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I have a friend that I don't know how to help. I'm hoping someone here can give me some insight, because this just baffles me.
I'll start with the financial problem. She's in a dead-end job, and laments that if she could afford to go back to school, she could finally get her dream job. She can't afford to go back to school, however, because she's $125 dollars/month short on the tuition payments (after factoring in loans, grants, etc.). In the next breath, she tells me that she just spent $150 for an ionic breeze machine. And right now she's out shopping for cloth to reupholster her outdoor furniture. For the deck that's not yet constructed. In the yard that's half finished.
She spends money like most people breathe. She owes another friend $1,500 and her psychiatrist $2,000 (on top of all the standard bills). She's clinically depressed and already on medication. She's been seeing pychiatrists for almost two decades now, and tried every anti-depressant short of lithium, but she seems to be getting worse. She's increasingly late for things because she said the clock just doesn't matter.
We both know that she shops because it makes her feel better in the short term, which in turn makes her feel worse in the long term. Whenever I try to get her to confront that fact and stop wasting money, she gets defensive and sullen.
It is just so overwhelming seeing my friend like this. What on earth can be done?
I'll start with the financial problem. She's in a dead-end job, and laments that if she could afford to go back to school, she could finally get her dream job. She can't afford to go back to school, however, because she's $125 dollars/month short on the tuition payments (after factoring in loans, grants, etc.). In the next breath, she tells me that she just spent $150 for an ionic breeze machine. And right now she's out shopping for cloth to reupholster her outdoor furniture. For the deck that's not yet constructed. In the yard that's half finished.
She spends money like most people breathe. She owes another friend $1,500 and her psychiatrist $2,000 (on top of all the standard bills). She's clinically depressed and already on medication. She's been seeing pychiatrists for almost two decades now, and tried every anti-depressant short of lithium, but she seems to be getting worse. She's increasingly late for things because she said the clock just doesn't matter.
We both know that she shops because it makes her feel better in the short term, which in turn makes her feel worse in the long term. Whenever I try to get her to confront that fact and stop wasting money, she gets defensive and sullen.
It is just so overwhelming seeing my friend like this. What on earth can be done?
