I HAVE FOUND BY TRUE LOVE

[ericred50]

I HAVE FOUND MY TRUE LOVE

One day while surfing from room to room in Literotica Chat rooms, a person said Hello to me. Now because of the name that this person had, I would not normally have responded, but we talked. I was able to help this lady with some information, we exchanged addresses. We emailed each other and have since talked for hours, every day for weeks and we became lovers.

I am married have been for 35 years to the same woman, but I seem to have known my lover, my Gina, since I was born. We are sole mates, best friends and she loves me and I love her. She has taken my name as her UserName. I never went looking for somebody, it just happened, do you believe in fate?

 

[Cheyenne]

Congratulations.

I couldn't help but notice the irony in your signature line though: "Honour and Truth at all times." Does your wife know?

 

[Ambrosious]

Cheyenne beat me to it

Your poor wife. You still married?

 

[Angel]

Someday when and if I get married, I am throwing out the computer.

 

[WriterDom]

Is this a "cyber" love or have you actually met the woman? I wonder if she'd have the same enchantment if she had to wash your dirty underwear for 35 years and listen to you snore every night.

 

[Cheyenne]

Is this a "cyber" love or have you actually met the woman?

Good question. I read "we became lovers" as it happening in RL, but maybe not? Maybe he meant cybering?

If he hasn't really met her, then we are back to the same old question- if it exists only in the cyberworld, is it "real" and is it really cheating on your spouse?

 

[Mistress]

Smiles warmly

It can happen....

 

[Cheyenne]

Smiles warmly

It can happen....

Is the "warm smile" because you believe in fate? Because he found his true love? Because he is cheating on his wife in RL? Because he is not cheating on his wife in the cyberworld, he is just playing? Or is he?

 

[Ambrosious]

Cheyenne

Now I have a headache...

 

[DarlingBri]

You know...

People get married, but that doesn't mean they stop growing, and indeed, changing.

I personally don't think that Eric should have to sacrifice his happiness to his marriage. None of us have any idea of the circumstances, and are being awfully hasty to rush to snide judgement.

When it happens to you, and you ahve to tussle with some of the most difficult questions you will ever face - from yourself, friends, family and children - then you can come back here and speak from experience.

In the meantime, Eric has come to share something wonderful that happened in *his* life with other Literotica members.


Life doesn't give you gifts every day. I for one congratulate you on finding happiness, Eric, and for being brave enough to grab it.

 

[Kuddles]

Re: I HAVE FOUND MY TRUE LOVE

One day while surfing from room to room in Literotica Chat rooms, a person said Hello to me. Now because of the name that this person had, I would not normally have responded, but we talked. I was able to help this lady with some information, we exchanged addresses. We emailed each other and have since talked for hours, every day for weeks and we became lovers.

I am married have been for 35 years to the same woman, but I seem to have known my lover, my Gina, since I was born. We are sole mates, best friends and she loves me and I love her. She has taken my name as her UserName. I never went looking for somebody, it just happened, do you believe in fate?

Are you totally sure what you are feeling is love? You haven't mentioned whether or not you became RL lovers or Cyber lovers...there is a difference. If you two are cyberlovers then you may be feeling love for this person that I would never dispute but, is she holding more specialness for you because she isn't there in RL to remind you of things you are responsible for...you can forget about RL worries and troubles. If you are real life lovers then before you turn your world upside down and tell your wife maybe you should get counselling and delve into your feelings and see if this is what you really want. JMHO

You see I speak from experience...I too came to this board last year with no thoughts of seeking any one individual out. This was just a place to have fun and interact with a bunch of people and share. My husband was aware I was on the board and I would share different posts that I thought was funny and he too thought they were funny. Then...without warning I responded to someone...there was a connection that was indescribable! And in sharing different life experiences we had soooo much in common and were soulmates. Now I have been married for 13 years and I was happy although, I had been fighting major depression for about 8 of those 13 years. We had grown apart and I hadn't realized it but nevertheless, I started becoming secretive about my posting. I no longer shared what I did on the board with my husband. Even though this is a long assed post I am leaving out a lot of details otherwise, it would be a journal. To get to the point my husband went to use the computer while I went to get some water and he hit the back button the computer and stumbled on one of my e-mails to the person I had connected with. He didn't confront me at that moment...he let it go for a month hoping I would stop....I didn't....I knew I should but I couldn't stop...a month later when he realized I was coming nowhere close to ending the relationship he confronted me. It was on our anniversary...that was the darkest day of my life! It was at that moment when reality slammed in my face...I fully realized what devistation I had done to this man...and my husband is a really wonderful guy! I realized that I did love him...but...he couldn't forgive me! He saw no difference between RL lovers and cyber lovers...cheating is cheating. And I have to agree. Never in a million years would I have ever believed that I would be capable of doing this but....alas...I did. I am now in therapy and am learning to heal and forgive myself. But, our marriage is broken beyond repair and our divorce will be final in June. We have been able to remain friends. But, it feels like a death in the family. If I could roll back the clock....I would not repeat this horrid mistake.

