How Do I get laid?

[SnoopDog]

I agree, Snoopy, you need to just get out and meet people, join some clubs, go to church, a bookstore, WHATEVER. But definately, get some self-esteem, ego boost, confidence, whatever you want to call it. It's a mind-set, you don't need someone to do it for you, JUST GET IN THE MIND SET.

Try some self-help books, they can really give a person a lot of insight.

Trust me, women FLOCK to confident men. IF you feel great about yourself, other ppl will too and soon you'll have more chicks than you know what to do with.

Dont' worry so much about your age and such, it will happen when it does.

KEEP THE FAITH!

Thnx, keeping the faith is what I'm trying at the moment.

Babe....stand in front of the mirror and repeat after me "I'm a sexy man and women adore me" repeat as many times as necessary.

'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
.... mmmhmhmhm, still need a lot of those lines till it works.

Snoopy

 

[krazeekat]

You can do it snoopy. My money's on you

 

[violettak]

Thnx, keeping the faith is what I'm trying at the moment.




'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
'I'm a sexy man and women adore me.'
.... mmmhmhmhm, still need a lot of those lines till it works.

Snoopy

Maybe you just need a bunch of women (here or otherwise) to tell you. You look and sound drool-worthy to me. It's not just about how you look, but you also sound like an intelligent and sweet/down-to-earth guy.

 

[DivineClaud]

I feel your pain man...of course i'm only 18....And according to some people i know they are like "your too young to be having sex". I don't remember there being an age requirement lol. Anyways, I got a little confidence problem myself...i blame high school for it though lol. Fuck the little preppy standards lol. anyways, I think once we get into the swing of things and we start having some good experiences our confidence levels will rise ya know.

 

[SnoopDog]

You can do it snoopy. My money's on you

Don't blame me if you should wake up broke under a bridge, lol.
But thnx for the motivation.

Maybe you just need a bunch of women (here or otherwise) to tell you. You look and sound drool-worthy to me. It's not just about how you look, but you also sound like an intelligent and sweet/down-to-earth guy.

Thnx. Man you really seem to work on that. Oh and I AM down-to-earth by the way. (and sweet, lol )

I feel your pain man...of course i'm only 18....And according to some people i know they are like "your too young to be having sex". I don't remember there being an age requirement lol. Anyways, I got a little confidence problem myself...i blame high school for it though lol. Fuck the little preppy standards lol. anyways, I think once we get into the swing of things and we start having some good experiences our confidence levels will rise ya know.

I hear you and I have to agree, high-school sucks big time because it's all about looks and coolness there. Really puts guys like me and you down.

Snoopy

 

[ravenmx]

Snoopy, you shouldn't worry about being a virgin at 23. There is no timetable on when a man or a women should no longer be a virgin. Do what is comfortable for you.

As many have said in the thread, you need more confidence. I go after the shy people. I hate overly outgoing, egotistical people, but no matter how shy they are they still need to have some confidence in themselves. If only to stimulate conversation and getting to know them.

 

[DivineClaud]

Snoopy, you shouldn't worry about being a virgin at 23. There is no timetable on when a man or a women should no longer be a virgin. Do what is comfortable for you.

As many have said in the thread, you need more confidence. I go after the shy people. I hate overly outgoing, egotistical people, but no matter how shy they are they still need to have some confidence in themselves. If only to stimulate conversation and getting to know them.

I need to move to minnesota lol. Yeah i have to agree. Comfortability is an important thing to remember. Gotta feel comfortable in yourself and your surroundings.

 

[Munachi]

hm...

you remind me of my brother - he is approx. your age, and while he has had sex, he is also very shy... imho he is quite good looking and i often wonder why he doesn't have a gf, he'd have no problem getting one if he was just a bit more self confident, because unfortunately self confidence is something most people find attractive...

as the others said, just looking for sex might not be a good idea... i have one friend who is a virgin at 25 or 26, not sure, and my impression is that whenever he talks to a girl, in the back of his head there is the thought that maybe she will be the one he could lose his virginity with - and that is not very attractive...

but looking for a serious gf... not sure either - first of all because in my experience falling in love, for example, is not something that happens when you look for it...

i'd say just live your life, have fun, flirt, see where that leads to, just let life happen to you, in a way... i find that this, especially flirting, can be a bit tough in germany, that i admit. on average, it seems we are not a flirty people, but it is still possible...

erm - or if you really are eager to lose your virginity, go backpacking... at least in my experience, staying in hostels is the easiest way to have sex ... not sure if it is as easy for a guy though...

