How do you stop yourself from falling....

[Guest]

in love?

say you just aren't ready and there are all kinds of complications such as distance....... what do you do?

 

[lickerish]

You can't stop it. If it happens, it's inevitable.

But don't look to me, I'm only good for fucking things up after they start.

 

[Andra_Jenny]

It's like a car crash.
Everything goes into slow-motion and you have time to think about the future, but then suddenly, reality slams home.

 

[Angel]

in love?

say you just aren't ready and there are all kinds of complications such as distance....... what do you do?

You can't stop it. I tried for two years to stop it.

Dated other men, tried to keep my distance, even ignored the poor guy for half a year (Sorry!) and almost had a child. And he was right there the whole damn time til I got a clue and went with my feelings.

I'm damn glad I did too. The distance is a bitch. A VERY MAJOR BITCH, but you know what? It's honestly more than worth it.

 

[Guest]

So ya'll are saying that I'm screwed right?

 

[Never]

Hmm, I feel inspired.

You see the method I propose is simple,
though it not easy in the least.
It's like choosing to starve,
when before you lays a feast.

It's like shutting your eyes,
from a beautiful light,
so first, in your heart,
you must know that you are right.

You must believe in yourself,
and the answer I propose,
for your heart will only wonder
where you let that blind-fool go.

It's not about what action you take,
but what you don't do,
and in the end,
you'll feel empty when you through.

Give up your love,
that's the only thing that true,
for a love that withers
shall never grow anew.

Just close your soul,
and close your mind as well,
for upon the higher things,
that's where your mind must dwell.

It's painful in the beginning,
but soon pain goes away,
and when you're finished with it,
there isn't much to say.

But if you've listened and followed,
then listen closer dear,
for there's still one danger,
one, single, lasting fear.

For if you learn this lesson,
please, don't learn it very well.
That's the most important part,
don't learn far too well.

 

[Texan]

IMHO

You CAN stop it. Or if you can't, you are in for some very difficult times in life. Love is an emotion. Emotions come and go with the stimuli that produce them. If the emotion is bad (and sometimes even love can be bad) then it is NECESSARY to remove the stimulus that is producing the emotion (or remove yourself from it).

Even if a person cannot control the emotion, they can control their actions. If a married woman falls for another man, she better be able to control her emotions or at least control her actions.

Seems like I made these same comments on another thread a little while ago........ sorry if I'm being redundant.

 

[Zulander]

this is how i do it !!

well this is how i do :
1- i don't talk with the girl too OFFEN
2- i don't See that girl too offen
3- try to spen more time with othere people as possible !
4- don't be nice to the girl <it's HARD realy HARD)

it's realy hard i know it happen to me !
but i'v finaly got over with that after like 6 or 7 month !!!

 

[morninggirl5]

I almost agree with Texan, but at some point you have to be able to control your emotions as well. If an emotion isn't healthy for you then you have to learn how to shut it off. Otherwise, we'd all still be depressed over our first loves.

 

[Never]

Zulander..
I understand your first three points, however, the fourth has me puzzled. Why would you not be nice to someone? Your feelings are your own and there's no reason to punish another because of how you're feeling.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Hmm, I feel inspired.

You see the method I propose is simple,
though it not easy in the least.
It's like choosing to starve,
when before you lays a feast.

It's like shutting your eyes,
from a beautiful light,
so first, in your heart,
you must know that you are right.

You must believe in yourself,
and the answer I propose,
for your heart will only wonder
where you let that blind-fool go.

It's not about what action you take,
but what you don't do,
and in the end,
you'll feel empty when you through.

Give up your love,
that's the only thing that true,
for a love that withers
shall never grow anew.

Just close your soul,
and close your mind as well,
for upon the higher things,
that's where your mind must dwell.

It's painful in the beginning,
but soon pain goes away,
and when you're finished with it,
there isn't much to say.

But if you've listened and followed,
then listen closer dear,
for there's still one danger,
one, single, lasting fear.

For if you learn this lesson,
please, don't learn it very well.
That's the most important part,
don't learn far too well.

that is brilliant... i think I have to use it somewhere

 

[Never]

Sometimes Chef.. I think I could fart and you'd say it was brilliant...
Which is a pleasant thought now that I think about it.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Sometimes Chef.. I think I could fart and you'd say it was brilliant...
Which is a pleasant thought now that I think about it.

Never I am serious

I wasn't sure whether you wrote it even.... but I am using it as the header on Aprils site

 

[Demian]

in love?

say you just aren't ready and there are all kinds of complications such as distance....... what do you do?

Oh Well, So Swell...

 

[Angelus]

There is no way to stop it.

Oh god do I know that one and even though there is some distance between the two of you that is really no reason. I mean if you are meant to be together then you are meant to be together and no excuse will ever keep two people that love each other apart.

Well that's what I feel about the subject.

 

[Mistress]

As I have also learned there is no way to stop it if it's meant to be.
Even if it causes problems and causes you to make huge changes in your life, it will still be there because it's meant to be.

 

[Guest]

Finally... a question that could use my expertise...

 

[Bob Peale]

in love?

say you just aren't ready and there are all kinds of complications such as distance....... what do you do?

If you're falling, you're ready.

 

[Siren]

How do you stop yourself from falling when you cant get up?

 

[Mustang Sally]

Sure you can stop it.

It won't be easy, and I'm sure you'll throw yourself many pity parties before you're through, but if you really think it's the wrong time or the wrong person, you do have the power to stop.

Remove yourself from contact with the person as much as possible. It will hurt, and you will "mourn", but you'll probably get over it soon enough.

Never said it best. Such a wise girl.

 

[christo]

My recipe

Here's how you stop yourself. First, develop a relatively high level of self-loathing. Convince yourself that no girl, and certainly not the girl your heart longs for, would ever look at you without a measure of disgust.

However, hope is the most powerful force in the universe, so hating yourself won't be enough. So the second step is to make sure the girl knows that you're interested. Not that the sun rises and falls with her, but that you think she's swell. When she doesn't reciprocate by immediately setting up a church date for you and her to get married, your hopes will begin to die like newly-seeded grass in a suburban backyard.

The third step is to drink. Drink. Drink. Drink.

And in eight or nine months, you won't be in love anymore! Trust me, this works, I've tried it myself. Got me over a girl named Jamie. And another named Lorie. And Diana. And Helen. It works! With only moderate to severe psychological damage!

 

[Starfish]

You can't stop it. If it happens, it's inevitable.

But don't look to me, I'm only good for fucking things up after they start.

I am not impressed with you blaming yourself. You need to hold that chin up higher, sweetie! If having needs is part of 'fucking things up' then my marriage is a wreck.