I need help!!!

[bad_angel]

Ok heres the problem, I have just moved in with my b/f and have started having sex regularly. (I was a virgen befor this) I love to give head but I dont seem to be able to make him come without him having to take over at the last part and finshing himself off. I always catch it and swollow (yum yum) and he realy enjoys the 'clean up'. I just need some sugestions on going all the way. Please help me!!

 

[LadyJeanne]

Use your hand to stroke his penis at the same time that you're working on him with your mouth. Get into a steady rhythm and keep it up until he comes. If all else fails, slip a lubricated finger in his butt and tickle his prostate.

 

[bad_angel]

How do u keep a steady rythem??

 

[human_male]

Don't worry, it's common I think. There always seems to be a post like this rattling around. I think when it comes to actually blowing one's top one just needs a tighter grip on one's dick than a mouth can provide. That's all it is. I suggest jacking the base of the penis while sucking the head.

 

[bad_angel]

Thanks. Is it true that it feels good for a guy if u suck his balls?

 

[human_male]

I think that's a safe bet, yeah.

 

[human_male]

Use your hand to stroke his penis at the same time that you're working on him with your mouth. Get into a steady rhythm and keep it up until he comes. If all else fails, slip a lubricated finger in his butt and tickle his prostate.

You might not want to give him the finger up the butt without giving some warning first.

 

[bad_angel]

good point. could be a bit of a mood kill

 

[LadyJeanne]

How do u keep a steady rythem??

Well, you've got control, so find a pace that feels comfortable and don't vary it. Stay the same speed for a while. You can start out slow and work up to faster, but once you decide to make him come, settle on a speed and stick to it.

 

[LadyJeanne]

You might not want to give him the finger up the butt without giving some warning first.

Yeah, sorry. I assumed she'd know not to do that if they've never done it or talked about it before!

 

[Slowlane]

It’s hard for me to cum in a woman’s mouth. Maybe a mental block??? I also find it uncomfortable. It gets extremely sensitive when I come and the stimulation of having it sucked on just then is too much. I love head, but not to climax.

 

[Eilan]

Some men just can't do this for whatever reason. It doesn't mean there's a problem with either of you.

Doesn't mean that you can't have fun trying. Hokey as it sounds, sometimes it's about the journey and not the destination.

FWIW, if I were going to suck, lick, or caress a guy's balls, I'd ask first. Some men love this, but others don't.

 

[yoshimitsu]

If you have good comunication try all the different things you can imagine doing to his penis, have him tell you what he likes what he doesn't like and what he really likes.

 

[bad_angel]

It’s hard for me to cum in a woman’s mouth. Maybe a mental block??? I also find it uncomfortable. It gets extremely sensitive when I come and the stimulation of having it sucked on just then is too much. I love head, but not to climax.

Ok. I love when he comes in my mouth and he enjoys it to. Ive been reading up on deep throating and may give that a try tonight.

 

[Slowlane]

Good luck. Just don’t obsess with it. My wife used to do that sometimes, it gets in the way of the rest of the stuff. It's all good.

 

[mrtnmoon]

from my own personal experience, I usually don't cum from getting head. I've tried to figure out why this is.... I think the reason is masturbation. I don't get to be with my little buddy nearly as much as I'd like to, so most of my sexual release come from taking matters in hand.

when we do get some time together, she loves to go down on me and I love for her to do it. feels great. but, her movements tend to be a lot slower than what I'm used to when I'm playing with myself, so I usually don't cum unless it's been days and days since I've gotten off and I'm super horny.
it'd be nice to cum just from getting head, but I'm used to finishing myself off and cumming in her mouth. she loves to swallow it. I got no complaints.

 

[bad_angel]

her movements tend to be a lot slower than what I'm used to when I'm playing with myself, so I usually don't cum unless it's been days and days since I've gotten off and I'm super horny.
it'd be nice to cum just from getting head, but I'm used to finishing myself off and cumming in her mouth. she loves to swallow it. I got no complaints.[/QUOTE]


Oh thank you, Thank you, Thank you! So its not that Im just a realy bad cock sucker. *kisses you*
You have saved my self asteem!

 

[mrtnmoon]

Oh thank you, Thank you, Thank you! So its not that Im just a realy bad cock sucker. *kisses you*
You have saved my self asteem!

you're very welcome, angel. glad I could help your self esteem. I've seen questions similar to yours but I don't remember if I've ever chimed in before. I'd be willing to bet that most of the time a guy can't cum from head alone it's a similar type of situation to what I explained about myself and no reason for you to question your skills. I always tell my friend she's a great little cocksucker, and I bet you are, too

 

[Just-Fred]

stick two well lubed fingers deep into his ass as you suck

 

[Eilan]

stick two well lubed fingers deep into his ass as you suck

So if he's never experienced this before, how does one go about peeling him off the ceiling?

 

[tron]

Two things:

1. Ask him if you can watch him masturbate... or make a night of it… let him watch you and you watch him… you could learn a lot from watching what he does to make himself cum.

2. Tell him that you love it when he cums in your mouth... he may think that you don't like doing it and are only sucking his dick out of some preconceived notion that you are required too. I have a friend who had put women on such a pedestal that he thought they should not be degraded to the level of blow jobs... or even sex for that matter... (I'm glad to say that he has over come that idea... though it took a good woman to set him strait...)

I’m the Male version of Tron

(see my other posts for the reasons of this tagline... crazy people with the hate.... ;-)

 

[bad_angel]

My thought exactly

 

[bad_angel]

2. Tell him that you love it when he cums in your mouth... he may think that you don't like doing it and are only sucking his dick out of some preconceived notion that you are required too. I have a friend who had put women on such a pedestal that he thought they should not be degraded to the level of blow jobs... or even sex for that matter... (I'm glad to say that he has over come that idea... though it took a good woman to set him strait...)

ok he deffinatly knows i like giving b/js and and the taste of his come. (the moans and licking of lips may have clued him in.)

Its just geting it to the 'money shot' thats the problem.

 

[tron]

then I think we might be back to watching him do it on his own. Maybe he has a specific rhythm that he likes, or maybe he hold his hand(s) in a "just so" way.

Have you talked to him about this at all?

 

[bad_angel]

I dont realy no how to talk about that. I dont seem to be able to keep a rhythem ether. any tips?