How easily do you fall in love?

[Tribbin]

I was reading another thread when I started wondering how easily I fall in love, or at least fall into infatuation.

I realized that I'm so eager to be in love, and have the feeling of love, that sometimes I miss the person that I'm supposed to be in love with. I'm in love with love, I've heard someone say.

So how easily do you fall in love? And why?

 

[Elizabeth]

Not easily. Too many things can happen after you say "I love you" or tell them you are in love with them. When I was younger, I often confused lust with love. That dosen't happen anymore.

 

[naudiz]

I don't fall in love easily. Hell, I haven't felt infatuation since high school. Dunno why. I'm just not the type, I guess. I like people. I'm amiable toward just about everyone. Even if I don't really like them, I don't really hate them either.

But deeper feelings need time to develop, both in friendship and romance.

It's just the way I'm wired.

 

[erosman]

Not easily. Too many things can happen after you say "I love you" or tell them you are in love with them. When I was younger, I often confused lust with love. That dosen't happen anymore.

I agree with Elizabeth. The older you get (not that Elizabeth is getting older!...uh...she's in some feminine time warp where there is no aging...yea...that's it) the easier it is to distinguish between all those voices in your head. Of course we tend to listen more intently to the ones that are saying what we want to hear. Like that penile voice that screams "I love you!" to justify its own agenda of getting laid.

 

[Elizabeth]

I agree with Elizabeth. The older you get (not that Elizabeth is getting older!...uh...she's in some feminine time warp where there is no aging...yea...that's it) the easier it is to distinguish between all those voices in your head. Of course we tend to listen more intently to the ones that are saying what we want to hear. Like that penile voice that screams "I love you!" to justify its own agenda of getting laid.

Awww...thank you erosman

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

With the right person - too easily and too fast. I have to restrain myself constantly and apply cold logic to keep from falling in love before I really know a person, and before they are ready themselves to hear that from me.

I can fall in lust day to day.

I can be infatuated with someone once I get to know them a little.

I can fall in love after I know them fairly well, but before I know them really well.

So like I said, when I feel I may be falling in love I try to step back a little and seek reality again. If things still look good from the cold shower of reason, then my love can actually deepen because I have more confidence that it is not infatuation, that there are some very good reasons I am falling in love with this person.

It is kind of like when I was last hired - I went in for an interview and they made me a job offer on the spot. Just because I said to myself I would never again accept an offer without thinking about it first, I asked for some time to think about it. I then went for a drive, thought about it for half an hour, and could not think of a reason why I shouldn't accept. I went back that hour and accepted - it was the best job I ever had. A little rough at first, but it worked out well in the end.

As I get older and more experienced and I have more confidence in my decisions, so I can make them faster without mistakes. I am more careful, but once I commit, it is full steam ahead.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I've never been in love so i'm guessing it's not easy for me

 

[PacificBlue]

I would have to say that I've been in lust more than I've been in love...although at the time I would have sworn it was love. I would say I become infatuated easily...I don't fall in love easily.

I'm also very careful about using the word love. I get irritated when those around me throw the word around without regard to it's meaning. I've had some tell me they loved me and then their actions said something completely different. I want someone to know that when I say it, I really mean it.

 

[Renegade]

A crush or lust is easy for me to fall into at times. But love will take awhile.

 

[lovetoread]

I dont fall in love easy at all. Love isnt all roses and cuddles. Its hard work.

This time last week,I would have said that falling in lust would be hard to do,but have since changed my mind.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

i get attached very easy.when they tell me i love you.i believe them.she will tell me she might go back to her boyfriend.that just bites and sucks.