How do YOU define bisexuality?

[Phirefly]

From wikipedia.org:

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of either gender or sex.

That pretty much encompasses everything that you could really call it. But I'm just curious how you define it for yourself - I think everyone is different, and that's awesome!

When I was a teen, I always said to my friends and to myself "No way am I bisexual, because even though I'm attracted sexually to women, I could never picture being with a woman as my one life-long partner"

How naive I was! Now I really just define it as "Being sexually attracted to both sexes" for myself. Therefore, I'm bisexual... and a big hell yeah to that!

 

[sunandshadow]

I would say being bisexual means you would enjoy sex with some men and some women. I don't think it's necessary to be romantically interested in both or like both equally.

 

[chris5vx]

To me a bisexual enjoys sexual or romantic relationships with people of both sexes.

 

[hotTSwantabe]

the term

i dont like labels. i hate saying "gay""bi""straight" i chose the person, not the plumbing. i feel it is stupid to have to chose, (or not chose) to be with the PERSON you r attracted to, because of plumbing issues. i chose women most of my life for long term relationships, cuz i can relate to women better. i like men, too. men are harder for me to relate to, i cant understand why. i chose whgo i spend time with, by WHO THEY ARE, not what is between thier legs. i just have a hard time, long term, dealling with men. i like men, but cant understand what drives them. (other then sex) i am male, by birth, but still an outsider to how they think. i am female inside, but to label myself, or to let others do it, would be wrong, I AM ME! that is how i feel.

 

[BitterIchor]

I like labels. Humanity uses them to make order in our chaotic nature. No society can work without some degree of order. So while I'm sure it's nice to rant about some sort of utopian dream about a society free of labels, keep in mind that it's not going to happen.

When we call ourselves something, that doesn't instantly transform you into something that you're not. For example, "bisexual", it implies that you are sexually and/or romantically attracted to both genders. That's it. It doesn't say anything else about you. So if you are sexually and/or romantically attracted to both genders, why is it so confining to call yourself bisexual? You can still be a femininst, redhead, cynic, polyamourist, romantic or whatever you might be.

And the genders are different, just not in appearance. Our musculature and bone structure is different and we have very different brain chemistries. Males and females use their brain differently and thus, they generally think and act a little differently from each other. All people are different from each other in some way, of course, but males share a number of differences from the females and vice versa. And I'm not even touching the fuzzy realm of gender sciences that deal with how males and females are hardcoded to react to each other now. The point is, there IS a significant difference between males and females. So it's not at all stupid to separate males and females when talking about sexuality and our perception of it.

On the original topic, bisexuals are people who are sexually and/or romantically attracted to members of both genders. But as I've said, even a self-professed bisexual has plenty of room to be unique and SPECIAL. Just as self-professed heterosexuals and homosexuals do.

 

[Hitchiker69]

My bisexuality

Sex is sex, relationships are relationships; different things.

I've never had a relationship with a guy. I've never had a reationship with most of the women I've slept with.

I enjoy sex with either, so I'm bisexual.

 

[tzigane]

For me, "bisexual" is anywhere in the gray area between hetero- and homosexual. It means, as you've said, attraction to people of both sexes. (Note that I said sex - sex and gender are two very different things. Sex is biological/hardwired, while gender is a psychosocial phenomenon and not inborn.) By that definition, I am bisexual, which is a term I'm fairly comfortable with. However, at times I've chosen to use the term "queer" because I fall somewhere in the gray area between bi and straight, and I've had people take issue with the fact that I'm bi but not equally attracted to both men and women.

 

[Etoile]

Bisexuality is a sustained interest in having sexual interaction and/or romantic relationships with more than one gender.

I use "more than one gender" because there are people who do not feel male or female, and there are intersexed people, and I don't think one has to be limited by genitals to want sex or relationships with an individual.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Bisexuality is a sustained interest in having sexual interaction and/or romantic relationships with more than one gender.

I use "more than one gender" because there are people who do not feel male or female, and there are intersexed people, and I don't think one has to be limited by genitals to want sex or relationships with an individual.

I agree with you. Since those words were true.

 

[blklthrjkt]

I consider myself gay since romantically I am more attracted to men than women. That said, I have had sex with both men and women and found it equally arrousing. Dang this sexuality stuff is confusing! And then there are times when I had sex with a lesbian and a straight man and there was that time with a FTM...oh heck who knows?

 

[reg_roch]

Ok here's my deal.

I am not attracted to men in RL--sexually or romantically.

I do however find myself attracted to large cocks and beautiful shemales.

Fantasies are one thing but I would never BE with a man in real life--IMO they're ugly and stinky. I have never been able to look at a man--no matter how good looking he may be--and want to BE with him in a sexual way and certainly not a romantic way. The feelings just aren't there for me.

I'll stick to women in RL and keep the cock loving in my dreams. I guess that makes me bi-curious but whatever. IMO labels are stupid -- life isn't black & white and if we could read the world's minds... neither would be our sexual fantasies.

