I think I may have gotten on my lover's nerves. Can someone give me some advice?

[Tigress84]

I met her about a week ago and we became on-line lovers and friends. I wanted to please her in every way that I could. Just thinking about her and thinking about the sexy things I would love to do to her turned me on. Like strawberries and whipped cream. Vibrators, the use of my fingers and tongue. But I think that I'm not pleasing her anymore. Does anyone have some advice for me? Cause I think that I rushed things, if ya get my meaning. I don't want to lose her as a friend and a lover. What should I do?

 

[Ambrosious]

If your lover was a dude, I would suggest a blow job, followed by pizza and beer.


I'm at a loss here.


Maybe a new pair of shoes?

 

[Laurel]

I agree with Ambrosious. Blow her, feed her beer & pizza, then take her shoe shopping.

 

[MissTaken]

Have you talked to her about this?

Perhaps it isn't you, perhaps she is just having a bad time of it in general.

There is no use fretting about someone else's feelings unless you have asked what they are.

I have done the same in real life. I become so eager to please, so eager for the future to unfold that my lover becomes a bit overwhelmed.

Good Luck,
Miss T

 

[Yoni]

I agree with Ambrosious. Blow her, feed her beer & pizza, then take her shoe shopping.

do remember..bright red spikey shoes are in vogue nowadays..uh huh

 

[Tigress84]

Thanks.

Thanks for the advice you guys. I'll try to talk to her about it. If she'll talk to me. Cause I decided to give her some room to breathe and stuff a few days ago. I haven't talked to her since then. What do you guys and girls think? I think that it might be over. I hope not.

 

[chewbacca71]

Any times that I have given a lover time to think things over after a problem, it only makes things worse. If you talk to them as soon as possible and explain how you feel, I would think it would go better. Good Luck

 

[riff]

Clueless.

I am the kind who panic. Just be yourself. I have to remind myself of this constantly.

 

[BlondGirl]

So you MET this person a week ago. And you have already given " her some room to breathe and stuff a few days ago. "

WTF??????!?!?!?

I would not consider this a lover at all--simply a slightly extended one night stand. If you are fucking AND having days of "space" within the first week of meeting, it is doubtful you can expect much.

How old are you?

 

[Tigress84]

Nerves

I thought that I was getting on her nerves, cause I'm horny 24/7 and she's not.

 

[KatPurrs]

Re: Nerves

I thought that I was getting on her nerves, cause I'm horny 24/7 and she's not.

Mismatched libidoes is an accident waiting to happen. Find yourself a horny little wench and fuck her brains out.

Kat~

 

[QuietHurricane]

a tough one

Tigress, maybe because it was too much too fast, she feels like there's nowhere to go from here. Or maybe she got what she wanted and the novelty is gone. If it's just about sex, she may have gotten her fill. If you like her, maybe you should cool it on the sexual front and let her get to know you in other ways. That way, she'll have an emotional connection with you and it won't be so easy to just walk away.

Good luck

 

[Eagle70]

Mismatched libidoes is an accident waiting to happen. Find yourself a horny little wench and fuck her brains out.

Kat, where exactly would one find a girl such as this? cause i've been looking for a while to no avail!!!

 

[Tigress84]

Horny

Kat, where exactly would one find a girl such as this? cause i've been looking for a while to no avail!!!

Actually, you're talking to one. Seriously.

 

[Eagle70]

haha, really tigress? wanna chat?

 

[BlondGirl]

3 or 4 days of fucking and the novelty has worn off?
Come on people. This is an absurd joke thread if I have ever seen one. There is no "relationship" here from what was described to us. It is a pair of people who maybe fucked for an extended weekend then apparently parted ways and one is saying, "Gee, maybe I can get other people to give me advice on this as if I had actually invested myself in this other person, instead of just investing in a box of condoms and fucking."

