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[Wet_n_Fuckable]

Can you tell me how to masturbate correctly. I touch myself alot but I never get off. Help!

 

[purrbaby]

Can you tell me how to masturbate correctly. I touch myself alot but I never get off. Help!

Here's a tip hun, mention if you're male or female

 

[Wet_n_Fuckable]

female

 

[purrbaby]

female

Better start I can help out a bit maybe, but would you rather talk here or PM? Depends on how shy you are.

 

[Wet_n_Fuckable]

no here is fine..

 

[Azuldrgon]

Can you tell me how to masturbate correctly. I touch myself alot but I never get off. Help!

The first thing you have to do is relax. You cannot achieve an orgasm without being at ease.

Then it is all about what you have in your mind. You need to imagine a scenario that you either have been in or what you fantasize about.

Then it is all about gentile touching, feeling, and caressing. Use the time to explore your body and find where you are most sensitive.

 

[purrbaby]

no here is fine..

Okay, first off, how experienced are you? Have you ever had an orgasm before? Need to figure out the problem.

(PS It's not uncommon for women not to have had an orgasm even in their 30's and after having children. So if it's a yes, it's nothing to be embarrassed about.)

 

[Wet_n_Fuckable]

no i have never had a orgasm.. i've had sex no orgasm
and im in my mid 20's

 

[SweetErika]

How do you masturbate now? It'd help if you could kind of take us through your current routine.

What do you think might be the issue(s) (e.g. not relaxing, too little or the wrong type of stimulation, etc.)?

Have you tried vibes?

There's no 'correct' way to masturbate because every woman is different. Achieving orgasm can take a lot of experimentation, practice, and sometimes tools that provide additional and/or different types of mental and physical stimulation; for example, some women need more clitoral stimulation than a hand or mouth can provide, and others can't get over the edge without porn or erotica. You may just have to try a bunch of different things to find what works for your unique mind and body (though there are a couple of toys that have a reputation of working for nearly everyone, for instance), and whatever that may be is wonderful and healthy.

 

[thirty]

Can you tell me how to masturbate correctly. I touch myself alot but I never get off. Help!

You already got some good advice on how to do. I may suggest you to watch porn when you masturbate.
I always say mastrubation is aso a psychological thing rather than physical thing.

 

[purrbaby]

There's no 'correct' way to masturbate because every woman is different. Achieving orgasm can take a lot of experimentation, practice, and sometimes tools that provide additional and/or different types of mental and physical stimulation; for example, some women need more clitoral stimulation than a hand or mouth can provide, and others can't get over the edge without porn or erotica. You may just have to try a bunch of different things to find what works for your unique mind and body (though there are a couple of toys that have a reputation of working for nearly everyone, for instance), and whatever that may be is wonderful and healthy.

Completely agree. Every woman is different, and you might just not be hitting YOUR hot spot. Mine are pretty specific, while other women can orgasm to pretty much anything. And it also takes getting to know your own body.

For me, I can't cum unless I'm having my clit touched. Ever, period. It's just the way my body works. I know women that can't cum unless it's through penetration, and I've even met a few women that cum through having their breasts touched lol Everyone is different.

Whatever it is you're trying now isn't working for a number of reasons. You're not relaxed, you're distracted, you're not giving yourself enough foreplay (yes, it does have an effect even when you're alone), or maybe it's just not the right place(s) for you.

 

[Wet_n_Fuckable]

ok thanks for the advice, I'll surely take it. But how will I know when I have a orgasm?

 

[SweetErika]

ok thanks for the advice, I'll surely take it. But how will I know when I have a orgasm?

You'll feel a great build-up and release accompanied by contractions. You'll just know -- it's impossible to miss.

 

[purrbaby]

posted twice

 

[purrbaby]

You'll feel a great build-up and release accompanied by contractions. You'll just know -- it's impossible to miss.

Exactly. If you don't know if you have yet, you haven't had one lol

 

[LadyJeanne]

Read through all the links on this page - there's a ton of detailed information on female masturbation there, including the basics and techniques.

http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbation/index.php

One thing that often pushes me over the edge is to contract my PC muscles when I'm building to the orgasm. Practice your Kegel exercises!

 

[Valley Lilly]

You have to find what turns you on first.... and then you can explore with your body.

 

[Wet_n_Fuckable]

ok thanks ladies

 

[Valley Lilly]

And if you want a lady call me 777-2356. JK!

 

[SubNebGuy]

practice practice practice...and don't get caught up in the 'I gotta have an O' mentality, or you'll be too wound up to cum.

my wife never had issues cumming. then for a couple months, when she was feeling self conscious about some weight gain, she couldn't cum. She'd be close, and get frustrated, and it would not happen. Couldn't even get herself off, with me not at home (i.e. no pressure except what she put on herself by herself). tears were shed over this.

finally I got her to mellow out, and of course she had an O.

Now, I may be a guy, but since the type of skin tissue is similar, i'll try to share another story.

many moons ago, when i was discovering masturbation myself, I would never have an orgasm. i'd rub and rub and stroke, and eventually the head of my penis would get real sensitive, so I'd stop.
Well that sensitivity, I later learned, was my orgasm building up. So after months of this, I finally 'pushed through' and got cum all over the bathroom carpet.


Don't be afraid to touch your breasts, tease nipples, rub the clit and insert fingers/toys/etc. You will get the hang of it!

 

[Wet_n_Fuckable]

hehe thanks

 

[Azuldrgon]

As you noticed, just let yourself relax. It is the easiest way to reach pleasure.

 

[LickMyJuices]

For sure, use toys.. They are great!

 

[Xenolan]

Boy, men are lucky. All we have to do is get a loose grip and pump away, then apply the tube sock at the opportune moment. (Actually, I use the sleeves cut from old sweatshirts; much easier to slide on, a lot more comfy, and who cares if they stain after a while? They're even good for cleanup after actual sex.)

I've never had trouble rubbing one out. Well, maybe once or twice, but all it took to fix the problem was waiting until the next day. I used to need porn to do it, but now I have enough imagery in my head that I don't need it much anymore; just for occasional inspiration.

Of course, we men don't generally get to have multiple orgasms either. It's a trade-off, I guess.

 

[Likes_Them_Kinky]

Can you tell me how to masturbate correctly. I touch myself alot but I never get off. Help!

Reading always helps. Start with National Geographic.