 

[Phirefly]

I hate being restrained by labels, which is why I made this post. I love that we get to define things for our own purposes. Labels can be useful, sometimes, but under the broad label, you get to make your own specific *you*. And I love that.

I'm a bisexual, polyamorous, submissive, masochistic, liberal, atheistic PPW (Pleasantly Plump Woman - hey I can make my own label, right? *grins*)

Individually I despise many of those labels. But when you put them together, I get to make them *me*

Anyways, that's what I was feeling when I made this post.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Then I am "me" too since labels schmabels

 

[Chicklet]

I like sex with women but don't identify as bisexual.

 

[neon_noodle]

Ok here's my deal.

I am not attracted to men in RL--sexually or romantically.

I do however find myself attracted to large cocks and beautiful shemales.

Fantasies are one thing but I would never BE with a man in real life--IMO they're ugly and stinky. I have never been able to look at a man--no matter how good looking he may be--and want to BE with him in a sexual way and certainly not a romantic way. The feelings just aren't there for me.

I'll stick to women in RL and keep the cock loving in my dreams. I guess that makes me bi-curious but whatever. IMO labels are stupid -- life isn't black & white and if we could read the world's minds... neither would be our sexual fantasies.

In terms of labels, there should be another one halfway between straight and bi, consisting of guys who like women and femiminity in their partners, but who are also attracted to rock-hard, throbbing cocks. A lot of self-decribed curious guys just want cocks, not the carrier that comes with it, which is why their first-time experinces often don't go so well.

That's why trannies are so popular - it's what the above group likes in a woman, with a little something extra to play with. It doesn't make you bi, it makes you a horny super-freak. Excellent.

 

[MasterMischief]

Bisexual not Biromantic?

So if you are sexually and/or romantically attracted to both genders, why is it so confining to call yourself bisexual?

Others may view you through their own definition of the label which can lead to false assumptions and miscommunications.

 

[Kellandi]

For me it means the vision of a hard and sexy man is a huge turn on. Do I want to please a man absolutely. I also want to share this task with my lady. I want us to please him together. When the idea turns to him topping me i go soft and lose interest. But I want to enjoy helping him please her. and I want to please him with her. any one on one would be oral and coached by her or while she is being pleased orally by one of us. I do find men attractive and sometimes find myself distracted by them but to have an exclusive MM is probably out of the question. Tried that when i was younger adn although exciting not fulfilling.

 

[Service4two]

Easiest way to explain, I love both the "hole and the pole". I am an equal opportunity lover. Not trying to be crass, just honest.

 

[SnowWhiteQueen]

I like sex with women but don't identify as bisexual.

I kind of feel the same way. I like having sex with women on occasion but I could never be in a relationship with a woman. I just do it for fun... there's never a real "craving" that makes me say "I neeeeeed to be with a woman NOW!!"

 

[sub_girl]

labels can go either way - they can be good or bad depending on the circumstances. Personally i don't mind them but they can become confusing - as humans our emotions and feelings change all the time, to pigeon hole someone into a category as this or the other seems too rigid and dogmatic for our species.

 

[priapiscean]

I like labels. Humanity uses them to make order in our chaotic nature. No society can work without some degree of order. So while I'm sure it's nice to rant about some sort of utopian dream about a society free of labels, keep in mind that it's not going to happen.

What BitterIchor said I'm okay with labels, even if as a word, they're not fully indicative of the spectrum of my sentiments. Maybe a good label would be 'pervert' because that's how I feel sometimes And being one is okay in my book.

For the record, I think 'bisexual' is a beautiful word.

 

[sub_girl]

so is trysexual

 

[lindahotstuff]

For me, being bisexual is being equally comfotable in bed with a man and a woman. There are no holds barred with either.
For my hubby, he is bisexual in a far less certain manner. He will suck a cock but only in a 3/4some with me present, whereas I would go to bed with a woman without hubby. He will do light oral but no anal, either giving or receiving. Whereas I use toys, fingers, fists, tongues and enjoy everything that a lesbian does, in fact my best bedroom gf is a lesbian, she doesn't go with men at all.
I love cock and would never give it up for a purely lesbian lover, so i am truly bi, but if I wasn't into 3/4somes, hubby would never suck another cock. He is more than bi curious as he knows he likes it, but like everything in life, there are few black and white issues, just lots of shades of gray

 

[misspihla]

For me bisexuality means being sexually interested in both sexes (or well, in two sexes at least).

And I see it as sexually interested - doesn't have to be romantically interested... though I am.

However I don't see I have to get both sexes like some define. For me a sexuality and relationship happens primary with a person not with a gender. I couldn't think situation I would be in relationship with someone and then claim I need to get another gender too to keep satisfied.

Would that mean if a hetero likes black and white people s/he can always have a lover with different color than his/her own partner? Hmm...