How Do I get laid?

[Zanzibar]

A couple things I found that made women find me much more attractive and got them thinking about a sexual/sensual relationship were:

1) Actually paying attention to her. Taking time to ask her how things were going and actuallty caring what the answer was and responding to that. Women told me they found it easy to get closer to me because I showed I cared about her, not just bla bla bla lets fuck.

2) Compliments and little things like flowers for no reason besides the fact you were thinking of them. Silly things. They don't have to be expensive, just pick things. (By the way gals, this worked both ways... I used to take flowers in to work for my employees, and the guys wanted and displayed them on their desk just as much as the women did.) Everyone likes compliments, and this ties in with number 1) - making them feel special.

Something else.. when you're out, or in class for those college students.. try and be aware of who's watching you. There may be a shy lass who's dying to get to know you but she can't bring herself to take that first step. If you notice someone giving you the eye, or keeps looking at you from the corner of their eye, they are a prime candidate to approach.

 

[DrStein]

I am a writer too, and being a financial person, I am also analytical. Honey, quit trying to figure out what makes everyone tick and just take the person as they come. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. Enjoy it.


I will admit, you are indeed quirky.... which makes you interesting as hell and quite a challenge. You are keeping this old broad on her toes.

Well, I'm planning to take a bold step soon. MY plan this Saturday is to go out to the mall for a few hours and see just how many phone numbers I can get before I have to leave. I may not get a single date out of any of those, but at the very least I'll be able to work on my approach.

 

[Zanzibar]

or, if you just want a zipless fuck...

approach girls in crowded bars and just flat out ask them

"Why don't we skip all the preliminaries and just go back to my/your place and fuck our brains out."

One of my old air force compatriots did this when we were on TDY together. He got slapped a lot, but laid a lot too.


or take a page from a recent Law and Order episode... sell your virginity on the internet.

/removes tongue from cheek

 

[Leeleigh]

or, if you just want a zipless fuck...

approach girls in crowded bars and just flat out ask them

"Why don't we skip all the preliminaries and just go back to my/your place and fuck our brains out."

One of my old air force compatriots did this when we were on TDY together. He got slapped a lot, but laid a lot too.


or take a page from a recent Law and Order episode... sell your virginity on the internet.

/removes tongue from cheek

lol Zanzibar....

 

[DrStein]

Well, I'm going to have to change my plans. I just found out my brother got dumped. Since none of us can get into the local strip clubs (two drink minimum at most), we're just going to have to content ourselves with being mallrats this weekend. Whatever it takes to get his mind off of things.

Of course, I don't want to rub anything in his face, so I guess I'll have to be somewhat discreet if I try to get any numbers.

 

[emap]

drstein, instead of wandering off to try and get phone numbers, ask him for advice or watch him, he had a girlfriend so he at least somewhat knows what to do.

Also, go along with what zanzibar said, not the selling your virginity on Ebay part, pretty sure the guy who actually did got a guy winning it But the listen to her part, make her feel like she's the only one in the room for you and your getting at least a phone number.

Also, don't just go up to every woman in the mall and ask for her phone number, walk up to one, start flirting with her, as in pay her compliments, cant tell you how often to guys that means 'Your hot, let's go someplace private.'

Back on topic, walk up to a woman, say you love her outfit, hair or whatever, if you have the money for it, buy flowers and give one to each woman you walk up to. Now here's the key, don't ask for her number, you simply walk up to her, give her the flower, if possible get magenta (dark red) silk roses, tell her your giving her the rose because, well pick one of the below:

I'm giving you this rose because you are so beautiful that no other woman in the mall compares

I'm giving you this rose because your eyes light up the room and I simply had to come tell you

I'm giving you this rose because your (perfect outfit is so wonderful/wonderful vibrant hair/your so blindingly beautiful) I can't not give it to you

I'm giving you this rose because I've fallen in love with you and I had to just come and tell you and give you something to remind you that you are loved

You just walk up to her, give her the rose, tell her one of the above and walk away, if she is interested she will either give you her number, or ask for yours. It's also possible she will want to talk to you, if she does, do as zanzibar said, listen to her, pay attention to her and try not to look about that much.

The last one is for anybody who is crying or seems down, though do keep in mind, if she's crying, she may latch onto you as a rebound if she just broke up with someone, and usually those peter out in a few weeks, though it's possible you will get some bed time fairly quickly.

