How many kids you got???

[badasschick]

So you start hanging out with some dude and you're having a good time until... you find out he has KIDS!!!!!

Is it too much to ask to meet a dude who hasn't dropped his seed anywhere?

I really can't deal with baby mama drama.

 

[Guest]

So you start hanging out with some dude and you're having a good time until... you find out he has KIDS!!!!!

Is it too much to ask to meet a dude who hasn't dropped his seed anywhere?

I really can't deal with baby mama drama.

That sounds pretty shallow on your part. I got a kid, but he's 25 now. Had plenty of years of when he wasn't.

Moon

 

[badasschick]

OK I'm shallow, but being a single chick in her late 20's I kind of like to have the dude to myself, without the spectre of responsible parenthood hanging in the midst of our good time.

The other thing is, I think its really fucked up for the kid. As fickle as I am, I can't have some kid getting attached to me and then breaking his heart along with his dad's. And then what if the kid hates me?

Too complicated.

So call me shallow if you will, but can you blame me?

 

[Private Vasquez]

BayBay (that's phonetic) is a very good mom, the drama is not her fault.

 

[MissTaken]

Chosing to date someone without children is a personal preference.

It is too bad people can't be more upfront and direct about their personal lives when engaging in a relationship.

It save a lot of time.

No, this isn't a cold and callous outlook. We all have preferences and should not be judged by them.

It is simply a matter of courtesy to share the vital stats: married, kids, appearance, etc.

It is also a matter of courtesy to accept someone's personal preferences and move on if you don't have what they need, or have too much of what they dont' need.

 

[GuyJD]

None that I know of.

 

[Ice Cold]

Lets see 0 + 0 = 0

Nope , no kids here, just a puppy.

 

[MissTaken]

An afterthought...

I posted this a month or two ago, but I had met a man with whom I had been talking and corresponding for six months.

After having met him, he told me he had five children via four mom's and had not contact with any of the children. He also said he didn't pay child support.

He had a multitude of reasons to explain why he was the victim and begged me not to "hold his past against him."

Errrr having five children might have been shared earlier on. *BTW, he lied to me about children when we first started talking.)

It certainly would have helped him to avoid rejection and a lot of sadness....if I am to believe what he tells me after the fact.

 

[badasschick]

BayBay (that's phonetic) is a very good mom, the drama is not her fault.

then tell her to come get her kids!

 

[Guest]

 

[Ezarc]

*Runs up, hugs Emerald_eyed, smiles, winks, and runs away*
Take Care and Lust Always,
Ezarc
another victim falls to a hug attack

 

[MissTaken]

Oops. I forgot to answer the question!

I have two small children and tell people I am interested about them from the beginning. IN part, because I love my children and love to share kid stories.

Oh...and re: the man I referenced in my previous post?

We are not together.
We won't be.

He takes no responsibility for his role in leaving children fatherless.

Huge red flag for me! Having chldren isn't a big deal.

How we interact with our children actually shows a lot aobut one's character.

 

[Guest]

 

[YogiBare]

I'm very proud of being a father and let women know about it, usually in the first sentence of communicating who I am and what I'm about. My daughter is a very important part of my life and fatherhood is a very important part of my identity, Any woman who is thinking of getting involved with my needs to know this.

Becoming a step mother to a child is a very big deal and should not be taken lightly. A woman who does not want this role should understand that this is part of the package, part of getting involved with my life. No hard feelings if she bows out gracefully. It's not right for every woman.

 

[His_kitty]

It's what your preferences are ........

I see both sides, some would rather start a family with their partner, with no attachments on either side. Because not only do you inherit children, but you inherit the other parent as well.

I'm recently seperated, with one child, and I've made a decision that not only would I inform someone, that I might potentially be interested in about my son, but I wouldn't introduce my son to anyone unless I felt pretty serious about them. I've seen far too many kids get close to their parents bf/gf and they are the ones that are hurt the most when the relationship ends.

 

[Ezarc]

*Runs up, hugs His_kitty, smiles, winks, and runs away*
Take Care and Lust Always,
Ezarc
another victim falls to a hug attack

 

[cybergirly]

Honesty is huge,
I want to know up front. If a guy hides the fact he has kids from me that tells me he's not a very good father and makes me wonder what else he has "forgotten" to tell me.

It's definately personal prefrence, if you don't want to date a guy with kids, be honest before someone gets hurt.

girly

 

[His_kitty]

*Runs up, hugs His_kitty, smiles, winks, and runs away*
Take Care and Lust Always,
Ezarc
another victim falls to a hug attack

*winks and blows him a thank-you kiss*

 

[Private Vasquez]

then tell her to come get her kids!

Y'all are supposed to take 'em to Disneyland first.