I have the coolest Mom in the world.

[Starfish]

Okay, well, about my current situation:

I was talking to my Mom yesterday, and I told her about my major software design project coming up and I told her how excited I was. Well, the amazingly understanding, considerate woman that she is, went and ordered me a scanner pen, that is pretty fucking pricy, so I don't have to sit and type up my gobs and gobs of information onto the computer. She is saving me many hours of tedious work.


In general, she is cool because she smoked pot in the day, had an interracial relationship in the 50's when it was totally taboo, but because of it, I have a brother out there, that I've never met. (wouldn't it be weird if Marxist was my brother)

She has always been there for me. She is sexually openminded, and she is really hip in general. She says "fuck" when needed. She is spunky. She is 60 somthing, and acts like she's twenty, when she isn't dead tired, and then she just acts like she's 40.
She is really, really intelligent, and knows so much stuff about life in general.


Do you love your Mom? Isn't she the best?

Tell us about your Mom.

 

[Marxist]

That is very cool Starfish.

Now tell mom to get back in the kitchen and make me a bean pie. I'm hungry!

 

[Rubyfruit]

Fishie,

Your mom sounds so wonderful!

I LOVE my mom. She is the best. She never gives me unsolicited advice about raising my kids. She is always there when I need a shoulder to cry on. She is my rock in life. I don't know what I'd do without her and I miss living in the same town with her so much.

She also comes to visit on nearly every holiday weekend. I appreciate her giving her time to me and my family like that. She is generous to a fault. She basically outfitted the kids in shoes and clothes this winter.

She has always been there for me, supporting my decisions and different paths in life. While she may not have been extremely understanding about the diversion into lesbianism I took, she accepted it and has since become very open minded about such things.

I love my mom!!!!!

 

[Starfish]

That is so cool Ruby. It is so hard for mothers not to try to give advice, but it is rare for it to come across as that. It always seems like 'dissaproval' if it comes from mom, and you didn't ask for it, so that is good that she is so chill about it.

Marc, I think that Mom said.... "Fuck you. Make your own bean pie." but I couldn't tell for sure, because of the muffled sound of Dad's panting and banging of her puss.

 

[freakygirl]

Honest truth... my mom's a bitch... and us kids made her that way.. but hey.. she's my mom.. and I love her.. but it doesn't change the fact that she's a bitch

Butts into my business.. looks down on me and my brother.. looks down on how I raise my kids.. gives advice that is so outdated it isn't funny.. she's mental and takes it out on me.

I hope I don't grow up just like her...

 

[lilminx]

WTF?

 

[lilminx]

Starfish, that's wonderful -you too, Ruby. I consider myself fortunate to have the mom that I have.


She wasn't fortunate to have all of the opportunities afforded to me, but she always urged me to take them. She wants for me the life she wasn't able to have. I was the first on her side to go to college, and although her and my stepdad didn't have much money, they busted their asses to help me out whenever they could.
I know my mom is so proud of my accomplishments (sometimes I don't feel like I have many, but she reminds me). She brags to everyone about how I'm a teacher and soon getting my Master's degree- lol.
My mom smokes like a chimney (which I hate, but not my decision), curses a blue streak, and speaks her mond, She can be a total bitch, but underneath her rough exterior is a heart made of gold). She constantly buys things for my students and hunts things that she can give to me for my classroom. She also went out clothes shopping for a child in my class who she knew didn't have money to buy clothes.

No matter what I do, she is supportive. I'm not sure if I ever want to get married- she's cool. i'm not sure if I ever want to have kids- cool as well. I'm thinking of taking a year off from teaching (I swear, the kids can really burn one out- especially kids with various disabilities!), bartending full-time and just finishing my Master's. She actually thinks that it's a good idea. She wants me to do whatever makes me happy, and I think that's most important of all.

 

[Phoenyx]

My mom can be a and us kids made her that way.
Butts into my business. Gives advice that is so outdated it isn't funny. Some times it seems she's mental and takes it out on me.
She has ideas about how I should live my life, and tells me when she thinks its not right. Put me down when I was younger and insulted me.... If I could do it gain I would not change a thing...

