My wife and I have been talking about making it with other people. We are in our early forties, and are both secure in our relationship. My question is how do you get started meeting people who think the same way. We live in Florida, and I have looked at some swinging sites, but that seems too impersonal. Any help out there?
How to meet other cuples to experience swinging
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Blindinthedark
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Find yourself an actual swingers club.
There is usually an application process and you'll have to pay a membership fee as well as a cover charge. Ask around the local sites you've found to see if there are any clubs in your area.
Most metropolitan centres have them.
There is usually an application process and you'll have to pay a membership fee as well as a cover charge. Ask around the local sites you've found to see if there are any clubs in your area.
Most metropolitan centres have them.
lorddragonwolf
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rdstr77 said:
if you live in broward county there are a few clubs.
SilverVeil
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rdstr77 said:
I tried this with my ex-boyfriend. I have a little advice for you.
No matter how secure you feel in your relationship, make sure you both sit down and talk about it. And even then, things still may not work out. This is what happened to us.
We found a swingers magazine for Texas. Took some pictures of us both, we decided to submit a picture of me with my face obscured, but with my breasts bared. We got a lot of responses to the ad. After a lot of talking we decided to contact 2 couples and see if we liked them and they liked us. We answered their letters and made a few phone calls back and forth.
After all arrangements had been made, he decided he did not want to go thru with it. I had already asked for the time off work and wanted to do some shopping in San Antonio anyway, so after telling my room mate where I was going and where I could be reached, I went ahead and went. I met the couple we made the arrangements with after telling them it would only be me making the trip. I had so much fun with them. We ended up seeing each other more than a few times. I have lost contact with them since I moved away to RI though.
What it all boiled down to was even thought my boyfriend thought his fantasy was seeing me with another woman and man, when it actually became a reality for him, he could not handle it. There were other things wrong in our relationship at the time. And we were breaking up and getting back together over and over.
I really became close to the couple I met and someday I hope to have another experience with swinging.
We found the magazine at the adult bookstore I shopped at. Usually the ones that are free do not have good ads. You can usually pick up a decent magazine for swingers in your area for under $8.00. I think the one I got was about $6.00
Be careful and be safe, but have an open mind and have fun. But be on the lookout for hidden emotions you may not even know you or your partner have.
If you want to talk more about it, or my personal experience ... feel free to PM me.
I've only just started considering a little swinging/group/etc action, but I've read most of the related threads. The most common theme I see repeated is to openly and explicitly talk with your partner about expectations, limitations, and potential repurcussions.
Go slow. Talk lots. Be safe.
Go slow. Talk lots. Be safe.
