How did your partner react ?

[curiousus]

This is a question for all GBLT's out there:
How did your partner react when you confided in them you new found sexuality?
I've been married for 26 years, and can speak openly with my (bi) wife.
We had a very romantic meal, followed by some hot tubbing, and long senous massages.
While she was rubbing my back, I let her know that I was interested in bi oral sex, and I wanted to explore it with her.
She wasn't too receptive.
Byut at the same time she didn't say "No way".
I think she need to figure out where to put the boundaries she is comfortable with and then define her comfort zone.

Is this psychobabble or could I have approached this better?
Curiousus

 

[noonenew]

I told my current girlfriend within 2 months or so of us going out. I knew she was really open minded, she just told me she loves me but it would take her some time to wrap her head around the idea of my love of cross dressing and anal play. We have a 'special' date night tonight, and we're going really strong. Her only stipulation is that she doesn't want to physically share me, and I'm with her on that one.

My guess is that you have to do it bluntly and early in the relationship. If she/he stays, then you're good.

 

[johnnyfm78]

My girlfriend (now wife) had been in several MFMs in the past, and I think was relieved when I indicated that I like multi-cock situations too. It started off as a semi-joke that I made one night, but it prompted a real discussion about bi-friskiness that led us to good places.

 

[bi golly]

My girlfriend (now wife) had been in several MFMs in the past, and I think was relieved when I indicated that I like multi-cock situations too. It started off as a semi-joke that I made one night, but it prompted a real discussion about bi-friskiness that led us to good places.

Semi-joke is how it usually starts out. It is followed with 'bated breath'.

I had a new girlfriend riding me in the reverse cowboy and she slid a finger into my ass. I think she was trying to shock me and then I told her I liked it and I liked to finger my ass while masturbating.

This led to sexual experimentation until she decided she had enough and stopped. I should have taken that for a cue because sex for us slowed down (although not for her because she was cheating while living with me).

 

[nbghyt56]

bi golly - that's pretty shitty to happen. i haevn't lived with any girlfriends yet, it's my philosophy that cohabitation before marriage isn't for me. haha

my girlfriend doesn't know my desires yet, i'll tell her in due time, she's not into as much experimenting as i am but we're slowly starting to try more things.

 

[limplizzard]

My wife had several lesbian affairs before we were married, after we married I told her about my affairs with men, she got excited and insisted on watching me suck a cock. I was glad to grant her request.

 

[sexydana]

my hubbynow,bf then was surprised but a little too busy with my sister to complain much.

 

[cuffed_kitten]

I told the guy I'm seeing that I'm bi a few weeks after we went from friends to dating. As with many average guys, he was suitably turned on at the idea of girl/girl action lol!

 

[bequ23]

When my hubby and I first met, he was in a gay relationship, and I felt very comfortable telling him about my unrequited fantasies about women. Throughout our 17 year marriage we have talked about other partners but never did anything. Several years ago he ws singing "Sandman" and I said if he gets a "he", I want a "she" and his remark was - come on, you are NOT a lesbian! I felt hurt after the many years we'd had together and the things I've shared with him.

Now things are different. I have been on Lit ALOT lately and have been telling him more about my fantasies and he's been okay with my chatting with other women. I asked how he would feel if I wanted to be wtih another woman, and he's okay with it now.

So there have been definate cycles in our marriage.

 

[carlisme]

Well, today has been quite the day! A little background first...... my girlfriend and I are quite sexual and into sex toys and such (we should hae a discount card at the local toystore ha ha!). Anyway, I have been thinking about sucking cock and perhaps being taken anally by a man, but was a little shy about bringing it up with my lady.

The other day whilst shopping for toys, I took the plunge and said I wanted her to do me with a strapon. She was delighted! I have used dildos and other things in the past while masturbating but could never let myself open up to the woman I was seeing at the time. When we got the strapon I figured that would satiate my curiosity a bit. I was nervous the first time I climbed on it, but it was wonderful! Fast forward to today........

So, we spend the entire afternoon making love, fucking, sucking and generally having a great time. While talking the "semi-joking" stuff started about the difference between a real cock and a fake one. Both of us just kind of throwing comments out there but not really getting to the point. All of a sudden she asked me if I had ever thught about having another guy suck me off. I tried to act demure, but uh huh! Yes I have. Again, she was delighted and said that she thought it would be hot to see it.

One thing led to another and I fessed up that I am really turned on by hard cocks and would like to try sucking one. Total support from her on this and she said she would be ok with it as long as she could watch. Oh yeah!

I pulled out a dildo and started sucking on it. She got really hot and started giving me pointers on how to do it. We have set some boundaries about what we want to do (she wants to get with another woman as well with me watching). All in all, a wonderful, liberating day!

 

[trishcd]

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