Girls who love being called SLUTS

[onyxvixen]

Just one last thing ...

There is nothing, in anything I have written, about any label being “better” than any other - only about meeting individual needs. My opinion (read: “IMO…”) is my opinion and I stand by it. Although, I must apologize for not being crystal clear in what I said. In my failure to communicate, I left out one very critical word:

Originally Posted by Esclava
"IMO, while the use of labels (such as "slut", "whore", "tramp", "piece of $hit" - pick one or make up your own) may strip away inhibitions for some, they are a crutch and unnecessary in MY dominance and submission. For me, tolerance is the only suitable way to deal with the use of labels in others because everyone is entitled to practice whatever level of B, D, S, or M responds to their individual needs."

That error reminds me how the omission of – even a single word – can turn something that is “clear” to me into fodder for misunderstanding and defensive retort for someone else.

The use of the IMO is irrelevant here, we all post opinions, however we dress them up and virtually nothing else. That error demonstrates that your OP was misleading (albeit unintentionally). You concede yourself that the omission of the word "my" leaves that sentence reading as a general statement about D/s rather than specifically your own flavour of submission. It was this perceived point of view to which I objected and responded to. I make no apology for that.

If I have misquoted anyone, show me where and I will apologize without hesitation - but, I have not.

Yes honey, you just did and you just corrected yourself. Well done.

I simply followed the rules of good communication by repeating what I understood when I read that statement. If the intended message was lost in translation between what was “clearly” meant when written and what was understood when read, then the misunderstanding is not completely the fault of the reader. Just remember - I am not the only member of the audience who misread or misunderstood what the statement inferred.

You did not communicate clearly, as we have already established.

If being questioned about the clarity of something written here is offensive to you, get ready for it. People here will question those things which don't make sense or strike them as dangerous or untrue.

Excuse me? Did you not continue to willfully misunderstand barebacknubianf after she clarified her post more than once? We're getting a little pot and kettle here I think. Your post was questionable and I questioned it, perhaps you should take this pearl of wisdom and shove it up your own tight arse?

Esclava

P.S.: Oh, and NO ONE here knows me well enough to lecture me about being seduced into thinking my labels are better than someone else's. I don't demoralize anyone's opinion and expect the same in return.

Lemonchiffon type won't save you. Your post gave the impression that you thought one set of labels fine and the other set a crutch, a sweeping generalization that somebody would have countered if not me. As you say, I don't know you (nor do I wish to right now) and I responded to what you actually said rather than to what you wish you had typed in the first place.

You must be such hard work as a sub, how long is your list of requirements exactly?

 

[onyxvixen]

wizard123123, haven't seen you about but apologies for having an altercation on your thread. Hope you post again soon with your own opinions

 

[Never]

CutieMouse:
"(I must admit, I am so terribly tempted to point out that such desires have nothing to do with being a size 8... or having huge tits... or being intelligent... or well off... but I betcha' made a lot of guys jealous just now.)"

And maybe a few girls... maybe.

 

[macgirl]

I keep thinking about this lately

i love, love, LOVE being called a slut. also include, whore, bitch, dirty girl, and all those fun names i dont think i would like it outside of a sexual content, but as far as anything sexual goes, being called a slut is a huge turn-on. when in an endearing way, i even prefer being called a slut then being called my name. i dont find it a bad name when used this way, and i dont know why it is such a wild turn on, but it is.

Well, I also like to hear my own name -- I find it erotic, after sex, to be treated tenderly, and hear my name whispered.

But I totally agree with you - in sex and sexual play, I don't find words like "whore" "slut" "bitch" or others to be humilliating or abusive at all. I find them thrilling, incredibly erotic. It's a mental submission to the right person, and makes me quite crazy with lust.

It depends on the man, though, and the respect behind the language. But if I feel safe with someone, (that they're not attacking me but wanting to turn me on, turn themselves on) those names make my body melt and just drive me crazy. I let myself submit to the fantasy.

 

[corkie2]

Slut!

It is very freeing to be with a Dom that enjoys dirty talk. To be called such names it like being told it is ok to release my inner bad girl and give her full riegn to be her true self. To act out totally!! It is also freeing to Him for me to react this way as it makes it easier to be totally bad and actually verblize to instruct me to be HIS whore, slut, cunt, bitch and totally bad girl!! *S*

By actually enjoying this kind of interplay between Him and I both of us are free to allow such secret wants to come to the surface and act on them. Which is a very freeing feeling.

Don't you think??

Corkie

 

[PhilGarlic]

A word of warning- if you do get in the habit of calling your girlfriends wives slut, whore etc don't make the mistake of mixing them up with your mother.

