guys losing their virginity

Dickfer

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I would say wait until you find someone special. I would also say what happens when you wait until you find this person and you finally have sex and then she leaves you 3 monthes down the road. But then you say well that wouldn't happen. Boy do you not know what's down the road. I think a lot of people wait for the right person and it all works out and you live forever and ever with them. I think most the times you are waiting for nothing! I think you should use protection and go get some!
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This doesn't mean go out and do 2 different girls a day... I'm just saying you might not want to wait so much. Life is short and sex is great!

I wanted to point two things out to you also.

You said something about standards being too high. I would say they are too high. Lower them some... Then you might get some!

You also mentioned slut. Ok. A virgin isn't a slut but a girl who enjoys sex is? All sluts were virgins at one time buddy boy...

I might of misunderstood where you were going but I felt you don't really understand what's going on.

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I'm curious to hear both opinion from men and women on this. I'm an 18 yr old male virgin. I haven't had sex because I never found the right girl. Maybe my standards are too high. The question. Will I be better off in the long run to find some slut and go screw? Or should I wait till I find someone I actually like?
 
I lost my virginity to my sister, and while I don't regret that I do sometimes wonder how things would be different had it been with someone else.

You don't have to find a slut to get laid. Find yourself a girlfriend who doens't have an aversion to sex. When I was your age most of the girls I knew were having sex with their boyfriends. I didn't hang out with sluts either, it was just the normal thing.

I think that nowadays the puritanical element in our society may have been somewhat successful with their anti-sex propaganda, so girls your age might not be as sexually liberated as they were ten years ago. If this is true it is sad. Teaching someone to feel bad about sex is such a terrible lie to tell. It would be one thing if this element had realistic motivations, such as the prevention of pregnancy. But the truth is those kinds of reasons are simply excuses. The real truth is that they are doing it for superstitious reasons, because they think the bible tells them to. Now I'm no atheist, I believe that there is some kind of God. I just think religion is a load of horse shit. Religion is man's creation and the bible is no more the word of god than an ad for Dominoes pizza is. That doesn't mean there isn't a lot in the bible that is true and good and wise, there is. There is also a lot that isn't true and has been proven false. It is anything but infallible. People should think for themselves and not let some preacher with a whacked libido use it to convince them that sex is a "sin."

But anyway, I'm really getting off topic here. If I were you I'd wait till I found someone I was in love with. She doesn't have to be the love of your life, and she doesn't have to be someone you want to marry. Just someone you care about and who you know cares about you too.

Hans
 
Being a virgin myself, I would lean on waiting, obviously. Even though I don't want to sound too egotistical...I will still say that I could easily have sex with a number of attractive looking men. But, I want more than just sex, and I want more of a relationship than just a guy trying desperately to get into my pants. Although, I must say, I do enjoy the game.
God knows that I get horny as hell, and I know that I will enjoy sex immensely. Hell, I enjoy the sexual acts that I do now
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But, I feel that, for me, it is important to wait for someone that I would like not only to have sex with, but to talk and laugh with the next morning as well.
I think that you already know what you want to do, otherwise I don't think that you would have waited as long as you have.
At any rate, good luck with whatever choice you make.

melody_lane
 
Let me say this--- I myself waited until I was 23 to lose my virginity & wound up doing it on the floor in my apartment, lucky not to get some VD from the prick since his had been in every coochie in the city.
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I wish I would have waited for someone a little more special than that, but the resentment in myself of still being a virgin & just wanting to "get it overwith" led me down that path. I had kept it for so long for moral/religious reasons (as you know we are supposed to remain virginal until the wedding night [HA!!!]), but realized that I no longer felt obligated to follow that religious reasoning that had been drilled into my head since I was a child. Call it rebellion, call it buckling to peer-pressure, call it just plain lust, or whatever you want. All I knew was that I had finally gotten out of this "church" that controlled my life & I had to gewt rid of this virginity that was plaguing me!!

But I can say that last night I got together with one of my best friends from high school that I hadn't seen in 3 years. She "confided" in me that she is still a virgin (at 30yrs old) & won't even date a guy that isn't one!
I thought this is a little extreme, but it is what she believes with all her heart.

So, long story short, you have to do what you believe is the best thing for you. If you are not morally/religiously opposed to losing your virginity befor marriage then go for it when you feel you have found the woman who will take your cherry and show you how to be the best lover you can be!!
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I feel sorry for your friend Hullo_nurse. The only way she's going to find a 30 year old virgin is to start looking for guys who have been in a coma for the past decade. Either that or someone who is well... Unattactive, both physically and personality wise. But mainly I feel sorry for her because she's been tricked and sold a big fat bridge.

