Grief and Submission?

[RespectALLdads]

I recently lost my husband and I have been all over the place emotionally.I am wondering if it is possible to actually beat the grief out of someone?

EXSAMPLE...being afraid to feel the anger and hurt towards my spouse so submitting and having someone FORCE me to deal with those two emotions.

It doesn't translate very well in words but would like to know your thoughts.

 

[GinaeEvans]

Therapy? I don't think beatings will work.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Not in my experience. It's a good way to get hurt and not in a good way either.

Really all it does is pushes things to the side and gives you an excuse not to deal with those feelings.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I recently lost my husband and I have been all over the place emotionally.I am wondering if it is possible to actually beat the grief out of someone?

EXSAMPLE...being afraid to feel the anger and hurt towards my spouse so submitting and having someone FORCE me to deal with those two emotions.

It doesn't translate very well in words but would like to know your thoughts.

Sounds like you have someone in mind.

 

[MidgetClown]

I recently lost my husband and I have been all over the place emotionally.I am wondering if it is possible to actually beat the grief out of someone?

EXSAMPLE...being afraid to feel the anger and hurt towards my spouse so submitting and having someone FORCE me to deal with those two emotions.

It doesn't translate very well in words but would like to know your thoughts.

 

[RespectALLdads]

I wasn't sure,I do go to therapy but that is tedious and it's only been 6 weeks. I'm not crazy I assure you just trying to supplement therapy.

 

[GinaeEvans]

I wasn't sure,I do go to therapy but that is tedious and it's only been 6 weeks. I'm not crazy I assure you just trying to supplement therapy.

I would supplement it with some anti-depression medication, honestly.

 

[dolf]

if it's tedious then you're with the wrong therapist.

it's a very personal thing. you need the right fit.

 

[LiFeNdEaTh]

Therapy? I don't think beatings will work.

..lol

 

[TJcurious]

Taking for granted this is a real post, there are stages to grief, and everybody's time frame for processing them is different. The adage that "time heals" isn't just a saying.....it's true. Good luck, hun.

 

[LiFeNdEaTh]

Taking for granted this is a real post, there are stages to grief, and everybody's time frame for processing them is different. The adage that "time heals" isn't just a saying.....it's true. Good luck, hun.

preech on!

 

[RespectALLdads]

This is a real post,I'm just exploring other options instead of sitting around wallowing in my grief. I'm always willing to learn new things about myself and others and thought this was a safe place to explore and gain knowledge. I'm not trying to bother anyone.

 

[LiFeNdEaTh]

This is a real post,I'm just exploring other options instead of sitting around wallowing in my grief. I'm always willing to learn new things about myself and others and thought this was a safe place to explore and gain knowledge. I'm not trying to bother anyone.

lol... you'll be ok

 

[Lancecastor]

I recently lost my husband and I have been all over the place emotionally.I am wondering if it is possible to actually beat the grief out of someone?

EXSAMPLE...being afraid to feel the anger and hurt towards my spouse so submitting and having someone FORCE me to deal with those two emotions.

It doesn't translate very well in words but would like to know your thoughts.

Yes, you should let strange men beat and abuse you for 6.5 Weeks.

 

[julybaby04]

This is a real post,I'm just exploring other options instead of sitting around wallowing in my grief. I'm always willing to learn new things about myself and others and thought this was a safe place to explore and gain knowledge. I'm not trying to bother anyone.

I have been there as well. The stages are true and being sad is the first one. If the best you can do each day is get up and make it through it, then that is an accomplishment. The days will get better, the accomplishments more and the grief will find it's place as good memories.

Wishing you to very best...and I am sorry for your loss.

 

[richard_daily]

I recently lost my husband and I have been all over the place emotionally.I am wondering if it is possible to actually beat the grief out of someone?

EXSAMPLE...being afraid to feel the anger and hurt towards my spouse so submitting and having someone FORCE me to deal with those two emotions.

It doesn't translate very well in words but would like to know your thoughts.

It is totally possible...

 

[1sickbastard]

I recently lost my husband and I have been all over the place emotionally.I am wondering if it is possible to actually beat the grief out of someone?

EXSAMPLE...being afraid to feel the anger and hurt towards my spouse so submitting and having someone FORCE me to deal with those two emotions.

It doesn't translate very well in words but would like to know your thoughts.

I had something snarky to say about revisiting all those emotional places to see if you left you husband at one of them, and if that failed, checking the lost and found.

But I won't say that.

Instead I'll point out that getting beaten probably won't make the hurt inside go away, it will only make the outside hurt also. At best, it will be a distraction (much like drugs/alcohol/shopping/gambling/whatever).

Personally I'd recommend sky-diving as a distraction. The sheer adrenaline rush will totally numb that grief for several hours.

That or chopping wood. The hard physical labor combined with the fun of wielding an ax (with firewood and kindling as a nice side benefit) will effectively mute the grief and pain. Plus its a great cardio workout.

Mostly you need time to deal with your emotions and some non-destructive mechanism to help you cope until you're back on an even keel. If you think being beaten is the way to go, get quirt or a riding crop and beat yourself. Less worries about finding some abusive jerk who could land you in the E-room.

Good luck with that.

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

Physical pain can release small amounts of emotional pain but it can become addictive. Unless you have had masochistic or submissive

 

[dirtwrench]

I just wanted to offer my condolences to the OP. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, trying new things, and working your way back to happiness. Just the idea you are trying leads me to believe you will make it. I have not walked in your shoes and therefore do not know how you feel. Just betting that it sucks.

 

[Riles]

This is a real post,I'm just exploring other options instead of sitting around wallowing in my grief. I'm always willing to learn new things about myself and others and thought this was a safe place to explore and gain knowledge. I'm not trying to bother anyone.

I subscribe to the idea that work is the best thing for grief.

I'm an over-thinker when it comes to dealing with emotional issues and I suffer if I let myself do too much thinking instead of just letting the feelings be my guide. When I work my body to exhaustion, it's usually cathartic for my mind.

 

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[GinaeEvans]

In my experience with dealing with loss, the best thing is to get counseling and/or medication. Also, make sure you're getting enough vitamins and exercise.

Health and diet contribute hugely to the feeling of overall wellness.

And, time does heal all. There may be scars left, but they won't hurt anymore.

 

[Riles]

Women in boots settles my grief.

Yes, but your issues are much more complex than the average.

 

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[Riles]

This is true, but we must start somewhere. I could most likely stay ungrieved for 48-72 hours if you keep them on.


And please, feel free to make me beg.


Sighing in S. Carolina.

That's an ambitious number of hours, clearly you are in the denial stage.