 

[DrStein]

Also, don't just go up to every woman in the mall and ask for her phone number, walk up to one, start flirting with her, as in pay her compliments, cant tell you how often to guys that means 'Your hot, let's go someplace private.'

I like to think I'm smart enough to avoid that little blunder.

Anyway, I'll only take the opportunity to flirt if it comes by. This weekend is now more about helping my brother out and the lot of us getting together to talk about what movies we're going to make this summer.

I'll dedicate another day to just flirting and searching.

Anyway, I do know how to listen to a woman. The only reason I haven't gotten a girlfriend yet is that even though I listen, my approach was always off. I always ended coming off as either desperate, psychotic, or pathetic because the instant she turned the conversation to me, I had no tact.

 

[Dstanzler]

It should be love

Love makes sex draining and calm so delicately intimate and personal with the unnatural pant of hidden breaths.

Without love sex is meaningless. My love and I are broken up while she is fixing things and I have slept with other women and it means nothing--- there is no attraction--- no reason to claw at their skin and rock them gently to an orgasm--- it is meaningless thrusting to get off.

Fucking and sex are different. If you're in college, like me, fucking is smearing of hormones with liquor into the angst of bodies--- and without liquor--- just sex is hard to come by and is hurtful. You don't have the liquor as an excuse to keep another body close to you in bed or to laugh and whisper.... they get up and go and I have been left in the darkness of my empty room so naked staring into my own heart.

People keep echoing words: Confidence, Know yourself, Numbers; some say: Time.

Girls that like to fuck like confidence... yes... and most men need dry liquor to obtain that "strong" masculine mentality of confidence.

Girls that like to fuck give out numbers to get off.

Girls that like to fuck need someone that knows themself so that they won't feel so emmotionally abandoned unto their own hearts--- and its something to talk about.

But I can't get enough of love. Even apart from my babe I still get swept up in tears of love. Once during our seperation when we held hands and kissed my body never twisted so much with the agony of love--- and it was better than sex... and hopefully when she returns so will that first embrace be.

You're emmotional and you want a relashionship.

Relashionships are about timing... meeting a girl that you realize is so alive from what she says or her own emmotional passions (some call them interests ) and you have to see her a lot before anything happens be her friend and maybe realize you want to kiss her or to spend more time with her and maybe it happens and it clicks.

Its a combination of Karma/ Fate/ Souls...

Just keep your eyes open and work on yourself.

You seem to have issues with loneliness and confidence. Take some personal time to work on them... don't think about loneliness just live so that you can be happy alone and if loneliness gets you down you can masturbate (I'm being serious). See a shrink, get out doors, improve yourself in the meantime.

Who knows when love will just... walk in.

I met ex love in figuring things out in my high school english class when she was giving a speech on Beauty and the Beast... and believe me I didn't know shit about myself... and I asked her out 5 times... I tried to kiss her and I got shot down-------------- every time. And we spent a summer apart and I found out who I was and when she came back... we clicked.

And maybe in the last 16 months at college I was too different to cruel to torted. So I've been working on my identity too and I have told her and she is still away but when she comes back it will make for such love.

Go out there... find yourself... and be ready for the girl that moves your soul.

DLS

 

[Leeleigh]

Ok guys, you have 2 women here telling you the same thing. Listen to us because we have been there.

Women are not unapproachable, just remember when you do approach one, she is a person just like you. Treat them with respect and manners first off. Be honest in what you say. Keep it light, keep it fun and smile... alot. You would be surprised how far a smile will take you.

One last thing... confidence is great, but from my experience not always necessary. Shy guys still get girls. Just be yourself.. don't try to be something you are not...

 

[DrStein]

From what I've seen with guys who are good with women, confidence isn't really the right word. They're the kind of guys so secure in their identities that they no longer care how the rest of the world judges them.

Of course, that's not as easy as it sounds. It wasn't until I went to college that I started to understand what I wanted to do with my life. And this persona is still evolving. In January 2004, I came to the decision that I wanted to be a writer and director of film. Every person I've told that since has said something along the lines of, "Makes sense, you look like one," or, "I always figured you for the director type."

So I've got that going for me, at least.

 

[Leeleigh]

From what I've seen with guys who are good with women, confidence isn't really the right word. They're the kind of guys so secure in their identities that they no longer care how the rest of the world judges them.