 

[SirFace]

A word of warning- if you do get in the habit of calling your girlfriends wives slut, whore etc don't make the mistake of mixing them up with your mother.

 

[FluteMaster]

Trying to yank the thread on to a good question

Humiliation isn't my thing at all, so I really don't get off on being called slut, whore, whatever. I guess I come at it not from the angle of how the sub gets off on it, but what is it about calling a girl a slut gets guys off? (I know I'm assuming the male Dom/female sub here, but that's my reality so bear with me.) I guess I'm just more interested in knowing what about that is so hot for a guy. So guys, what is it about calling a girl slut, whore, etc., that gets you?

As a Dom, I like:

1) The idea that my partner is turned on and aroused - and if it takes those words to do it - then that's fine by me.

2) That she wants me to se her in those terms i.e. that she loves and craves sex. (NB - That assumes that these ideas are linked - if for us slut= "sex crazed" then that is also fine by me)

3) Sometimes it's tiring being nice and polite all the time. Sometimes I want to let my hair down (what there is of it), and use the kind of language I can't use in public. How many people swear during sex as in "Oh Shit, I'm Cumming", but would never ever use it in other situations?

4) But it definately doesn't mean I actually want someone who is completely unfaithful or I have to pay for sex. (Maybe we are confusing language about someone's perceieved behaviour and what they actually do?)

Anyway, that's my point of view

 

[corkie2]

It is good to see a man that will say that when his women lets go and her inner slut/whore/cunt comes out to play that it makes it easier for him to let go and use those words.

I think we all need to be able to let those parts of ourselves come out. It is very freeing to be with a man that enjoyes it as much as I do.

Corkie

 

[FluteMaster]

It is good to see a man that will say that when his women lets go and her inner slut/whore/cunt comes out to play that it makes it easier for him to let go and use those words.

I think we all need to be able to let those parts of ourselves come out. It is very freeing to be with a man that enjoyes it as much as I do.

Corkie

Thank you Corkie. As I have had a real struggle finding my own preferences (A good Catholic education with a Victorian father is not a good place to start), and I know how hard it can be to really let go in sex. Add to that the difficulties that we "kinkies" have in even finding someone who thinks like we do, then anything that can be done to make that union better is good.

It took me a long while to accept that some women like humiliation, spanking etc (NB, a select few and not all of these like all the quirks!!), but as a "nice" boy with a "dirty" mind, it was a real revelation to start meeting them. However, I think any broad brush attempts to explain why this is so is almost bound to fail. This isn't because the explanations are necessarily wrong as far as they go, it's just that we are more complicated than any one explanation.

We all are "multi determined" in that anything we do will have both concious and unconcious motivations. (thinks - sometimes I suspect the concious motivations are just post hoc justifications for our subconcious desires). Therefore, as a Dom I ask "what is it that my submissive partner needs/desires in order for her to enter her special place? Then I ask, "Is that path one that I am able to create with her?" (For example - I can spank and paddle, but not use a whip, neither do I personally use the word "whore"!). If we are comfortable about proceeding, then the fun can really begin.

lol - mind you, I know I am preaching to the converted here, but sometimes I like to think about what really happens.

Cheers

 

[lonni]

It is all about fantasy and being given permission to be something that you could not be, outside bed. I don't think any woman who has encouraged to me to call her a slut or a whore has ever been remotely that in the outside world.

However, my very best friend ***** who has slept with over 1000 men since the age of 9 years old (she's only 22 now) and could by dictionary definition be called a slut has never once wanted me to call her that when we fuck and I suspect would be really pissed if I did!

However, away from the bedroom I do jokingly call her a slut and she is cool with it (she calls herself it) It is just not something she would like to hear when she is being fucked.

Lonni xxx

 

[FluteMaster]

Strange

You talk about your friend having so may lovers, and we expect everyone to think the worse of her. Simenon claimed to have slept with over 2000 women, and nobody ever called him a whore or a slut. Double standards still rule I think.

 

[lonni]

Double standards still rule I think.

Ain't that the truth. Although starting an active sex life at the age of 9 is not particularly healthy, she now seems to be totally in control of what she does. She has sex with at least two different 'new' partners every week, something which many former male acquaintances of mine would see as nothing unusual for someone in their early twenties.

Lonni

 

[sullivan96]

what about writing on their ass?

i like to write "slut" in lipstick on my slave's ass, is this okay? we like it-

 

[neonflux]

Humiliation and men, a different direction...

i like to write "slut" in lipstick on my slave's ass, is this okay? we like it-

If you both like it, sounds hot to me...

