How Can A Parent Cope Now Days ?

[SilverVeil]

It constantly amazes me how society can dictate how a child is disciplined by their parents.

When I was a kid in the 60's and 70's .... when we misbehaved, we got spanked. I am not talking about a beating ... I am talking about a real down home style butt blistering with either a hand or a switch.

It did not happen very often, since I was not a bad kid when I was little. But when I did something really bad like ride my bike in the street when I knew I was not allowed out of the yard/driveway on it, I got my butt spanked. And I remembered it for a long time.

I don't think my folks were abusing me. If anything I remembered what I had done wrong and either tried to : A ) not do it again or B ) not get caught doing it again.

A lot of kids these days run wild, there does not seem to be any discipline in their lives. They are rude, loud, uncaring of anything other than themselves and their instant gratification.

I don't think any child should be beaten. There is a difference between spanking and beating someone. I know the arguement about how some people need to be taught the difference between the 2. And there has to be a line drawn somewhere.

My 3 yr old ran out into the parking lot of a store before I could catch her hand. She ran right in front of a car. Did I hug her when I reached her and knew she was alright ? You bet I did .... then I spanked her butt 5 whacks and said " Don't you ever do that again ! You could have been really hurt ! "
She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said " Bad boo-boo's WesWee ? " And I said, " Yes, very bad boo-boo's. " .

Now when we leave the store, she takes me hand and tells me she does not want either one of us to get " bad boo-boos ".

 

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[tyme]

I am the same way with my kids. If needs be I will spank them and I use time outs too. My kids know I love them and I do not beat them . But they know if they grab the baby (well he's one) and try to hang him up by his feet (last night) they are getting a spanking.

 

[Ladyhawke]

Having worked with kids and seen what the lack of discipline makes them turn out like I swore I would have kids who behave. I am not afraid to discipline them including spanking when they misbehave. It has paid off greatly, I have kids I can take to the movies, out to eat, shopping, etc and most of the time they are well behaved. Another thing that bugs me is the lack of politeness among kids today. People are constantly amazed when my kids say please and thank you. It just blows me away that parents don't teach their kids basic respect anymore.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

It is the same parents who say "I'd never spank my kids' that raise kids to be liars and criminals. Actions without consequenses leads to a lack of discipline and eventual problems for both child and parent.

 

[eagleyez]

You prove your human-with instincts about protecting your kids. Nothing wrong or misguided about that-your daughter knows you love her!!

The big difference-you spank your kid to impart a memorable message-"Car will hurt you and that would make Mom really sad."

Abuse is something altogether different-sadly, so very prevalent.

It comes in many forms.

 

[bad kitty]

One of the things I hate the most is seeing kids telling their parents what to do, what they are gonna do themselves, and arguing twith the parent. Let me change that last one, the parent arguing with the child you tell the child what to do and on some things you can negotiate, but once you put your foot down, don't argue with them for goodness sake, and definately don't back down and give in after putting your foot down. They will expect to get their way everytime.

What I hate now is if you discipline your child in public you are at risk for losing them. That is rediculous and pisses me off.