 

[RavenousRae]

I don't think it's a bad thing at 23 to be a virgin. I'm 23, and I only first had sex when I was 21. My best friend who is the same age, lost her virginity two months ago. You aren't alone - just go out and meet women if you really want to have sex.

 

[joeyshabadu]

Thanks.

Also, dude, you should try the opportunity in hooking up with women in Lit, I'm sure there's many sex crazed women that'll have sex with any guy that flirts with them. If you're lucky enough to hook up with a woman in Lit, you may either take a bus trip or plane trip to go meet them in person. There is a personals section in Lit where you can do this.

Thank you, Rocker, for giving us all something to look forward too.

for thread:

As far as getting laid goes, I think it's individualized. After all, I've had sex a few times before and I couldn't tell you how. They just wanted to, and I wanted to. Sometimes it was because we were in love, sometimes not. I'm with any reader who says that love is the better deal. Even if it ends and you feel like your chest will explode, it is worth it. Love just seems to be self evidently the meaning of life. That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a purely sexual relationship.. not sure they exist, but if they do I think it's great.

Shabadu

 

[krazeekat]

Don't blame me if you should wake up broke under a bridge, lol.
But thnx for the motivation.

Then I'll just move in with you. That'll solve both our problems LOL

 

[Rueben80]

Hang out by a drug rehab center. You'll find a fair number of people looking to replace their cravings with sex

 

[SnoopDog]

Snoopy, you shouldn't worry about being a virgin at 23. There is no timetable on when a man or a women should no longer be a virgin. Do what is comfortable for you.

As many have said in the thread, you need more confidence. I go after the shy people. I hate overly outgoing, egotistical people, but no matter how shy they are they still need to have some confidence in themselves. If only to stimulate conversation and getting to know them.

I need to move to minnesota lol. Yeah i have to agree. Comfortability is an important thing to remember. Gotta feel comfortable in yourself and your surroundings.

Thnx for the nice words. But as I said before self-conmfidence, courage, etc. doesn't come out of the blue. And with such a long history of failure, it's even harder.

hm...

you remind me of my brother - he is approx. your age, and while he has had sex, he is also very shy... imho he is quite good looking and i often wonder why he doesn't have a gf, he'd have no problem getting one if he was just a bit more self confident, because unfortunately self confidence is something most people find attractive...

as the others said, just looking for sex might not be a good idea... i have one friend who is a virgin at 25 or 26, not sure, and my impression is that whenever he talks to a girl, in the back of his head there is the thought that maybe she will be the one he could lose his virginity with - and that is not very attractive...

but looking for a serious gf... not sure either - first of all because in my experience falling in love, for example, is not something that happens when you look for it...

i'd say just live your life, have fun, flirt, see where that leads to, just let life happen to you, in a way... i find that this, especially flirting, can be a bit tough in germany, that i admit. on average, it seems we are not a flirty people, but it is still possible...

erm - or if you really are eager to lose your virginity, go backpacking... at least in my experience, staying in hostels is the easiest way to have sex ... not sure if it is as easy for a guy though...

Well, I'm just not looking for sex but I got the feeling if I don't have any soon, the train might have passed you know. Oh and backpacking might really only work for girls, lol.

I don't think it's a bad thing at 23 to be a virgin. I'm 23, and I only first had sex when I was 21. My best friend who is the same age, lost her virginity two months ago. You aren't alone - just go out and meet women if you really want to have sex.

I don't know whether the though of not being alone is encouraging or discouraging. Because I only know males who have the same problem.

Thank you, Rocker, for giving us all something to look forward too.

for thread:

As far as getting laid goes, I think it's individualized. After all, I've had sex a few times before and I couldn't tell you how. They just wanted to, and I wanted to. Sometimes it was because we were in love, sometimes not. I'm with any reader who says that love is the better deal. Even if it ends and you feel like your chest will explode, it is worth it. Love just seems to be self evidently the meaning of life. That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a purely sexual relationship.. not sure they exist, but if they do I think it's great.

