If 18 year old you knew what you know now...

[WhO2]

Mrs. WhO2 was raised is an extended household with a whole crew of busy bodies telling her how to live every aspect of her life. As a result, she was very late to the world of sexual enjoyment. Luckily, as we explored those joys she became an enthusiastic practitioner.

I recently asked her that if 18 year old Mrs. WhO2 knew what grown Mrs. WhO2 knows, would she do things differently, and she enthusiastically said she would have much more sex.

Me personally, my earliest experiences were with long-time girl friends. I thought all girls wanted relationships first, and sex came later. As a result, I missed out on some fun short-term experiences early in college. If I could do it again I would want to know at a younger age that women enjoy 1nighters as well.

How about the rest of the Lit community- what would you do differently?

 

[BizTrav]

I would not have wasted so much time being hetero...

 

[14ALL]

I would have been much more transparent and forthcoming about what I wanted. My pick up line would have been something like, “Hi, I like having sex. What do you like to do?” And then I would just soak up the rejections until I find someone who it clicks with…. probably wouldn’t take too long. If some girl had said that to me in my youth, I would have wanted to explore that conversation.

 

[cdstefi]

Mrs. WhO2 was raised is an extended household with a whole crew of busy bodies telling her how to live every aspect of her life. As a result, she was very late to the world of sexual enjoyment. Luckily, as we explored those joys she became an enthusiastic practitioner.

I recently asked her that if 18 year old Mrs. WhO2 knew what grown Mrs. WhO2 knows, would she do things differently, and she enthusiastically said she would have much more sex.

Me personally, my earliest experiences were with long-time girl friends. I thought all girls wanted relationships first, and sex came later. As a result, I missed out on some fun short-term experiences early in college. If I could do it again I would want to know at a younger age that women enjoy 1nighters as well.

How about the rest of the Lit community- what would you do differently?

I'd tell myself not to put women on a pedestal or invest too much thought into how much I want that chick who's not really into me. Basically if I like them and am even a bit attracted, give it a go and see what happens, and if it doesn't, move swiftly on with no harm done.

I did way too much pedestal for too long

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I would not have done anything different, to be honest. Eighteen year old me had a steady girlfriend and we had sex every day -- often 2 or 3 times a day. We stayed together for 4 years, and if I would change anything it would have been ending that relationship a little sooner. By years 3 and 4 the magic was gone and we were just holding on to memories and a misplaced feeling that we were fated to be together. But that is a lesson for 20 year old me, not 18 y.o.

 

[OldGoodPup]

"IDIC: Infinite diversity in infinite combinations. Be bold. Be courageous. Explore and try everything. Make women happy and you will find happiness in that service."

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

18 y/o me was so confused. When I finally found a woman who entered into a long term sexual relationship with me, I married her at 19. I’d tell myself to relax, learn how to explore your own sexuality and how to learn to satisfy a partner. Don’t think that every intimate encounter is the “one”. However, full transparency, I’m still married to that lady but discovering who I am as a sexual being has been a challenge.

 

[HoldYouDown]

I wish I'd had a better idea what a hot piece of ass I was. A lot of girls obviously threw themselves at me but I didn't always catch on.

 

[Redshirteater]

I would tell him to dump the girl he's "in love" with and immediately find a woman who fucks. Geez!

 

[hulmule]

Know to take time, enjoy the ride to the destination. Exploring each others bodies. Maybe more older women so that could have mentor to give each other pleasure. I've always been sexual, started early. maybe a few other things.

 

[drobert44]

Be more open to gay stuff.

 

[tristianc]

That women have sexual desires even if they are virgins and that there is no such thing as waiting until later, take the opportunity for sex always.

 

[thighhiman]

Be more open to the many now obvious opportunities at a time when catching things would not kill you.

 

[Yesok1]

Be nicer to mum and dad.
Dont burn bridges.
Just go and ask girls out!
Go to gay clubs, bars and parties!
Tell your friends you're gay!
Try it on with your best friend, see what happens before she meets her husband.
Make gay friends.