Because of the way she was it helped mold me into the self confident, educated man I am today. I was stubborn and thought to myself " I'll show you...mom"

But with all her faults she has also done so much good for me that it has in my opinion counteracted the bad...

 

[teresafannin]

My mom is great. We weren't real close when I was young, but when I really needed a place to stay when I was pregnant, broke & single, her door was wide open. When money is tight for any one of us, she is there to help. She is the world's greatest grandma & puts her family before anything else. She hasn't always agreed with our decisions, but she is there to give moral support & very rarely says "I told you so".

 

[Nogard]

MOM

One of these days she'll be gone and you won't be able to go back and say I Love You and thank you. Better do it while you have a chance. They, for the most part, aren't that bad.

 

[girl]

My mom's amazing. She does have her faults, but mostly she's really cool. She sends my brother care packages every few weeks (he's stationed on a ship Over There), she helped my sister throw together a fabulous wedding in 5 weeks, she's bent over backwards helping me plan my long-distance wedding. She's just really really cool.



I don't know what I'd do without her.

I love you Mom!
(Just in case she's reading! LOL)


girl

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: MOM

One of these days she'll be gone and you won't be able to go back and say I Love You and thank you. Better do it while you have a chance. They, for the most part, aren't that bad.

I couldn't agree more. Time is short.

Parents. They raised you the best they knew how - even if they made mistakes (wait until you're a parent to see if you can be perfect).

Mistakes aside, yes even big ones (I've forgiven some awful ones), they are your mom and dad and one day they will be old and one day the will be gone.

Love them now.

While you can.

 

[freakygirl]

Re: Re: MOM

I couldn't agree more. Time is short.

Parents. They raised you the best they knew how - even if they made mistakes (wait until you're a parent to see if you can be perfect).

Mistakes aside, yes even big ones (I've forgiven some awful ones), they are your mom and dad and one day they will be old and one day the will be gone.

Love them now.

While you can.

Oh I love my mom.. but even she agrees... she's a bitch.. she says she raised three kids.. lived thru the bullshit we put her through.. and has every right to be a bitch now.

I complain about my mother.. and I know she won't be around much longer.. She knows I love her and I know she loves me.

Would I be here if I didn't love her?? Probably not.. this was a choice I made.. I gave up MY home and moved to hers.. to help her.. I'd like to have my own home again.. but I don't see that happening any time soon..

 

[seXieleXie]

i've been thinking about my mom a lot lately.

my mom isn't around much any more. these days another woman is impersonating her. after a couple drinks my mom dissapears and this other person emerges. i don't like this other person, but i love my mom.

my mom is the woman who read the chronicals of narnia and the wizard of oz books to me until they fell apart from so much use. the one who would burst into song at the drop of a hat. the one who knew when i had a bad day just by the way my footsteps sounded on the stairs.

i miss my mom, but i can't stand the lady who pretends to be her.

 

[ksmybuttons]

My Mom.

She was a wonderful woman. She had all these little sayings:
"You do the best you can with the light you have at the time."
"Lice, it's not a sin if you get 'em, only if you keep 'em."
"Ham is just pig butt."

She was bawdy and irreverant at times. She had some of the best jokes.

She never teased me, always loved me. I could tell her anything. She gave me the emotional support to grow and to be on my own. She taught me to take responsibility for me. She was the first feminist I ever knew.

I miss her. She didn't live long enough to meet my son. There are so many things I wish I could share with her, particularly the joy in having him and seeing her in him.

But she lives on. I hear her when I laugh at jokes and every day, when I look in the mirror, I find I look more and more like her.

That really isn't a bad thing at all.

 

[lobito]

Maybe this is stating the obvious, but I didn't see anyone else say this either...

If it wasn't for Mom's none of us would be here thanking them right now.

I tell my Mom I love her all the time, to be honest I tell my Papi the same thing, when I talk to him. The difference is that Mom is close, and Papi's 3000 miles away. I can see Mom in 5 minutes if I want to. It take 7 hours to fly to see Papi.

They both have supported me in ANY decisions I've made in my life, ALWAYS been there for me.