I am not saying that you don't love this person...you probably do...but...ask yourself is it worth all the turmoil and devistation that it will cause your spouse and family. Is it worth turning your life upside down. Because, it will be until all the dust dies down. How will you feel when your wife looks at you with total pain and disbelief...trust me it doesn't feel good knowing that you are the reason for the pain in those eyes!

To answer your question yes I do believe that love can come along without looking for it but, acting on it is something you really need to take into long detailed consideration. Weigh all those pro's and con's and be honest....don't just look at it with rose colored glasses.

I am not trying to rain on your parade but...I have just spilt my guts to you. Hopefully, my post will help you in making your decision.

I wish you the best!

P.S. please forgive grammatical errors as I was not checking myself for errors! The message is there!

 

[DarlingBri]

Dreamwearver Gal...

Now, that is a post worth reading. I'm sorry you ended up in such a bad situation, but I applaud the fact that you are brave enough to speak out from personal experience, and yet are not being judgemental about Eric's news.

I applaud your attitude and balanced view. I hope things work out for you

--Bri

 

[ericred50]

I welcome your comments, we all have our opinions, but most of you do not know me, or my circumstances. To put the record straight, I do not sleep with my wife, have not for 6 years. I do my own and her washing when necessary. I clean the house, tidy the garden, I do the shopping, I'm not allowed to iron, but will if I have to and I can cook. She has difficulty moving around,is at home all day, drinks, is bad tempered,three time my weight, has lost several of her friends, but as an heart of gold, has no family and if I left her she would have nobody. Could you live with somebody who gave you nothing in return? Love takes many different forms, the one that I have found is stong and wonderful something I have not experienced in my life before. Sex is not everything in a relationship. My friend knows that. I have been unhappy for sometime without knowing it, I was not looking for anybody, it just happened for both of us.
I was making a declaration of my love for Gina, I wanted you all to know, and I have my wifes permision she trusts me. I do live up to my motto.

How many of you tell your husbands or wifes what you get up to, or are you all single, divorced or widowed. Come on people time to get up and be counted, Im honest, and I am what I say I am, are you?

 

[Kuddles]

I welcome your comments, we all have our opinions, but most of you do not know me, or my circumstances. To put the record straight, I do not sleep with my wife, have not for 6 years. I do my own and her washing when necessary. I clean the house, tidy the garden, I do the shopping, I'm not allowed to iron, but will if I have to and I can cook. She has difficulty moving around,is at home all day, drinks, is bad tempered,three time my weight, has lost several of her friends, but as an heart of gold, has no family and if I left her she would have nobody. Could you live with somebody who gave you nothing in return? Love takes many different forms, the one that I have found is stong and wonderful something I have not experienced in my life before. Sex is not everything in a relationship. My friend knows that. I have been unhappy for sometime without knowing it, I was not looking for anybody, it just happened for both of us.
I was making a declaration of my love for Gina, I wanted you all to know, and I have my wifes permision she trusts me. I do live up to my motto.

How many of you tell your husbands or wifes what you get up to, or are you all single, divorced or widowed. Come on people time to get up and be counted, Im honest, and I am what I say I am, are you?

Well, under those circumstances I would say you can't have a one sided relationship. But, my response was based on your first post and nothing in there led to my believing your relationship was a bad one. My opinion posted stays valid for most situations. And it sounds to me that you have every reason to move on. I would probably have trouble staying in a relationship that you have just described with your wife. So, Ericred my hat is off to you.

As I said before and I still mean it I wish you well! I am glad you have found love!

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: You know...

When it happens to you, and you ahve to tussle with some of the most difficult questions you will ever face - from yourself, friends, family and children - then you can come back here and speak from experience.

I am speaking from experience, and a broken heart.

Is it okay for me to give my opinion now? Would that be alright with you?

 

[Juspar Emvan]

First.
Eric, congratulations man, I wish all the very for you both.


Second.
Ouch people!

The man has just preofessed something heartfelt and profound. The least some of you could do is be a little more tactful. I'm not talking raging launatic optimism here, just tone it down a bit eh?

 

[DarlingBri]

Cheyenne...

While I still agree with what Juspar has said, and wouldn't want to rain on someone's parade, I do apologise for offending you.

I missed that until your other post. I'm sorry I did not get here earlier.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Cheyenne...

While I still agree with what Juspar has said, and wouldn't want to rain on someone's parade, I do apologise for offending you.

I missed that until your other post. I'm sorry I did not get here earlier.

Thank you.

 

[pattsY]

my true loveby ericred50

ericred50
i am truly blessed to have you in my life and quite frankly proud.
i am honored to be your sole mate.Hopefully one day to be together if the fates declare it so. what we have online isn't so strange many people would love to have it. i think perhaps they may be jealous.maybe one day they too will find the kind of relationship that you and i possess. Until we meet my love.My heart is yours.
love your gina.