I think I am bi/gay

[lickme26]

I have always thought women were sexier than me, I did the normal thing, got married, had kids. I am wanting to try touching and being touched by a women. I sure thatI want this experince so bad. I just don't know where to start. I don't do bars, I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions? I want this to be special.

 

[darkmaxter]

ok

 

[lickme26]

This is not my husbands thing, he would proably get mad at me, I approached him once about a 3way, ,myself another women and him, he got pissed off. This is what I feel I want, I would rather not involve him in it in any way. I really need and want to be loved by a women I just don't know where to start.

 

[Chicklet]

Okay here's my opinion:

You want a girl, but your hubby doesn't? That is bad. You have two options: 1) you can forget about it and keep your relationship going strong or 2) you can go behind his back. There's a third option, convince him to get involved in a threesome with you, but in my opinion men can be quite stubborn and threesomes can be quite bad for your relationship. Shameless plug here, check out the essay I wrote on the subject: Why They Don't Work

If you choose option two, I think you've started in the right place. Get involved in the Lit community and you're bound to meet a few friends. Make a few friends and you're bound to find someone willing to either play online, or play in person. Read some stories about the subject if you like, don't be afraid to send feedback to the author. I met one person through feedback, and she has come to visit me. I met another person through the boards who also came.

Believe it or not there are sites out there dedicated just to bisexual/lesbian women...I used to hang out on bewatched.net before they turned into a pay site - it wasn't a problem with the money, it was a problem with the fact that you MUST have a webcam to become a member and I simply didn't.

Well, that's my two cents.

-Chicklet

 

[Queersetti]

Okay here's my opinion:

You want a girl, but your hubby doesn't? That is bad. You have two options: 1) you can forget about it and keep your relationship going strong or 2) you can go behind his back. There's a third option, convince him to get involved in a threesome with you, but in my opinion men can be quite stubborn and threesomes can be quite bad for your relationship. Shameless plug here, check out the essay I wrote on the subject: Why They Don't Work

If you choose option two, I think you've started in the right place. Get involved in the Lit community and you're bound to meet a few friends. Make a few friends and you're bound to find someone willing to either play online, or play in person. Read some stories about the subject if you like, don't be afraid to send feedback to the author. I met one person through feedback, and she has come to visit me. I met another person through the boards who also came.

Believe it or not there are sites out there dedicated just to bisexual/lesbian women...I used to hang out on bewatched.net before they turned into a pay site - it wasn't a problem with the money, it was a problem with the fact that you MUST have a webcam to become a member and I simply didn't.

Well, that's my two cents.

-Chicklet

You left out the third option, which is to end the marriage so she can pursue her desires honestly.

Just out of curiosity, would you have given her the same advice if she wanted to have sex with another man, besides her husband?

 

[Chicklet]

You left out the third option, which is to end the marriage so she can pursue her desires honestly.

Just out of curiosity, would you have given her the same advice if she wanted to have sex with another man, besides her husband?

you're right about the third option...

and yes, same advice for a man or a woman.

edited to add that I'm confused about why I might have given her different advice...i just can't see the reasoning there. also, i think if she wanted to have a threesome with another man a typical husband would find that even more threatening than having a threesome with another woman.

 

[darkmaxter]

ok

 

[Queersetti]

you're right about the third option...

and yes, same advice for a man or a woman.

edited to add that I'm confused about why I might have given her different advice...i just can't see the reasoning there. also, i think if she wanted to have a threesome with another man a typical husband would find that even more threatening than having a threesome with another woman.

Because some people seem to have a double standard in regard to bisexuality, thinking that infidelity is somehow more ethically acceptable for bisexuals than it is for others. I was curious as to how you felt about that.

 

[Etoile]

Re: i will add

if lick were my girl .. i would jump at the chance for a 3some .. either way guy or girl ... sex is so much fun if ya can leave the jealousy and protectiveness out of it ... umm you could try lettin your husband just watch ... if he would go for that i am sure he would be so hot and join in ... he he ....

"Leave the jealousy and protectiveness out of it"? Easier said than done, my dear.

Chicklet's advice is is fantastic, I can't think of anything to add! WTG Chicklet!

Q, you're right on the double standard bit. I definitely agree.

 

[blissiam]

hi

Hi,at first i didn't know what to think of this place but the more I roam around the more knowledgeable I become except for my spelling. Wonderful topics.

 

[darkmaxter]

ok