Of course, that's not as easy as it sounds. It wasn't until I went to college that I started to understand what I wanted to do with my life. And this persona is still evolving. In January 2004, I came to the decision that I wanted to be a writer and director of film. Every person I've told that since has said something along the lines of, "Makes sense, you look like one," or, "I always figured you for the director type."

So I've got that going for me, at least.

Thats more than a lot of people know sweetie.

You are right about one thing... confidence is not the word... acceptance is. You must accept what you are, and be comfortable with that before you can be comfortable with another. Hang in there Doc... you really do have a good head on your shoulders.

 

[DrStein]

I know it will take time to find someone. The main reason I'm trying to get into the dating scene is because I can't find the right girl if I just sit on my ass and wait for her to come to me.

 

[Dstanzler]

Of course you can't

Of course you can't ... you have to be aggressive--- but don't come off that way.

You know, the easiest way to meet women is to introduce yourself in a class/club/etc. and just keep talking to them until you develop a friendly relashionship... and then try to take it to the next level.

Oh, and about treating women as people too.... that is so right on.

It's a strange notion that girls are people too... but I had some girl offer me sex the other day in class and I turned it down... there is just something so blunt and filthy about just sweaty casual sex.


DLS

 

[Leeleigh]

Of course you can't ... you have to be aggressive--- but don't come off that way.

You know, the easiest way to meet women is to introduce yourself in a class/club/etc. and just keep talking to them until you develop a friendly relashionship... and then try to take it to the next level.

Oh, and about treating women as people too.... that is so right on.

It's a strange notion that girls are people too... but I had some girl offer me sex the other day in class and I turned it down... there is just something so blunt and filthy about just sweaty casual sex.


DLS

Yeah isn't that just so strange...

I have had men pm me with pictures of their cocks with the message, "here is my cock, wanna fuck it"

Crude and rude is not the approach to take...

So yeah Dstanzler, women are people too, and can be crude, at times, just like guys can be.

 

[emap]

Dstanzler your missing out. Some of us women are very forward, but there are reasons for walking up to a guy and asking him to go back to her bed. I've done that one myself, for me it was just for sex, but some of us do actually think a bit more like a guy and will think of sex before anything else. She may have been wanting you to have sex with her because she has fallen for you, not because she just wanted a roll in the hay.

I'm probably confusing you, but whenever a woman comes up to you, talk to her, what she says to begin with and what she actually wants can and usually are two completely different things. Most women above 14 or so know that guys rarely actually say what they want to begin so we will stay and talk to him unless he says something totally crass. Believe me when I say this, you constantly are saying something totally crass. We don't usually enjoy fart jokes, but we are willing to overlook that if there is something else about you that we adore or love.

 

[DrStein]

what she says to begin with and what she actually wants can and usually are two completely different things.

Therein lies the challenge when talking to a woman.

We don't usually enjoy fart jokes, but we are willing to overlook that if there is something else about you that we adore or love.

And therein lies the challenge in convincing her you're worth thinking about even after you've left the room. Every guy has to find some sort of characteristic or personality trait that makes them appealing over others.

For some, it's easy. In other cases, it's a little more difficult.

 

[Leeleigh]

Dstanzler your missing out. Some of us women are very forward, but there are reasons for walking up to a guy and asking him to go back to her bed. I've done that one myself, for me it was just for sex, but some of us do actually think a bit more like a guy and will think of sex before anything else. She may have been wanting you to have sex with her because she has fallen for you, not because she just wanted a roll in the hay.

I'm probably confusing you, but whenever a woman comes up to you, talk to her, what she says to begin with and what she actually wants can and usually are two completely different things. Most women above 14 or so know that guys rarely actually say what they want to begin so we will stay and talk to him unless he says something totally crass. Believe me when I say this, you constantly are saying something totally crass. We don't usually enjoy fart jokes, but we are willing to overlook that if there is something else about you that we adore or love.

Gotta disagree with you on one point. There are a lot of women out there who do enjoy raunchy jokes, like fart jokes... I told a fart story and a fart joke to a guy last night last and I don't believe it offended him.. But guys, to be on the safe side... don't start with fart jokes.

 

[emap]

Yes there are alot of us who do enjoy a fart joke, rarely do we want to hear one when we first meet someone.

So I went with the easy way out and simply told them we don't like fart jokes, that way they aren't going to run off the love of their life because they told a fart joke 2 sentences into the conversation.

