How do you know he/she is "The One"?

[Lovepotion69]

So you have met the most wonderful person in the Universe and everything seems dandy, but how do you really know or decide this is "The One"?

How do you decide this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? (Considering "the rest of your life" is quite some time...)

Did you have second thoughts before finally hitching up officially?

 

[Cleopatra]

You don't ever *really* know he's the One. At least *I* don't. But, after looking around, he was the best of the bunch, and I'm (usually) happy with my choice. I *do* love him, and I've officially stopped looking.

I did have second thoughts, but they were mostly because friends of ours decided to get divorced a week before we got married, and it led to all sorts of nasty questions.

 

[Xander]

So you have met the most wonderful person in the Universe and everything seems dandy, but how do you really know or decide this is "The One"?

How do you decide this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? (Considering "the rest of your life" is quite some time...)

Did you have second thoughts before finally hitching up officially?

You dont really. But there are some good indications here and there. Like for instance, being helplessly in love with the person for years, and still lives with the sting everyday. But cant imagine a place where he/she is not a part of your life.

Then again that can be thrown off as pure stupidity too, ahh well.

I very rarely get to hook up with those I love the most, so I cant really answer the question of second thoughts.

 

[Richard49]

Aftr 3 failed marrages and God knows how many other failed relationships

IMHO

You never know

well I now know I am not relationship material but

 

[just pet]

The one for what?


It takes time to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.
Forever is just a string of moments strung together.We get so hooked on tomorrow that we don't appreciate or live in today.
It takes a year to get to know someon well enough to even consider "forever" commitment.

For the first three months in a relationship everyone looks fabulous. We are on our best behavior.

After six months, we begin to relax and we've seen his favorite tighty-whities, now gray and stained, his holey indulgence.

After nine months, we've learned to sleep through the snoring thunder in his nose, how he gets the runs after eating lobster, and your having to hide how much you play on Lit.

After one year, you have seen him through all the anniversaries of events in his life. "My ex-wife and I always go to Vegas for her birthday. Still. It's a family tradition"

If one survives through all this, the title of soulmates is conferred.

 

[calypso_21]

Right in this very moment, He is THE One!

Everything falls into place where it needs to be.

 

[Lovepotion69]

I like the answer everyone's been giving. It's a very individual thing I know, and as with everything it's about time, place and seeing through the rose tinted glasses.

 

[Guest]

If you find out, let me know.

 

[ozraven]

So you have met the most wonderful person in the Universe and everything seems dandy, but how do you really know or decide this is "The One"?

How do you decide this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? (Considering "the rest of your life" is quite some time...)

Did you have second thoughts before finally hitching up officially?

I thought about this a bit before answering, JP's came close......

But to some extent I think you just "know".
When a 5 minute cuddle on the lounge feels better than any 1 hour fuck session with a prior partner....
When after five years you can look at the person, just to smile, because they are beside you, and see thm doing the same already.....
When you can sit together for hours and say nothing, but feel like you have communicated so much....
When silence is truly comfortable...
When you don't mind them stealing the book you are reading....
When you know you would simply do anything they asked of you, because you know the reverse is true....
When you don't feel "complete" unless they are around.....

There are many more, too, but really I think, well for me anyway, you just know......

Good luck!

 

[SeXyGuRLiE6969]

So you have met the most wonderful person in the Universe and everything seems dandy, but how do you really know or decide this is "The One"?

How do you decide this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? (Considering "the rest of your life" is quite some time...)

Did you have second thoughts before finally hitching up officially?

i just it all depends on the individual really, your heart and mind will let you know somehow, or at least that's what i like to think

then again there's the sayin "only time will tell"

 

[MercyMia]

One way to know he's the one is

I can go away and know that I can come back.
He knows he can go away and he can come back.

It has to be practiced with sane moderation, but sometimes we need time away. And then upon return, it feels better to be together.

 

[watergirl]

I like the answers I've seen. My best friend is marrying someone she's known since last May; I think that surviving a month long road trip together and still being just as much in love, was a good indicator to me that they've got something.

I thought I had the one, but we split up. He's still my best friend, and that's worth just as much to me. I can still call him in the morning to tell him about a bad dream, and gossip, and hang out, and get hugs... I'm lucky like that. And maybe in thirty years, he and I might give things a try again - who knows?