How disposable are they really???

[Mia62]

Do you drop em as soon as someone that you think is better comes along? Do you collect them and polish them regularly? Do you collect them but only bring them out to play every other Sunday?


Why do you feel this way?

 

[Nighthunter]

Do you drop em as soon as someone that you think is better comes along? Do you collect them and polish them regularly? Do you collect them but only bring them out to play every other Sunday?


Why do you feel this way?

true friendship in any form is hard to come by, i have acquantices, allys, and friends, my true friends i try very hard to hang on to, but always realizing that sooner or later our paths may diverge

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

I've had some on line friends for many years now.

I've had some that have faded as they or I have changed.

I've not ment to lose some, but have things going on in my real life that interfered with my keeping in touch.

I've had some that I thought I could be friends with, but couldn't, and let them slide on purpose.

 

[Mia62]

Oh...and if you think this about you (used in the generic sense of the word)...it isn't.

 

[Freya]

I have a kajillion aquaintances online, but very few that I'd consider a true, deep friend. Basically those that are, are much like those I have in real life. We don't need to talk every day, but we're there for each other when it's really needed. I prefer it that way - there's no obligation to chat if either don't feel like it, there's no bullshit about "Oh, you're ignoring me" - if there's something worth saying, or a problem that we can help each other with - then we're there.

 

[PacificBlue]

*Sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong*

Let them just be for now...

 

[Mia62]

I have a kajillion aquaintances online, but very few that I'd consider a true, deep friend. Basically those that are, are much like those I have in real life. We don't need to talk every day, but we're there for each other when it's really needed. I prefer it that way - there's no obligation to chat if either don't feel like it, there's no bullshit about "Oh, you're ignoring me" - if there's something worth saying, or a problem that we can help each other with - then we're there.

This is pretty much the way I feel.

Except that those I have let in close...to know the internal me...those ones I show special considerations to when life changes.

 

[Mia62]

*Sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong*

Let them just be for now...

Are you talking to me??? Who/What are you talking about??

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Re: Re: How disposable are they really???

true friendship in any form is hard to come by, i have acquantices, allys, and friends, my true friends i try very hard to hang on to, but always realizing that sooner or later our paths may diverge

Ditto.

I hang on to true friends. I find them rare gems in my life. I have no space in my life for mere acquantices. I take special notice to those that pass by me...

 

[Nighthunter]

Re: Re: Re: How disposable are they really???

Ditto.

I hang on to true friends. I find them rare gems in my life. I have no space in my life for mere acquantices. I take special notice to those that pass by me...

agreed, but sometimes the most ugly oyster hides the rarest pearl

 

[blueeyedangel]

There is something to be said for having a good online friend to talk to about life's troubles; I feel I can be even more open than a friend sitting in front of me for whatever reason. There isn't all the extraneous bullshit like IRL to get in the way. *shrug* Maybe it's just the lack of sleep talking.....

 

[Nora]

There are some friendships that have endured for me through the whole time I've been online. Others haven't, although I might have considered them closer friends at the time.

Some have fucked up and been excised from my frame of reference without a second thought.

It depends on the person and the quality of the friendship, true. But I think it also depends on the amount of work both sides are willing to put into relationship maintenence.

 

[Guest]

it would be cool to make friends w/ some here but not sure if the feeling is mutual

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Re: Re: Re: Re: How disposable are they really???

agreed, but sometimes the most ugly oyster hides the rarest pearl

Aye...I am finding that out.


Oysters are often ugly though.


I know my pearls...I know who I am...I know who my love is..I know who my friends are...and I know where my home is...

 

[Mia62]

It depends on the person and the quality of the friendship, true. But I think it also depends on the amount of work both sides are willing to put into relationship maintenence.

It does and it doesn't. I have some online friends that I talk to whenever one of us gets the urge....the relationships do not require daily maintenance.

Then there are others that I have had daily contact with and then...poof...it stops. Even when the reason is known...sometimes it can still hurt.

 

[Nora]

It does and it doesn't. I have some online friends that I talk to whenever one of us gets the urge....the relationships do not require daily maintenance.

Then there are others that I have had daily contact with and then...poof...it stops. Even when the reason is known...sometimes it can still hurt.

Ok, I do see your point. I have a few friends like that, too. Ones with whom it doesn't matter if it's been ages since we've talked, we just pick right up where we've left off.

And yeah, I've been blown off and blown people off before, too. No real reason for it, in most cases. Just diverging interests/time spent online, etc.

And yeah, sometimes shit hurts. I think it's cyclical, like most stuff around here. lol


And De Sade? You'll never know if you don't make the first move. If you get blown off, nothing lost. But if you don't you might gain a very cool friend or two.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I'd like to add...that real friends...don't require daily maintenance.

 

[Mia62]

I'd like to add...that real friends...don't require daily maintenance.

That's a good point. But the rare few where you mesh so well that you have daily contact (not maintenance) because you both enjoy the interaction...those are the ones that are missed when they are gone.

(and refer back to your pm for any necessary explanations regarding this entire thread)

 

[Freya]

If you establish a pattern of daily contact, and then stop suddenly it does leave the other wondering why. But a simple explanation usually helps. I prefer ones that don't require daily maintenance.

 

[PacificBlue]

I think that sometimes we are only meant to be in someone's life for just a brief time both online and off. Friends that are there for the long haul are a rare find and I think if you expect that kind of relationship from everyone you encounter, you will be disappointed.

Today is all that is promised, tomorrow is not.

Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.

 

[Mia62]

Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.

You never answered my question above.

 

[Shingen]

I had one friend who started being negative all the time and no matter how much other friends would try to cheer her up, it was never enough. I even tried my hardest, but to no avail. I hate when others bring you down for no reason at all. I hated the negativity and she couldn't even see the lighter side of life. So my resolution was to move on. I've been better ever since.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I like that my circle is small. It spands around the globe...but my circle of close friends is small. I mesh well with my friends. I take great care in finding them...keeping them. Friends to me, are like family. A Family of my own choice. One that I can make my own. Family needs no maintenance.

Neither do true friends.

Just love & Understanding...I think John Lennon said this as well...

 

[Freya]

I like that my circle is small. It spands around the globe...but my circle of close friends is small. I mesh well with my friends. I take great care in finding them...keeping them. Friends to me, are like family. A Family of my own choice. One that I can make my own. Family needs no maintenance.

Neither do true friends.

Just love & Understanding...I think John Lennon said this as well...

That's the best way to do it. I'd rather have 5 close friends, than 50 somewhat friends.

 

[PacificBlue]

You never answered my question above.

Let it go.