How much is hidden?

[shereads]

As I get older and less respecting of old taboos, I've realized that I'm distancing myself from family and old friends. There are too many things that are essential to me now that I wouldn't feel comfortable revealing to people I was close to less than a decade ago.

How transparent is your world? Are there significant aspects of your current life that even close friends don't know about? Do you consider yourself a private person, or do you share your thoughts as easily in real life as you do here?

 

[cloudy]

There are certain aspects of myself that everyone sees, but sometimes I feel that it's just the tip on an iceberg, really. Some things aren't shared out of necessity - the knowledge that some wouldn't understand some parts of me, and it's not necessary for the relationship that they know about those things.

I've found that I've gotten more and more private as I've gotten older, too. I used to tell it all, but now I don't feel the compulsion to do that anymore - and feel more of a compulsion to keep things to myself.

 

[shereads]

Thanks, cloudy.

Btw, are those the new "destroyed wash" jeans from Banana Republic?

 

[cloudy]

Thanks, cloudy.

Btw, are those the new "destroyed wash" jeans from Banana Republic?

Yes.

 

[doormouse]

I'm me, and have nothing to hide... that said, this is the internet so certain aspects of my life have to remain hidden.

Only my closest friends know the 'real' me.

They're my closest friends for a reason. I love you guys

 

[scheherazade_79]

There's a handful of people who know me really well, but honestly? No one knows me 100%. I kind of like it that way - that there's a part of me that will always be mine and no one else's. But if, on the other hand, I fall in love and I feel secure enough in the relationship to know that it's a forever thing, maybe I will let the other person in. Who knows?

 

[TheEarl]

I have a trio of really good girl-friends and my sister who know most things about me. Out of that four people though, only Elsie knows absolutely everything and I trust her with most things (even if she won't lock her desk drawers!).

The Earl

 

[TheEarl]

As I get older and less respecting of old taboos, I've realized that I'm distancing myself from family and old friends. There are too many things that are essential to me now that I wouldn't feel comfortable revealing to people I was close to less than a decade ago.

I have to say as well that I've found the absolute opposite occurring in my life. To paraphrase my favourite quote - the longer I've been an erotica writer, the more the public me has turned into someone that people would be less surprised to learn that about.

I would never have shared half the stuff I did with my former Lady and do with Elsie if it hadn't been for keeping Lit a secret for such a long time.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

No one knows me thoroughly; I give myself to others individually depending on the person, but I'm the only one who keeps myself to myself. (That reads oddly but I'll leave it.) I think this is why I love solitude, it's easier.

Perdita

 

[domjoe]

Been thinking along the same lines, Sher.

Between my close male confidante and my partner everything about me is known. Heaven help me if they ever met.

 

[shereads]

Re: Re: How much is hidden?

I have to say as well that I've found the absolute opposite occurring in my life. To paraphrase my favourite quote - the longer I've been an erotica writer, the more the public me has turned into someone that people would be less surprised to learn that about.

I would never have shared half the stuff I did with my former Lady and do with Elsie if it hadn't been for keeping Lit a secret for such a long time.

The Earl

How much would you expect it to affect your life if your participation at Literotica were suddenly public knowledge?

Really public. As in, "Look, Earl, all of your posts at Literotica are featured in a special newspaper series. Here's a picture of you." Aside from wanting to punch someone out for violating your privacy, how much would it matter to you?

For me, it would matter a lot. There's a potential for legal & professional troubles thanks to the USA's vaguely worded pornography laws, but that isn't the most compelling reason I keep Literotica a secret. I've told a couple of friends about Lit, but there's no way I'd give them my screen name. I'm far less protective of my private thoughts here than I am elsewhere. Having friends from out there read my sexual roleplay threads would make me almost as self-conscious as having them watch me with a man.

 

[~photoguy~]

most stuff is known by all ...

some stuff is known to my spouse ....

some other stuff is known to my best friend ...

some stuff will NEVER be known to anyone


I agree with ya Shere ... as I get older ... I've realized that I'm distancing myself from family and old friends. There are too many things that are essential to me now (such as Lit friends) that I wouldn't reveal to people I was close to less than a decade ago.

 

[shereads]

some stuff will NEVER be known to anyone

Retiring U.S. Attorney General John Ashcroft will be gratified to know you believe that.

 

[~photoguy~]

Retiring U.S. Attorney General John Ashcroft will be gratified to know you believe that.

I suppose that's a bit naive ...

lets say that I *hope* some things never get known, we all need some mystery about us don't we ?

 

[Bridget69]

I'm a very private person and I'm not one to readily trust someone, so I keep a lot of things to myself.

 

[LadyJeanne]

In most ways, I'm more open about myself to others than I used to be. Like Cloudy, I used to tell my friends all kinds of things. But what I was telling wasn't always the important stuff - I kept that well hidden from all but a few close friends.

As I get older, I understand more and more that everyone is a work in progress and we all have our private thoughts. Somehow that has mades it easier to reveal mine.

 

[shereads]

we all need some mystery about us don't we ?

Many of us do. For some of us, I think solitude ~ internal solitude ~ becomes addictive and we reach a point where the intimacy gap is almost too deep to bridge.

 

[shereads]

Have any of you confided something important to a close friend who later used the knowledge to hurt you? That's a lesson that requires no repetition to be remembered.

 

[domjoe]

Have any of you confided something important to a close friend who later used the knowledge to hurt you? That's a lesson that requires no repetition to be remembered.

It's amazing how long people can stockpile ammunition against you, then expend it all in one massive verbal assault

(Lady Jeanne, loved the "work in progress" description)

 

[LadyJeanne]

(Lady Jeanne, loved the "work in progress" description)

I knew I picked the right guy for my Lit sandwich.

 

[sweetnpetite]

Re: Re: Re: How much is hidden?

For me, it would matter a lot. There's a potential for legal & professional troubles thanks to the USA's vaguely worded pornography laws, but that isn't the most compelling reason I keep Literotica a secret. I've told a couple of friends about Lit, but there's no way I'd give them my screen name. I'm far less protective of my private thoughts here than I am elsewhere. Having friends from out there read my sexual roleplay threads would make me almost as self-conscious as having them watch me with a man.

Um, what she said.

I concider myself to be a pretty open person for the most part. But I guess I do have a lot of 'personal stuff' that no-one knows about me besides my boyfriend, and that's mainly cuz he lives with me.

 

[sweetnpetite]

ha, ha! I just 'got' what I wrote.

What 'she' said, get it!!!!

 

[LadyCibelle]

Hmmm that's a really good question you have there.

Does anyone "really" know someone? I mean, you can "think" that you know someone perfectly well and then they do something totally out of character for them and you're left wondering if you've "really" known them of if they only showed you what they wanted you to know.

 

[neonlyte]

Have any of you confided something important to a close friend who later used the knowledge to hurt you? That's a lesson that requires no repetition to be remembered.

Only love.

nl

 

[domjoe]

I knew I picked the right guy for my Lit sandwich.

(blushes) Oh, and to think I called you a "quimposter" on another thread...