 

[WhO2]

Be nicer to mum and dad.
Dont burn bridges.
Just go and ask girls out!
Go to gay clubs, bars and parties!
Tell your friends you're gay!
Try it on with your best friend, see what happens before she meets her husband.
Make gay friends.

Mrs. WhO2 played with a friend when she was early 30s and said she wanted more. In her early 20s she traveled with 2 friends who were pretty wild. I'm pretty sure she would have hooked up with at least one of them if she had a 18 year old do-over.

 

[WhO2]

I'd tell myself not to put women on a pedestal or invest too much thought into how much I want that chick who's not really into me. Basically if I like them and am even a bit attracted, give it a go and see what happens, and if it doesn't, move swiftly on with no harm done.

I did way too much pedestal for too long

I definitely agree here. I also put too many on a pedestal and would love to go back and not try to find 'the one' each time I asked someone out.

 

[Soccerfanpen21]

Being a bit different isn't a bad thing, not all traditions are good for everyone, be open to new things, be good to those you love regardless. Follow the dreams. Keep your eyes and heart wide open.

 

[sftopbottom]

first, Mr. Lancelot, don't marry that girl to rescue her from a bad situation.

As a man, being with a female sexually doesn't mean you need to lead the way, even though it may seem to you that they want to usually lay back and be serviced. This will confuse you for decades.

Wanting to lay back and be serviced sexually doesn't make you feminine or gay, or less of a man. Wanting to lead, and sometimes be passive is also confusing, and requires the right partners.

Trust your gut. You'll look back on life and be glad for many of the decisions you made to not do certain things.

Every guy in the barracks knew you were getting more than a massage from Ray.

Your wives will know where you hide the gay porn and sex toys.

when that black man who played with your dick at the park restroom invites you to his house to meet his roommates, say yes, or you'll always wonder "what if..."

second, when your gorgeous cousin tries to jump your bones, let her. you'll only regret it later in life it you don't (unless of course you don't use protection).

That hot married swinger couple are not just playthings. They are in a committed relationship. Don't fuck that up by over attaching. resist the urge to play with one of them at a time.

most women want sex just as much as most men.

she likes a tongue against her asshole too.

when orgasm is the goal, you're just getting off, not on. then again, we don't always need to have marathon sex sessions.

if she tells you she fantasizes about being gangbanged, admit to her that you actually want that for yourself, too.

if you think someone is attractive, tell them in the moment. a shocking number of people will come to you later in life and tell you they thought you were hot but never said anything for so many reasons.

if someone comes on to you, try not to act coquettish, naive or aloof...to mask your nervousness. Say thank you and show gratitude.

 

[AlwaysDancing]

There have been so many times when I didn’t enjoy a sexual tryst or even a sensual kiss in the name of being faithful. But those relationships were all so bad. What wa the point?

I would tell myself to get out of those relationships to fuck around and find out. Who knows, though. Might have just traded one bad relationship for another.

But I would’ve known.

 

[WhO2]

Some really good insights, sftopbottom. I especially like the one about women wanting sex as much as men. There were a couple of times in college where I tried to do the romantic thing and put off sex until the right moment. I realized later they wanted it then and not after multiple dates, dinner and roses.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I think life is full of experiences the prepare you for the next. I don’t think that me then would like what me now does. Also me now has the perfect partner, me then wouldn’t. Even with the potholes the journey has been fun.

 

[tabber]

I'd go and return that "Barney at the Circus" VHS I rented for my little brother from Blockbuster. I can't even imagine the late fees.

 

[FGB]

That is a Dangerous...Dangerous thing you ask.

My life as well as some others would be vastly different from what it is now that is for sure!

I don't know if i would still be alive today, but I would have had some serious entertainment, and some people would suffer some serious mind fuck.
The Motherfuckers!

 

[jenni_bean]

Hopefully I'd be able to tell the difference between a man who actually likes me and some asshole who just looking for quick fuck

 

[KaitlynW1993]

I wish I knew what I know now at that age. I feel as if I have wasted years of a shit sex life and living in a world where I could never just be me