Going Solo

[tagurit_113]

I was going to post this in the ‘Request a Private Message’ thread but I’m thinking this will be an on-going interest for me. And quite possibly, there may be others that will find posts on here helpful…whether they’re single, in a long distance relationship, or just need a little ‘me’ time.

I have recently become a single person for the first time in a very long time. While I have completely enjoyed the last few months of working on things at home, catching up with friends, having a few self-pity parties, and spending a massive amount of time here on Lit getting to know new people, I am ready for something new. Last night I got all ready to do something…then couldn’t come up with anything that sounded fun to do alone (I ended up falling asleep really early watching a football game ). I need ideas…please help!!!

Post places to go or things to do (other than the obvious ) that are fun/interesting on your own.

 

[RoyceConnors]

As someone who has been there, it came down to getting off the sidelines and watching the game, to getting in it. I found I finally had the time to do those things that looked interesting to try.

I took up writing and now have a passion for it. I wanted to cook better, so I studied lots of books and tried new recipes, some of course failures, lol.

I bought another bike and found my love of riding again.

I decided to live a bit closer to the edge and find things to interest me there. How far are your boundaries? How big is the box you live in? I asked myself that and saw my life was a bit too comfortable and wanted more of a challenge to it.

Being alone can be fun, if you know how to be a fun person. Everything starts with you and what think of doing and what you end up doing.

 

[tagurit_113]

As someone who has been there, it came down to getting off the sidelines and watching the game, to getting in it. I found I finally had the time to do those things that looked interesting to try.

I took up writing and now have a passion for it. I wanted to cook better, so I studied lots of books and tried new recipes, some of course failures, lol.

I bought another bike and found my love of riding again.

I decided to live a bit closer to the edge and find things to interest me there. How far are your boundaries? How big is the box you live in? I asked myself that and saw my life was a bit too comfortable and wanted more of a challenge to it.

Being alone can be fun, if you know how to be a fun person. Everything starts with you and what think of doing and what you end up doing.

Thanks RC!

Learning to cook better (or anything remotely edible) is something I hadn't thought about. I love food and that would be a useful and possibly valuable skill!

That's where I'm at. I was used to doing something/being somewhere all the time but didn't realize that pretty much everything I was doing was what made someone else happy, not me. I could continue with what I was used to on my own, I'm sure, but I want a challenge, I want to expand my boundaries. This thread attempt is a way to find interesting things that I may not think about on my own.

Being alone is fun. I have always been very independent and am looking forward to whatever I may learn in this new era of my life

 

[RoyceConnors]

I found that when I'm having fun, people tend to gravitate to you, because they want to have fun too.

It's time to spread your wings and fly and fly as high and as far as you can go.

 

[AustinTrist]

Odd one out

Personally, I enjoyed the hell out of going out and meeting people when I was single.

I joined a cooking class I found a groupon for. The other person in this tread mentioned learning to cook, and I found practice while not alone to be a lot more enjoyable since much of cooking is "wait 5 minutes on simmer."

If you're of age and in a good area, some wineries do wine tasting/pairing lessons which is another valuable skill that's fun. Alternatively if that's not your thing, find a sports bar and plop down at a bar for a game played by your favorite team. Wear some memorabilia, be loud, and you can get the whole bar on your team.

If you're not good at large groups, maybe try finding a friend to do something like dance classes (salsa and swing, baby!), the aforementioned cooking class, or even get a few friends to start a book club!

The important thing is learning to enjoy yourself and investing in yourself, instead of being 'on the prowl'. You're going out to have fun, not to find someone.

 

[tagurit_113]

Personally, I enjoyed the hell out of going out and meeting people when I was single.

I joined a cooking class I found a groupon for. The other person in this tread mentioned learning to cook, and I found practice while not alone to be a lot more enjoyable since much of cooking is "wait 5 minutes on simmer."

If you're of age and in a good area, some wineries do wine tasting/pairing lessons which is another valuable skill that's fun. Alternatively if that's not your thing, find a sports bar and plop down at a bar for a game played by your favorite team. Wear some memorabilia, be loud, and you can get the whole bar on your team.

If you're not good at large groups, maybe try finding a friend to do something like dance classes (salsa and swing, baby!), the aforementioned cooking class, or even get a few friends to start a book club!

The important thing is learning to enjoy yourself and investing in yourself, instead of being 'on the prowl'. You're going out to have fun, not to find someone.

Thanks for the suggestions Austin!

There are some very good wine trails close to me. I've been many times and that would be a fun Saturday. Sports bars and breweries are some of my favorite places...though I'll have to work up to going those alone. I like the book club idea! I love to read and having the opportunity to discuss books would be great.

You are exactly right...this is a time to invest in myself. I have no interest in being on the prowl or finding someone right now...this is all about learning 'me'!