I've been there, he didn't get to a 4th sentence. Of course I like fart jokes to, but not that often and only from one specific guy.

 

[Leeleigh]

Yes there are alot of us who do enjoy a fart joke, rarely do we want to hear one when we first meet someone.

So I went with the easy way out and simply told them we don't like fart jokes, that way they aren't going to run off the love of their life because they told a fart joke 2 sentences into the conversation.

I've been there, he didn't get to a 4th sentence. Of course I like fart jokes to, but not that often and only from one specific guy.

I had to laugh when I saw that having told the joke the night before. My co-worker loves fart jokes.

On the serious side guys, a good clean joke is a great ice breaker.. If she cannot laugh at a joke... leave, cause she has no sense of humor, and guys, you always want a lady with a sense of humor.

 

[sxylegs]

Id flirt with you......
You need to not look so desperate .........If you walk with confidence and feel that you are the most fantastic person in the room , the women will fall all over you.

I wish you were here in Indiana.....would love to have a virgin!!!!! you are cute as hell!!!

 

[DrStein]

Okay, I gotta get out of Pittsburgh. When we were out at the mall today, there really weren't any women there around my age. Flirting with the little 14-year-olds in Hot Topic would get me arrested, and all the other women there... well let's just say it was fairly obvious that they weren't taking a 15-20 year pack-a-day smoking habit too well. Any girl there who was my age was dressed like a slut and/or hanging off the arm of some braindead wigger.

Being overly picky won't get me many dates, but a man has to have some standards.

 

[sxylegs]

Okay, I gotta get out of Pittsburgh. When we were out at the mall today, there really weren't any women there around my age. Flirting with the little 14-year-olds in Hot Topic would get me arrested, and all the other women there... well let's just say it was fairly obvious that they weren't taking a 15-20 year pack-a-day smoking habit too well. Any girl there who was my age was dressed like a slut and/or hanging off the arm of some braindead wigger.

Being overly picky won't get me many dates, but a man has to have some standards.

Try going to a bookstore or library......you seem to like to read......go in there and pick out a book ....sit down and read and check out the women.....
I cant believe how often I get hit on when im at Barnes and Nobles.....it also is a hangout.....Borders is too...

 

[DrStein]

Try going to a bookstore or library......you seem to like to read......go in there and pick out a book ....sit down and read and check out the women.....
I cant believe how often I get hit on when im at Barnes and Nobles.....it also is a hangout.....Borders is too...

I actually spend a lot of time at Barnes and Noble. It reminds me every time that the locals have a strong sentiment of anti-intellectualism. I'm the only person there over 12, but under 30.

 

[emap]

Ooooo you silly drstein.

There's nothing wrong with talking to an older woman, until we are dead we enjoy talking to cute men.

Besides that, they have friends and they aren't all the same age, so meeting a 40 year old woman doesn't mean she's the only option your opening yourself up to. She has friends, co-workers, and neighbors that probably are single and your age or around.

You can also go to other places besides a bookstore, or just a different bookstore. Usually the bookstore women go to is the closest one to her house or apartment, unlike malls, that one usually is the best mall. So next time your going to a bookstore, go to a different one, you're going to be surprised at the change.

Oh yeah, going back to dressed like a slut, not all woman who are dressed that way are that way. Part of it is because of the magazines where everybody dresses like that, part of it is because we want to show ourselves off, part is because of school, and a big part is usually because we are not living with mom and dad anymore, which means wear anything time, usually first thing we go for is the slut look. I don't get it myself, but it is.

Biggest trick to spotting an actual slut and/or hooker, the makeup. Either one goes for a bit extra makeup, that way no matter what happens you can clean your face and still have makeup on.

 

[DrStein]

Ooooo you silly drstein.

There's nothing wrong with talking to an older woman, until we are dead we enjoy talking to cute men.

I'm afraid you're not very familiar with the locals of Pittsburgh. The people are trying desperately to become a prominent major city again, and 75% of them think that means being relentlessly self-destructive.

I hate to sound stuck-up, but I don't want to put up ith people who refuse to take care of themselves.

If I see anyone who defies the stereotypes, I'll gladly talk to them, but lately they've been few and far between.

Biggest trick to spotting an actual slut and/or hooker, the makeup. Either one goes for a bit extra makeup, that way no matter what happens you can clean your face and still have makeup on.

Yeah, that sounds about right.