Interesting question, particularly as a switch... Before I continue, I want to state that I agree with all of those others who have already stated that desires involving verbal humiliation are as individual as is any others involving sex. Regarding the psychology of it, also think that this must vary from person to person.

While as a sub i enjoy other forms of humiliation (those that involve some form of mild embarrassment), outside of being told that i'm being naughty or am a "bad girl," hate verbal name-calling of any kind - someone calling me a slut will take me out of sub space faster than almost anything else. This is actually one of my hard limits. Perhaps because as a teen growing up in Texas during the 70's, I insisted on claiming my own sexual desire without apology and railed against the strong double standard there that degraded girls who did so by calling them sluts but celebrated boys who did so by viewing them as studs.

As a Domme, have discovered that I get no pleasure out of verbal humiliation either (again, love playing other humiliation games). I do not enjoy it with women, but was surprised that I also don't enjoy it with men - for instance calling a sub a wimp, pussy, etc. As a sexuality educator who does a lot of work around gender, I recognize that the desire to be humiliated in this way may be linked to how men are "shamed" into denying anything feminine in themselves. Still can't do it with enjoyment so it just comes out sounding silly. On the other hand, I can encourage a male sub to challenge his pain tolerance by telling him that he's "being wimpy" and can do better... Not sure why, but that feels very different.

 

[FurryFury]

i like to write "slut" in lipstick on my slave's ass, is this okay? we like it-

I did that, actually it was Ass Slut and with a magic marker. Took pictures too. It was fun for us both. So I'd have to vote that it's okay!

Fury

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I'd slap someone for calling me a slut, whore, etc if we weren't in a compromising position. Even if they were my D or my M, etc.

But..

I'd get awfully damned wet if they called me "their" slut or whore, etc and we were in a compromising position.

Go figure..

 

[lonni]

Go figure..

I actually need to know if in fact you are a slut before I can figure that one out.

Lonni x

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I actually need to know if in fact you are a slut before I can figure that one out.

Lonni x

Define slut.

 

[sullivan96]

continued

hey i can't really define slut, it's just a word that in the context of s & m takes on a humiliating ring- i don't really believe it-i do like hearing a woman say "i'm your whore" and i do like writing "slave" across a woman's ass with lipstick-that, to me, is hot-and always consensual

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Slut to me implies I'm easily used by any man who wants me.

I'm not. I'm easily used by any man who actually gets me.

And therein lies the difference.

For me.

 

[Kailey_86]

The word "slut" and the word "whore" are both very strange words to me because they have dictionary definitions,but everyone has their own different definition for them, based usually on the context they have most often observed them being used in.

i never understood why people liked to be called these things because they have such negative connotations. i didn't think i would ever enjoy being called a slut or whore. i thought that if it ever happened i would be furious and completely turned off. This was not the case though.
my Sir was calling His other slave a slut and i liked how He was using it. He eventually called me a slut after some discussion about what my definition of the word is. i loved it. i felt owned. Despite the dictionary meaning of the word (a prostitute or someone who sleeps with many men), i felt like i belonged to Him only. i was HIS slut. This is what made the difference for me.
What doesn't make sense to me is the fact that it should feel humiliating but somehow it isn't. It's not romantic by any means though. Basically it adds an edge to the situation...makes things a little more intense.

 

[lonni]

Define slut.

A sexually promiscuous woman.

L x

 

[angelsrose]

Slut, whore, skank, cocktease, trick , bitch, his whoer, his slut. Its all teh same to me. And the list goes on. It just works. It doesn't mean I am actually out there sleeping with every dick that walks into a room. Actually I am very picky about the men I sleep with. I have had one too many tell me that my idea of what good sex consists of is sick and twisted and there must be something wrong with me. I like being tied and spanked and called names. I don't know why, nor do I care. I get WETTER. I like being wetter. It makes everything more enjoyable for both parties, unless I am *supposed* to be in pain. And even that is very subjunctive. Can I live without being called names? Nope. Sorry. I need to to call me a lil whore when you are pounding your warmth into me. I want you to. Own me please. Make me cop to that. Am I *his* lil whore. Yep. In that moment behind "closed doors". I was reading screw the roses send me the thornds last night, and in it they even said that there is no known cause for why some of us like certain things, name calling, spanking, bondage, ect. Most people have had happy lives and just like it that way. For me, maybe it because it allows me to be healthy outside of said bedroom doors. Because I am truly getting what I need, when he feels I deserve it.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

A sexually promiscuous woman.

L x

Define promiscuous.