I met her about a week ago and we became on-line lovers and friends. One week ago. That is it. How well do you know someone in only a week? ESPECIALLY if you have taken part of that time to become "on-line lovers" and "friends"!?!?!?
I wanted to please her in every way that I could. So, you wanted to fuck her and make her cum, right?
Just thinking about her and thinking about the sexy things I would love to do to her turned me on. Like strawberries and whipped cream. Vibrators, the use of my fingers and tongue. So you wanted to get kinky right away, right? But you had never yet had oral sex with her or touched her with your hands--only dicked her? Did you actually meet or just cyber?
But I think that I'm not pleasing her anymore.How do you know you pleased her in the first place? I know I can pity-fuck someone and fake it for a few days. Hell, I can fake it for a year! Ask my ex. Oh wait...he still doesn't know...
Does anyone have some advice for me?Ummm... grow up? Get a real lover? Someone you actually know, for example.
Cause I think that I rushed things, if ya get my meaning. Yeah, I would expect that the term "rush" does sum this up.
I don't want to lose her as a friend and a lover. What should I do?Meeting a week ago and then fucking for 4 days and then ceasing to interract after that is hardly a description of friendship. Or lovers. Do you really mean that you don't want to lose the attention you got from her?

 

[Tigress84]

Hi.

E-mail me at tonilynn84@yahoo.com but I'm gonna go to sleep right now. See ya later.

 

[april-wine]

Re: Hi.

E-mail me at tonilynn84@yahoo.com but I'm gonna go to sleep right now. See ya later.

Wow, seems to have recovered quickly.......Back on that horse girl, now get to it...........

 

[April]

Ya ever look at the times people say they're going to bed? I do. Then I wonder where they are. Why is she going to bed at just after 5 in the afternoon? That's east coast time. Even earlier the farther west you go.

Maybe I'm just too suspicious.

 

[BlondGirl]

What is the average bedtime for children on the east coast?

What about naughty grounded children who sneak onto the internet from daddy's computer and get caught surfing porn sites?

 

[KatPurrs]

Re: Re: Nerves

Tigress84...I understand your gender. Like I said before:

Mismatched libidoes is an accident waiting to happen. Find yourself a horny little wench and fuck her brains out.

Kat~

Eagle70: What can I say? We're out here. Honest.


BlondGirl: "Invest in a box of condoms"? er....methinks you're a bit confused, sweets.

Kat~

 

[BlondGirl]

That is right--no vibes have been used yet right? No oral or touching either. So, what kind of sex does a lesbian have that does not involve the hands or the mouth that goes on for a few days and is desired 24-7? What exactly makes you assume this person even IS your lover?

(Sorry, I forgot about the whole condom thing, I tend to think of condoms as a requirement for damned near any sex play with a stranger. Of course, if you have never even touched the person, then I guess there is zero danger from body-fluid exchange, right? Silly me.)

 

[HotXBunz]

There is an old old joke about lesbians bringing U-Hauls on the first date. Unfortunately, like all stereotypes there are a bit of truth to them. Lesbians are notorious for rushing things. Does this make it healthy? No, just a by-product of the intense emotions we feel.

Tigress84, IMHO you have found someone you connected with on a very very physical level. This can cause some intense emotions. It sounds like you have locked on to someone who likes to take it slow. Think of how someone who likes cats would feel if a 140 pound, bounding, slobbering, drooling great dane decided to make them it's fav person. I am not implying you are a Dane, I am trying to get you to put yourself in her place and feel how uncomfortable that much attention can be to some people. It is suffocating, overwhelming and the instinct is to run even if it is a good thing.

Talk to her and find out what is going on. It may be something as basic as once she got to know you better she did not feel compatible. If this is the case cut your losses, count your blessings and follow the yellow brick road.

 

[Eagle70]

Hey Kat,
If you're out there, then why can i never find you!!

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I agree with Ambrosious. Blow her, feed her beer & pizza, then take her shoe shopping.

You have so just wooed me Laurel