I'd like to hear accounts from people who questioned their sexuality but realized they were straight

[FiveInch033]

I'm curious. We often hear about a person questioning their sexuality and realizing they are gay/lesbian/bisexual. What I'm interesting in hearing about are accounts of people questioning heir sexuality but realized they are straight.

Note: Keep the discussion to Gay/lesbian/BI and straight. Uninterested in hearing about pronouns and attention getting labels. If this sentence offended you move on.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I'm curious. We often hear about a person questioning their sexuality and realizing they are gay/lesbian/bisexual. What I'm interesting in hearing about are accounts of people questioning heir sexuality but realized they are straight.

Note: Keep the discussion to Gay/lesbian/BI and straight. Uninterested in hearing about pronouns and attention getting labels. If this sentence offended you move on.

What about people who questioned their sexuality and realised they were bi?

 

[FiveInch033]

What about people who questioned their sexuality and realised they were bi?

Not what I'm looking for. I'm sure they are interesting but I'm not sure it's the same. I'm curious of the opposite. Someone who questioned their sexuality and figured out they were straight. Or, they believed they were gay and realized they were straight. Just like when a person believes they are straight and then realizes they are gay. To assume it only happens the one way and not the other seems short sided to me. I'm interested what the experience is like for someone who "flips straight?" I don't know if there is a term for it.

Does that shock people? Do others get angry? Some get happy? Is it a process? Is it shocking to the person who's "flipping straight"? Interested in knowing what made a person feel they were gay then decided they weren't? Or what made a person realize being gay isn't for me. Do they have an "Experience" and go...no...that ain't for me. Just curious on what that process is like. I'm sure for some it was just difficult as someone coming to terms they were gay.

 

[MVP6]

I questioned my sexuality often when I was younger. But my desire for women and a family always made the path clear. Unless I was bi. After sucking a number of cocks I realized that I was reliving unresolved relationship issues. I now know my doubts were never the result of any orientation. I was never bi. Never attracted to men. Just interested in dicks because of need to “buy” friendship.

 

[Britva415]

To assume it only happens the one way and not the other seems short sided to me.

My first knee-jerk is to assume straight people don't question their sexuality in the first place.

This could be a vestige of pre-Millenial generation thinking though. Younger people on the whole are probably now less inhibited about experimenting, less needing to closet themselves, and just generally find the entire thing to be much lower stakes then previous generations who were objectively risking more by considering doing or being anything queer.

So maybe one of them could be in the position you're describing, or, maybe they're so open that either they never stop questioning, ever, or maybe they never even begin questioning in the first place, they just live a day at a time, go to bed with whoever, and don't get wound up about what it all means and are they really one way or the other or not.