How soon do you expect it?

[PacificBlue]

How soon do you expect sex from a woman or a man? I'm finding in my age group (30-something's) that most men want sex pretty early on in the relationship. Within the first couple of weeks.

How soon do you expect sex...included in this would be (mutual masturbation, oral, or intercourse)

 

[plasticman33]

Depends on the individuals.....

Is the desire there for both? Is one turned on the other not?

Are neither one interested? Could be anywhere from two minutes to a lifetime!

 

[Pokerman]

Hard to say....(i know, not the answer you're looking for) but i've been intimate on the first date (not just one night stands, either) and then sometimes maybe a month or so? Depends how much you like the person, and how often you see them...

If you're seeing someone a couple times a week, even on weeknights, that kinda speeds things up. If it's just once a week, then maybe longer....

 

[Thumper]

Hmmmm

Is right after "Hi, my name is...." too soon?

 

[shadowsource]

fast

I like it right away. It makes me fall in love, and I do not exaggerate, though that doesn't always happen. if it's great, it keeps me coming back, and it opens up awesome pillow talk (philosophy included, and, of course, politics). But I'm not normal, am I? (ducking) I do know that if I think a woman is following any sort of program or theory of clever dating regarding sex, I'm outa there. By the third date, I feel she's not really interested, and I've already begun to withdraw.

 

[lavender]

 

[Gnufi Poppets]

It is being that it is the always out of my hands the so to speak, oh yahs! I am meeting the women and it is that as soon as they are seeing the huge bulge that is in the tight pants that it is that I am the always wearing they are the all over me in the matter that is only minutes!

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

No sooner than when I feel that I am going to definitely have a loving relationship with this person. I've had sex on the first date (when I was ver yyoung and sex is all I thought about) and I've had dates where women wouldn't even kiss after several dates.

I think having sex too early can screw up my relationships because I like it so much (almost an addiction) that once I start having sex I overlook other factors of the relationship - and then I get involved with people that I shouldn't. YMMV.

STG

 

[PacificBlue]

Ok...then oh wise ones how do you put a guy off without seeming like your playing a game or being a prude? I'm not following any rule book but frankly getting sexual right off the bat confuses this issue at hand...your caught up in hormones instead of trying to figure out whether you really like this person. In the beginning I'm more in lust than I am in love.

 

[shadowsource]

A fabulous kiss -

says sooooo much. It can go a long way toward future options without committing you to anything but the moment. Then you keep communicating. But fab kisses only work a few times for me. Wanna hook up?

 

[PacificBlue]

Exactly! They only work but just a few times. Hmm...confusing issue for me.


Hook up? I think we are on opposite ends of the US.

 

[Mischka]

How soon do you expect sex from a woman or a man?

[Speaking from the point of view as Single Mischka, circa 1994.]

Depends on how well he kisses. I expect a kiss on the first date, and if it doesn't impress me/knock my socks offs, then the attraction fizzles right there and there will be no sex forthcoming. [I slept with a blah kisser once, just to see if he would be as bad in bed as he was at kissing. He was.] If he passes the kissing test, then I expect sex by the fourth date, with a median score of two and a half dates. Of course, I usually tire of them of them after two dates, so the sex part doesn't always pan out. I consider sex an integral part of a relationship - I have plenty of friends for platonic outings. Physical attraction is a key component of a romantic relationship, so why not introduce it as early as possible?

 

[Bob Peale]

How soon do you expect sex from a woman or a man? I'm finding in my age group (30-something's) that most men want sex pretty early on in the relationship. Within the first couple of weeks.

That's early?

 

[PacificBlue]

Re: Re: How soon do you expect it?

That's early?

Maybe not...maybe I'm just being a prude! I'm hearing that the median is around 4 dates and that includes if you met them during the work week. Help me out here...I'm in need of some perspective. It seems like I'm putting myself at a huge risk if I'm willing to get into bed with someone so quickly.

 

[lobito]

Ok...then oh wise ones how do you put a guy off without seeming like your playing a game or being a prude?

I tell him I'm not gay, that usually does it!

Seriously though, I've only ever had a one night stand, I guess. I knew the girl for a long time, but we were only friends, one night we both got drunk, and I told her I was attracted to her, and before I knew it, we were in bed together.

I lost a relationship becasue of that night. I also lost my taste for Vodka, so at least one good thing came of it.