I, um, need some advice, please

[SlipperyKitten]

I feel sorta silly about doing this but I am feeling sorta panicky and I am not sure what to do.

I called my mother tonight--she lives on the other side of the U.S. from me--to check on her. She has rather poor health and I have been nervous ever since my grandmother died over there last year. She has been diabetic since she was 8, has gastro paralysis of the digestive system and several other problems, partially due toneglecting her health to the present and due to drug abuse. She lost a kidney several years ago and has been have problems with the other one recently.

When I called her, she was sobbing almost uncontrollably but managed to say that she was sick and in pain due to her kidney. She says she knows it is failing and that she has to go to the hospital but she doesn't have the strength and she is too depressed. Her abusive boyfriend refuses to drive her to the hospital and her neighbors are friends of his so she can't as them. She refuses to ask her siblings or my grandfather since they are all fighting with each other. She says she can't afford to call an ambulence or a taxi. And she says she will go to the hospital later when she feels "better" but I don't think she will.

Anybody know anything I can do?

 

[Ms_Lilith]

call her a cab and charge it to your account?

 

[freakygirl]

Call the ambulance for her..

does she have insurance? Insurance will pay for the ambulance ride..

 

[Whizz Kid]

Fucking SAD that we have to PAY for an ambulance ride in a country this rich!

 

[Belilica]

First of all, I'm sorry... I know it's tough to deal with things like this, I couldn't imagine of my mom was across the country.

If it were me, I'd call her again, talk her through things, reassure her. I'd try to mke sure that no matter what she made it in to the hospital. You could perhaps offer to spring for the bill for the ambulance. It almost sounds like she needs to get rid of her BF if he's not willing to help her in her condition. If there's any way for you to visit her, it might help her, and you won't feel quite so helpless. If you have problems with your other family members, try to aviod them if you can. Your mom is the important one here, and I really hope she pulls through. Try to see if there's anything you can do to cheer her up at all. Try to motivate her. I really hope things work out. Good luck!

 

[saintly]

I am over herein australia so i don't know much about the services running in america.
We have here a large womens domestic abuse centre that she could contact and someone would pick her up. Maybe you can see if there is one like that over there.
the other one i would suggest, i have been told you don't have in america but here when on a low income we get a thing called a health care card that will give us free ambulance cover.

SAINTLY

 

[Mellon Collie]

What part of the country is she in?

 

[SlipperyKitten]

Thanks everyone, so much. I thought of calling a taxi for her but I have no money at all, seriously. My father won't help--he thinks my mother is faking it. I am calling her back tonight--I had to get off the phone because she was begging to lay down. She stubbonly refuses to go to the hospital everytime she needs to. I sorta think she is trying to kill herself again, or at least trying to let herself go so that she will die. She shouted at me that I shouldn't call an ambulence. She says she is paying so many medical bills and such that she can't cover it, even with her insurance. And she won't leave her boyfriend because she says she has nowhere else to go--she won't come her because she and my father hate each other. I would love to help her--I even offered her my kidney, but she refused it. I currently have no job, no savings or anything or else I would give it all to her. In fact, my savings did go to her and her drug habit long ago.

Thanks again everyone

 

[SlipperyKitten]

She lives in southern Arizona

 

[Mellon Collie]

Hmm, that's also the opposite side of the country from me.

I don't know what to suggest but good luck.