If 18 year old you knew what you know now...

[live4thebj]

My second oldest sister, humm, how did that get in there?

Because the opportunity arised a few times.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Because the opportunity arised a few times.

Oh man, there goes my curious pervy mind again!

 

[Vitriolhack]

this is true, but to start a marriage where one loves sex and the other is ambivalent about it spells disaster. ..And I've known people who made that mistake. ..But yes, people do change. For example, when my wife and I married the idea of letting her being w/ other men would have made me cringe. If she asked I would have said, "no way would I ever allow that." ..But now, after 30+ years, I think it's actually quite a healthy (and normal) thing to do now and again. ..Her and I both.

Nice philosophy.

People do change, the goal is to both change together or at least in the same direction.

Lovely relationship!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I would find the man I was eventually going to marry (conveniently one town over from me) remind him we’d met already, break him up from the bitch he was with and start our lives together 7 years sooner.

I would also find more women to fuck sooner.

 

[AprilTwenties]

18 year old me was confused about a lot of things. Adopted. Religion was big in the household. I'd had sex with a boy and it made my life very difficult - asking lots of questions about myself and shit, y'know?

I came to the writings of this woman on a support network ('The Experience Project') who was married, hooked, drank, smoke, did drugs, had kids from outside her marriage...oh, and the husband was ok with all this. I read this shit and it got me excited. I wanted to experience this kind of life, not my boring one.

She lived a city over. I met her streetwalking, we talked and next thing I knew I'm doing whatever she said. Long story short, that was at the age of 18 and I'm currently 14 years into my career as a streetwalker too. I do all those things that this woman did...and she's my pimp/madame/owner. I'm very happy.

But I was so not expecting this at the age of 18. Not sure what I was expecting, boo.

A x

 

[alwaystheguy1983]

I would have had so much more sex than I did. You don't need love to have sex. Just communication, connection and respect

 

[Corbie]

I'd just shoot myself to avoid years of depression.

Still stands

 

[KyleR215]

Would 18 year old me even listen to 50 year old me? Probably not. Teenagers know everything. Smarter than everyone else.

So the first thing I would tell myself is "you don't know all. Not even close."

I would tell me to skip college and go into a trade. Invest in real estate. Start saving for retirement at 18. No rush to get married and have kids.
And because this is Lit - Explore and experiment sexually. Find partners that are sexually open minded.

Oh! And tell your father to get his heart checked because he only has a few years left if he doesn't

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Then he'd know that that young female English teacher who gave him a suggestive nickname was definitely into him.

 

[EmmAgain]

That even something as exciting as content creation - when you’re getting paid thousands to have amazing sex with beautiful men and women in exotic locations - would eventually become a tedious PITA, with every hour of fucking involving 40 hours of editing, paperwork, research, and brain-dead subscriber messaging.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

A lot more honest!

 

[Biguy77578]

Maybe I should have used a condom but then again he grew up to be a wonderful man. He's 52 now. Man time flies!

 

[wouldloveto]

This seems like a good subject for a book, a memoir, or a cautionary tale...

Maybe entitled, "Be Yourself"

 

[Ratchetman1982]

If 18 year old me knew what I know now, I would've been even worse

 

[EmmAgain]

I would tell myself to do all of the things that I have done… and to never doubt it.

I would tell myself to cherish the time with my wife more and treat her like a goddess, because she won’t survive that cancer.

I would tell myself not to rush into another relationship because you’ll be unhappy.

I would tell myself to always concentrate on being a good father because she will pay you back with unconditional love.

I would tell myself not to be afraid, because everything will turn out ok.

Thank you for asking.
x.

That’s beautiful. Thank you.

 

[MidTownBob]

I’d have been far more exploratory and a lot less concerned about what other people thought.

 

[Saltybabe06]

18 was a very long time ago..but I've gained a lot of knowledge and wisdom over these past 15 months

 

[LusciousLili]

I would have kissed a female friend of mine.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

Well I do know that my love of licking pussy and the joy I experience seeing, hearing and feeling a woman orgasm was something that I learned over time. I wish my early life sex partners would have received that instead of me just worrying about taking care of myself.

That and the realization that cum wasn't something you had to stay away from at all costs. Imagine all the fun you would have had if you were more carefree sexually.
I don't think a woman rode my face until I was in my 40's what a waste of life that was.
Now I look at a sexy woman and think man I would love to have her legs draped over my shoulders as I licked her pussy or her knees at my ears as she sits on my face riding it to orgasm

 

[cdstefi]

I'd have a word with myself, tell myself girls aren't timid and like sex and that in a couple of years you'll get a chance with one that you should not pass up because of nervousness, because she's sex on legs.

 

[Biguy77578]

I would tell myself to do all of the things that I have done… and to never doubt it because there is a reason and you will be able to forgive yourself.

I would tell myself to cherish the time with my wife more and treat her like a goddess, because she won’t survive that cancer.

I would tell myself not to rush into another relationship because you’ll be unhappy.

I would tell myself to always concentrate on being a good father because she will pay you back with unconditional love.

I would tell myself not to be afraid, because everything will turn out ok.

Thank you for asking.
x.

Well said.

 

[WhO2]

Some really good, insightful replies. Thanks for everyone who has responded so far. We're so curious about sex when we're young, but most of us have to 'learn it on the streets' and fumble along not knowing what we're doing. Some real education instead of all the dread and fear we get filled with early on would have been helpful.

 

[WhO2]

The first boobs I ever touched... i had my arm around her shoulder, let my hand drop down and graze her boob - she didn't object so I went inside her shirt and bra. It was amazing! A few minutes later she asked if I would kiss her. I'd only kissed one girl before then, and it was a disaster. I was afraid to try again. I've always thought if I'd been brave enough (or smart enough?) to say "i don't know how to - can you show me?" - how much more would have happened that night or that summer.

 

[notexactlymelville]

I would have worried a lot less about my body

 

[Hugo_Agogo_UK]

I’d have been less fixated on “doing it” and realised I was busy doing it.