Hans
 
Originally posted by Hans:
I think that nowadays the puritanical element in our society may have been somewhat successful with their anti-sex propaganda, so girls your age might not be as sexually liberated as they were ten years ago. If this is true it is sad. Teaching someone to feel bad about sex is such a terrible lie to tell. It would be one thing if this element had realistic motivations, such as the prevention of pregnancy.

AIDS/HIV, Antibiotic resistant Syhphilis and Gonarea, Herpes, Genital warts, and all of the other things I've seen listed in current anti-promiscuity ads aren't 'realistic reason' for young girls to be reluctant about sex? Young boys too for that matter.

I taught both my daughters that the only truly 'safe sex' is 'no sex'. I also offered them a no questions asked trip to the doctor for a prescription for the pill whenever they wanted it. I'm not dumb enough to believe that abstinance was in their future, but the fact remains that virginity is the best defense against some truly horrific consequences.




[This message has been edited by Weird Harold (edited 04-08-2000).]
 
Let's all just stay in our house too. Not just stay a virgin. That's an even safer way not to get an STD.

Originally posted by Weird Harold:
AIDS/HIV, Antibiotic resistant Syhphilis and Gonarea, Herpes, Genital warts, and all of the other things I've seen listed in current anti-promiscuity ads aren't 'realistic reason' for young girls to be reluctant about sex? Young boys too for that matter.

I taught both my daughters that the only truly 'safe sex' is 'no sex'. I also offered them a no questions asked trip to the doctor for a prescription for the pill whenever they wanted it. I'm not dumb enough to believe that abstinance was in their future, but the fact remains that virginity is the best defense against some truly horrific consequences.


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Originally posted by dickfer:
Let's all just stay in our house too. Not just stay a virgin. That's an even safer way not to get an STD.


If that's what turns you on, then being a recluse or hermit can be fun.

In realistic terms, find a safe, clean partner or two, and stay monogamous or bigamous. Make sure your partners stay that way too. In other words, know who your fucking, and who they are fucking.

BTW A word about reply with quotes. If you quote a long message, please delete the portions you quoted that doesn't relate to your response.
 
I didn't LOSE my virginity... I know exactly where I left it... Problem is the BITCH won't give it back!!!
 
Hans great joke man you lost your virginity to your sister lol........................you are kidding aren't you?
 
Weird Harold... Thank you for bringing that to my attention. Will do.
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Kind of picky but I can see that it's the right thing to do.

Originally posted by Weird Harold:


BTW A word about reply with quotes. If you quote a long message, please delete the portions you quoted that doesn't relate to your response.
 
I want to thank everyone who has written a repsonse to my question. I also want to clear up one thing with dickfer. I was not implying that all girls who aren't virgins are sluts. My mom isn't a virgin and I don't think she's a slut. I'm glad she chose to breed
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. When I wrote sluts I had this particular girl in mind. She may single handedly support the entire prophylactic industry. But I do appreciate what you had to say.
 
I responded in another thread about my suggestions for "women," in this regard, and my focus was on the emotional aspect. Roland asked me for my advice for males, and I didn't feel qualified to give it. So far only Dickfer has really talked about that aspect.

I think one of the things Roland wanted to know was if there is an emotional reason for a male to wait. For a woman, I think that there definitely is. What about for guys?

Have any of you males regretted "losing" <glances at Ravenloft> your virginity to a certain person or in a certain way? Or is sex so great that to a guy it doesn't matter how or where you finally do it?
 
Roland asks - "Or should I wait till I find someone I actually like?".

well if the thread had been about whether you need to do it with someone you LOVE we ight have had a good debate ... but "like"? You mean you'd contemplate it with someone you DON'T like?

"OK you are an unpleasant woman and a fat ugly cow to boot, so as a punishment I'd like you to take my virginity"...

Er I'm struggling here ....!
 
I didn't get rid of my own lack of experience until I was 23, and then my first time was with a prostitute. It was NOT a very good first experience, but I will say that it was not my partner's (can a prostitute be a partner?) fault. The poor girl tried, but I was so nervous I couldn't get it up.

It was not by choice that I waited so long, either. I was extremely shy, and went to an all male college, both of which limited my chances. Fortunately, I met someone that I have been committed to for more than 20 years, and I eventually got it right.
 
One thing I have found, that if you mastrubate alot, (and I used to) that when you go to have sex, it is really blah..
I have also found for me to get any pleasure what so ever the woman has to be on top...
 
Just wanted to say that i lost my virginity last weekend to my girlfriend. She wasn't a virgin. First of all i was so nervous i had trouble getting + keeping it hard. but while we did do it, she loved it. Also it wasn't all that, probably because I used to mastrubate like once a day before... If there are still virgins out there, cut that shit out... dont mastrubate too much. anyways I am waiting for the next time, hoping to get it right hehe
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