Right now I have a family situation with my Fathers "new family", that I'm trying desperately to get resolved, and fortunately Papi is a big enough man to take advice from his eldest son, to rectify the problem.

I love them both, and the day they are gone, will be the sadest days of my life.

Lexie - My father is the same way, hang in there ok? If you ever want to talk, you know how to get ahold of me kiddo.

 

[patient1]

i've been thinking about my mom a lot lately.

my mom isn't around much any more. these days another woman is impersonating her. after a couple drinks my mom dissapears and this other person emerges. i don't like this other person, but i love my mom.

my mom is the woman who read the chronicals of narnia and the wizard of oz books to me until they fell apart from so much use. the one who would burst into song at the drop of a hat. the one who knew when i had a bad day just by the way my footsteps sounded on the stairs.

i miss my mom, but i can't stand the lady who pretends to be her.

How sad. I'm really sorry. I don't know what else to say.


It might be a good idea to write down a detailed description of your mom. You might be glad you have it at a later date, should people only know the imposter, to use as bed time stories for your kids or as a eulogy.

If not, You can always use it in a mother's day card. But at least you won't look back & say "I wish"


Just a thought. I was looking for a way for you to regain some control over a difficult situation.

 

[foxxxyred]

I lost my mum when i was 7 (my brother was 5). While i remember many things about her, there is so much i have forgotten and so much i never learnt about her. I can't help but wonder how i would have turned out if i had grown up with my mum around. Having said that i think my dad did a great job

Still today, tears come so easily, just at the mention of her name or hearing a story of something she said or did.

It was hard going through adolesence without her there; being the only girl without a mum to sew her ballet costumes, not having a female there when i first got my period or when i went to my Year 12 formal.

In a way i have no comprehension of what it is like to have a mother-daughter relationship. I hope i'm around long enough to see my children grow up. Oh yea i better have some children first!

It's nice hearing of people who appreciate their mums

 

[seXieleXie]

How sad. I'm really sorry. I don't know what else to say.


It might be a good idea to write down a detailed description of your mom. You might be glad you have it at a later date, should people only know the imposter, to use as bed time stories for your kids or as a eulogy.

If not, You can always use it in a mother's day card. But at least you won't look back & say "I wish"


Just a thought. I was looking for a way for you to regain some control over a difficult situation.

thanks patient1. i actually told her this before i left for school last august. i wrote her a letter about how much i missed the person she is when she's sober. nothing came of that though.

my mom has done some amazing things in her life. my grandmother offered to give her a trip to europe if she didn't marry my father. she refused and married him anyway. she graduated college in three years. i just wish i could see more of that person now, instead of the bitter, hurt and spiteful person i spent the last month around.

 

[patient1]

I may not have a job interview...

But I do have to travel to a meeting in the morning.

Good night everyone.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Threads like this are hard for me to respond to, but here goes.

I have a mother, not a mom. My mother looks like an older version of me, with a few variations, however, that is the only thing that reminds me she is my mother instead of a housemate. I'm not saying that my mother is not a good person, or even a nice one, in fact, she can be one of the nicest people on earth. When it suits her.

My mother had me when she was 38, after quite a few lost pregnacies. I was an afterthought to an already blooming career, and a fairly friendly marriage. She never really wanted a child to be a mother, she had the attitude that if a child would prove to the world she could handle it all, she was going to have a child. My father, while I love the man dearly, is not exactly what you would call the ideal mate, or father. My mother therefor put me in day care from an early age, and packed a schedual for me. She was rarely home when I was awake, or even at home, and if she was, it was either because she was ill, or because she needed to work someplace other than her office to cut down on interuptions.

When I was about 12, I started to rebel, not wanting to take french, not wanting to take the manners class (I won on the first one, lost on the second one) and then I broke my leg. I wasn't able to participate in the outdoor sports/ activities that she had planned into my day, and I was in a cast for 6 months. At that age, I also got diagnosed for depression, anxiety, and ADD. When, about 2 months after all of this had happened, I confessed to my mother I did not believe in the Catholic church, it was a blow that set my mother off. I was screamed at, hauled to a priest, screamed at again, scorned, begged, and all but wrung through to get me back on track. She saw all of this as an insult to her. I had been born so she could prove to the world she was a good mother, and I wasn't living up to my end of the bargain. My mother and I have never really gotten along since the day I started to assert myself as a person, and we probably never will. We have an uneasy peace at times, all out war at others, but in the end it comes down to the fact that I have a Mother, not a Mom.