Shabadu

Well, I prefer a broken heart over no feelings at all, but as far as broken hearts go,well, see my sig line.

Then I'll just move in with you. That'll solve both our problems LOL

I think it would, lol.

Hang out by a drug rehab center. You'll find a fair number of people looking to replace their cravings with sex

Somehow I have to think of Chloe from Fight Club.

Snoopy

 

[Guest]

Arent hookers legal in Germany?

Damn, and I thought I was bad. LMAO!

 

[Munachi]

Well, I'm just not looking for sex but I got the feeling if I don't have any soon, the train might have passed you know. Oh and backpacking might really only work for girls, lol.

well i think it might be one of these slow trains that stop in all stations so it is pretty easy to catch it in a different town should you miss it at first... really, let life just happen... whenever the time is right you will meet the right person as well, and all of a sudden you won't even remember having worried anymore...

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Snoopy, honey, if I lived near you, I'd be delighted to play with you. You're sweet, you're kind, you're just so damned lovable.. and you've got a body I drool over.

 

[SnoopDog]

Snoopy, honey, if I lived near you, I'd be delighted to play with you. You're sweet, you're kind, you're just so damned lovable.. and you've got a body I drool over.

Well, can't you tell the german women because they don't seem to realize the fact.

And major 'thank-you-kisses' of course.



Snoopy

 

[krazeekat]

Awww...you changed your AV.

 

[SnoopDog]

Awww...you changed your AV.

I regularly do.

Snoopy

 

[blacktacular]

I wish I could go back

I wish I could go back to those days before I had sex. Gee, at my current age of 42, I sometimes laugh at the thought that if I was 42 year old virgin, I'd also probably be a gazillion-aire richer than Bill Gates.

Hey, it's gonna happen and usually for the first time, you'll just be there, not having too much to do with it (control) except making the "stupid face" at the end.

A little advice when it happens, try to stay up on your hands at first and don't just lay don't smash her (that was the advice I got from my first time).

 

[wetcatt]

I'm 26 and still a virgin and I can totally sympathize. I guess becuase I either have known people how had unhealthy active sex lives and others who had unhealthy non-sex lives, I just don't know how find a balance. I want to find love and a serious relationship, but I also want someone to screw the hell out of me

 

[BXGemini20]

I'm almost 21 and never had sex. I had few crushs at 13 and 14. I went to an all boys high school (not my choice). I focused more on my school than anything and just go into a nice college. I'm ending my third year now. I had an opportunity last year to have sex, but I wasn't going to fuck someone I just meet. I ended up making a nice female companion that I talk to every now and then. This year I have got numbers of 3 girls. I call when I can, but I always forgot to call. Can't wait for summer as I can get to know this girls better.


Snoopy: As everyone said so far, it is not that big of a deal. Just make sure you watch porn so you don't embarrass yourself.

 

[Pinnochio]

snoop, i'm in the same boat dude. i'm 26 and physically handicapped. sex to me is still just a fantasy. i've met women on lit, but their never local. sometimes i wish for sex, and other times a relationship.

 

[Pleasureboy2]

Listen Snoop, you shouldn't worry so much about it. If you go out to clubs or where ever and focus on just talking with people and such, without the pressure of thinking "I need to get laid", then it will happen. I didn't get laid for the first until I was about 22. And believe me, it wasn't that great the first time.

Try to focus on just meeting people without the pressure of thinking "I have to get laid" and it will happpen.

Also, I agree that confidence is what will attract others to you, not just women but people in general. Doesn't really matter what you look like if you have alot of confidence people will be attracted to you.

Maybe read Dale Carnagies Book "how to win friends and influence people"

 

[Munachi]

Just make sure you watch porn so you don't embarrass yourself.

hm i kind of disagree. porn is fine, but not for learning about sex. imho at least. just don't go lying to the girl pretending to be all experienced. probably she will find knowing you are a virgin a lot better to deal with and probably feel honoured to be your first, and make sure she teaches you everything. or if she is a virgin too, then you just discover everything together...