How would you feel if a close friend started seeing your ex

[smtst5]

My college roommate and ex college girlfriend got married. We no longer speak

 

[Yesok1]

My friends are straight. Not going to happen.

When I was straight I never had boyfriends, I'd fuck them and leave them. My friends would often get my cast offs as I always got in first.

 

[chrisatb5]

Send sympathy card

 

[newhere2learn]

I had this. We split up, and he knew exactly how challenging she was. Within 18m she was giving birth to his child.

A month after said child, she split up with him, he now has limited access.

She's now with the 4th guy in 5years.

 

[Nellie60]

I had this. We split up, and he knew exactly how challenging she was. Within 18m she was giving birth to his child.

A month after said child, she split up with him, he now has limited access.

She's now with the 4th guy in 5years.

Yep, stay clear of those types otherwise you are just a statistic. When that happened to me I was devastated still am in some respect but I write some stories about it for therapy now

 

[Redshirteater]

Depending on the ex: indifferent or sympathetically frightened.

 

[newhere2learn]

Yep, stay clear of those types otherwise you are just a statistic. When that happened to me I was devastated still am in some respect but I write some stories about it for therapy now

She's a sort put it that way

 

[Sgts19]

Knowing me I'd probably jerk off every time I thought about it, but I'm weird like that lol

 

[Nellie60]

Knowing me I'd probably jerk off every time I thought about it, but I'm weird like that lol

Exactly the same now!

 

[xxyyxx]

This happened to a friend of mine. His wife was bitter andv wasn't letting him see his own kids. Then one day he saw his friend with his kids in the park.
It destroyed him.
There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

 

[NiceSlice]

I’m 23 and have had only ONE ‘’serious” relationship that I did lose sleep over having come to an end so I won’t have a lot of expertise in this subject. However, lack of expertise or experiences doesn’t seem to restrict comments in chat so here goes: During high school dating it seemed fairly commonplace for ‘friends’ to end up dating each other’s BF’s because the relationships were more driven by physical than emotional reasons AND tended to last maybe a weekend or two and then one or the other would be distracted by “another shiny object”.
In regard to my one more meaningful long term relationship in college (dated exclusively for about 2 years) our break-up was not due to either of us “finding someone else” at the time. He graduated a year before me and received a minor league baseball contract. So we dated until he left…. Kept in contact for about 8 to 10 months…and then finally the old saying came true; ‘ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER…..OF SOMEONE ELSE”
I feel it was EASIER for me to NOT know anything about whoever he is dating because I do believe it would have been more painful if a classmate friend of mine was going out with him on campus where I would potentially see them together.

 

[SavannaT]

Jealous, he was hung lol

 

[Nellie60]

This happened to a friend of mine. His wife was bitter andv wasn't letting him see his own kids. Then one day he saw his friend with his kids in the park.
It destroyed him.
There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Yep it destroyed me for sometime and still i get the jealous thing its head. And strangely erotic I even fantasy about them together.

 

[Nellie60]

I sometimes get the "wet dream" thing happening and last night I dreamt of my ex girlfriend getting back together and being more fond of her. She was the love of my life at the time. I just remember re living our past relationship and if you were ever to do it again, do it differently. It was pretty erotic committing all the sexual acts again with her..

 

[Meduus]

depends on the ex…
If they were a witness to what an asshole he or she was…
Then I hope they would be smarter…
Else have fun!

 

[AlwaysDancing]

I’d be worried for my friend and feel betrayed by my ex. Again …

 

[Vitriolhack]

Well, just because it didn’t work out with me doesn’t mean it won’t with my buddy.

Who knows?

 

[lifeis2short2b]

It all depends on your relationship with your ex. Most breakups especially divorce do not end on good terms.
I can't see the friendship being the same if that's the case.

 

[EdwardsOtherSide]

Given my ex; "Dude, why? You're a good person, you don't deserve this sort of suffering."

 

[hulmule]

LMAO. Have you ever seen the Tums commercial... He hands her the Tums, you're going to need these more than me... i know my brother better than you...

 

[Nellie60]

I would constantly be wondering if he satisfied her better, if she did things with him she didn't do with me, how big was his cock, etc

Oh yeah I definitely was like that. Those thoughts constantly engulfed my head those first few months.

I don't know why but the thoughts of her pleasuring him intimately and making out with him caused me the greatest pain and then she enjoying and having orgasms from him.

 

[Beth_Anne90]

I would wish her the best of luck!! She will soon find out what a dickhead he is. Although I have to admit the best part of him was his dick, a dick that was pleasuring other women while we were married. Oh well!! I got my kid, the house and a nice car out of the divorce!!

 

[calmlikeabomb]

How would I feel?

Not a thing. That sea is dry now, and I have responsibilities to attend to.

 

[subbyclarajane]

I would remind my friend there’s a reason we’re exes and that reason wasn’t me. (For real, I’m friends with all my exes but - yes this is true - I have fallen for predominantly emotionally immature women).

 

[grumpyoldperv]

I'm from a small town in rural America. Most of us in the 80's dated a friend's ex at one point. Or 2 or 3 times. Usually the guys would stop the ex in the high school parking lot and make sure all was cool before making a move. The girls seemed to just use it as an excuse to be bitchy to one another. Hell I know for a fact my best buddy fucked my wife before we got together. He said so. She said so. But 35 years of marriage later, who cares?

Small towns. You gotta be bad just to have a good time. (back in the dark ages)