 

[Guest]

I would not be where I am in the business world if my Mum had not taught me how to be tough and stand up to the 'old boys network". Even though she was a stay at home Mum herself, with the **** she married she showed me what it was like to be a strong person who takes no shit, while still having a heart around to love others.

She taught me never to 'never judge a book by its cover' and 'what comes round, goes round'.

She is a close friend who offers advice when needed but does not get offended if i don't follow it. She showed my daughter how to knit last week, I took a photo of that loving sharing moment.

I buy her flowers about once a month. I few years ago I entered her in a "Great Mum Contest"... she won!!!

She is one of those people who knows the sports scores and has a fav rugby team and plays a mean game of 500, but then she also has elegance to attend a social occasion with all the grace needed to charm all in her gown and gloves.

I thank her for handing me the jeans that contained blue eyes, long slim legs and a pert butt She is near 70 now and she still has them herself.....

Love you Mum... always have, always will

 

[T.H. Oughts]

That was my post

I would not be where I am in the business world if my Mum had not taught me how to be tough and stand up to the 'old boys network". Even though she was a stay at home Mum herself, with the **** she married she showed me what it was like to be a strong person who takes no shit, while still having a heart around to love others.

She taught me never to 'never judge a book by its cover' and 'what comes round, goes round'.

She is a close friend who offers advice when needed but does not get offended if i don't follow it. She showed my daughter how to knit last week, I took a photo of that loving sharing moment.

I buy her flowers about once a month. I few years ago I entered her in a "Great Mum Contest"... she won!!!

She is one of those people who knows the sports scores and has a fav rugby team and plays a mean game of 500, but then she also has elegance to attend a social occasion with all the grace needed to charm all in her gown and gloves.

I thank her for handing me the jeans that contained blue eyes, long slim legs and a pert butt She is near 70 now and she still has them herself.....

Love you Mum... always have, always will

 

[Merelan]

Starfish, unless you are my sister, which I sometimes wonder....
I have to beg to differ on the coolest Mom bit. My Mommy is the coolest Mom. In so many ways I cannot even begin to tell you. But I tell her, and everyone I mention her too. How very lucky I am she is My Mommy.
Yep, she smoked pot, had an interacial affair, no brother.. I think... never asked. Went wild, grew up, art degree while raising 8 kids, all kinds of cool things.
But the coolest, absolutely wonderful thing? She loves me. No matter what I have doone and said, no matter how long I go without calling, no matter how badly I have fucked up. She loved me. Never, ever, did I doubt that.
Even when she said no to me, which wasn't often, she loved me. I tell her now how incredifucking lucky I am to have her as My Mom. I was not an easy child to raise, it was not an easy life to adapt too. But she did it. Even now, she is in a wheelchair most the time, she still tools around. If you see a crazy lady in a wheelchair, a decorated one for the various seasons and her moods, watch out, she is liable to run you down.

I love you Mommy.

I write that in case she reads this, which knowing my Mom, isn't so far off as you think.

 

[batter]

i love my mother. she has a heart of gold and would help us out with whatever she can if she can find a way.
she is 75 and is bullheaded at times. she also hands out information that is outdated but, hey, it worked in her day. she wouldnt be a mom otherwise.
she can be a pain in the ass at times or get us pissed off at her comments about things and the next time, she is pure gold.
she has been battling cancer for the last 12 years and only lost her one breast a few years ago. i realize she had a rough childhood being raised in different homes and orphanages, which is probably why she is like she is.
she still picks on me about getting a haircut and the old "when are you going to shave" stuff even when we are out in public.
i just shake my head and tell her," i am 47. you think i could do what i want to do by now." that usually shuts her up.
all in all, i know she can be a pain, but yeah, i love her and i do give her a big hug everytime i see her which is pretty often cause she just lives up the street from us.