without cumming, but be 100% more fulfilled than had I done so.

Then I took a break from hook-ups and that has led to a dry period where I haven't had any sex in seven years. I don't know if or when I'll "return to sex," for lack of a better term, but I've discovered that I can live a fulfilling life without any intentional orgasms.

So, in short, developing ED led me to becoming a bottom, which I found to more enjoyable, though not strictly necessary to be happy.

I hate having ED. Regardless, I was a top before, and that orientation didn't change just because of equipment failure. That being said even as much as I crave being inside a guy, it is being loved by a man that makes life worth living. I've been with my guy about 20 years. He is the last thing I see before I fall asleep, and the first thing I see in the morning. I love his scent, I love the warmth of his body next to me. I love the textures of his hairy chest, legs, and ass. It sound like it is all about just sex and desire for sex, but it is more. I almost died in 2018 from the West Nile vir, he took a leave of absence and except for taking care of our pets and farm animals, he was always at my side. I was in the hospital for 5 weeks. When I finally came out of sedation, there he was my big hunk of masculine man crying over me because I came so close to death over this.
I will always be his one and only. If I was told I could get my erections back, but I couldn't have sex with him, I would decline. Being inside a man is so very Wonderful. If that same man also loves you, it is the closest thing to heaven on earth. He is my guardian angel; I cherish the love he has given imperfect me.