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Would someone please tell me what the logic would be to the following story.
Single mom with kids intends to stay single til the kids are grown. Has done a great job of this and avoided dating just to avoid the possibility of meeting someone that might change her mind.
She screws up and lets her little sis introduce her to a guy. He is wonderful. Nice, polite, with manners every mom would love for her little girl. Does the entire door opening thing all the time. Always does the calling a few days in advance for the date. Asks to include the kiddos and even plans daytime outings with the kids too. Goes to church every Sunday and Wednesday and even took her kids to her church when she had to work one Sunday.
The relationship is going slowly. He fully understands her intent on being single for the kids and not having a man in her house. The few sexual encounters after six months are at his house when her kids are gone so they never know what mom is up to.
Then it gets strange. She has these gut feelings that something is not right. For whatever reason, she dismisses them because after all, there would never be any marriage with this, nor joint checking or cohabitation so why worry about those little things that bother her when after all, dinner a few nights a week is nice and so is the daily phone conversations with an adult who knows that although this is an exclusive relationship dating wise, the boundaries are expected to be held.
He is in the coast guard reserve at 37, and has been since he was 20. Does the one weekend a month and two weeks a year thing. Why a lie about that one? What would be the purpose?
His mother fell a week ago and is in the hospital. Now after his weekend duty at the reserves, he has to find her a rehab home for a few months.
He works odd jobs fixing things and remodeling for friends. That is why he is not always around in the evenings. He has to do this weekend thing every month but they are so kind to let him out early for church and let him come back late afterwards, provided of course he brings back the church bullentin to prove he was really there. He even was so lucky to get out of one weekend for a trip to Promise Keepers even though he is single and without children.
Their sex life has died since he has prostate cancer although he did not tell her, a friend of a friend did and when she asked early in the first month of dating, he did confirm he had it, but was being treated for it. Erections are not possible anymore even with the viagra and it is strange that he is posting ads on websites for strange sexual requests but surely there must be a good reason.
Now there is this impending surgery to remove it because of the unsuccessful treatment of it. But they can't seem to find a time to operate that will allow him to heal before his duty with the coast guard. Each week it is a different reason, no room available at the hospital, wants to do it in another part of the state so the guard doesn't find out, shortage of blood in the blood banks...
After all, should the coast guard find out, he would be discharged with only half the pension after 17 years.
So after the mother who is hospitalized answers her home phone and the nice man at the coast guard office confirms all her intuitions and tells her that the man is lying...
Why does she care?
Not that she will continue with him though, because she has always had those strange feelings about him from the second date. She just always dismissed it because as in the past, she was being accused by friends that she was just looking for reasons not to date. Even when she had decided a month or so ago to stop dating, she allowed him to calm her and slow down more so she would not bolt.
But now what does she do? Confront him and let him squirm while trying to explain? Although the explaination changes nothing, she is still done with him. Does she just block his calls and go on with life?
He has never asked for money, but then again, she would not offer it either, he owns his own home, while she rents a small apartment. She will not let him join her family and he seems content not to as well and has even a time or two said how much he enjoys being single even though he adores her and wants to be with her when she allows it.
But why all the lies for months and the weekends of making excuses when she has caught him home? And why the enormous lie about cancer and lack of erections when he is surely not ill and even seeking sexual relations with strangers off the internet?
As a woman, I think she has a right to confront and let him know he has been caught and see what motivation there was.
Any opinions on this long winded story?
Single mom with kids intends to stay single til the kids are grown. Has done a great job of this and avoided dating just to avoid the possibility of meeting someone that might change her mind.
She screws up and lets her little sis introduce her to a guy. He is wonderful. Nice, polite, with manners every mom would love for her little girl. Does the entire door opening thing all the time. Always does the calling a few days in advance for the date. Asks to include the kiddos and even plans daytime outings with the kids too. Goes to church every Sunday and Wednesday and even took her kids to her church when she had to work one Sunday.
The relationship is going slowly. He fully understands her intent on being single for the kids and not having a man in her house. The few sexual encounters after six months are at his house when her kids are gone so they never know what mom is up to.
Then it gets strange. She has these gut feelings that something is not right. For whatever reason, she dismisses them because after all, there would never be any marriage with this, nor joint checking or cohabitation so why worry about those little things that bother her when after all, dinner a few nights a week is nice and so is the daily phone conversations with an adult who knows that although this is an exclusive relationship dating wise, the boundaries are expected to be held.
He is in the coast guard reserve at 37, and has been since he was 20. Does the one weekend a month and two weeks a year thing. Why a lie about that one? What would be the purpose?
His mother fell a week ago and is in the hospital. Now after his weekend duty at the reserves, he has to find her a rehab home for a few months.
He works odd jobs fixing things and remodeling for friends. That is why he is not always around in the evenings. He has to do this weekend thing every month but they are so kind to let him out early for church and let him come back late afterwards, provided of course he brings back the church bullentin to prove he was really there. He even was so lucky to get out of one weekend for a trip to Promise Keepers even though he is single and without children.
Their sex life has died since he has prostate cancer although he did not tell her, a friend of a friend did and when she asked early in the first month of dating, he did confirm he had it, but was being treated for it. Erections are not possible anymore even with the viagra and it is strange that he is posting ads on websites for strange sexual requests but surely there must be a good reason.
Now there is this impending surgery to remove it because of the unsuccessful treatment of it. But they can't seem to find a time to operate that will allow him to heal before his duty with the coast guard. Each week it is a different reason, no room available at the hospital, wants to do it in another part of the state so the guard doesn't find out, shortage of blood in the blood banks...
After all, should the coast guard find out, he would be discharged with only half the pension after 17 years.
So after the mother who is hospitalized answers her home phone and the nice man at the coast guard office confirms all her intuitions and tells her that the man is lying...
Why does she care?
Not that she will continue with him though, because she has always had those strange feelings about him from the second date. She just always dismissed it because as in the past, she was being accused by friends that she was just looking for reasons not to date. Even when she had decided a month or so ago to stop dating, she allowed him to calm her and slow down more so she would not bolt.
But now what does she do? Confront him and let him squirm while trying to explain? Although the explaination changes nothing, she is still done with him. Does she just block his calls and go on with life?
He has never asked for money, but then again, she would not offer it either, he owns his own home, while she rents a small apartment. She will not let him join her family and he seems content not to as well and has even a time or two said how much he enjoys being single even though he adores her and wants to be with her when she allows it.
But why all the lies for months and the weekends of making excuses when she has caught him home? And why the enormous lie about cancer and lack of erections when he is surely not ill and even seeking sexual relations with strangers off the internet?
As a woman, I think she has a right to confront and let him know he has been caught and see what motivation there was.
Any opinions on this long winded story?
