Girls who love being called SLUTS

[IsabellaSnow]

Lucky woman - I would refer you to this thread, which I believe you've already posted on

I trust you have someone other than the OP'er in mind.

 

[neonflux]

I trust you have someone other than the OP'er in mind.

OK, must admit to online ignorance! To whom does OP'er refer? If to Saw_Man, Iwas referring to the woman he eventually "catches" or who eventually "catches him."

 

[IsabellaSnow]

OK, must admit to online ignorance! To whom does OP'er refer? If to Saw_Man, Iwas referring to the woman he eventually "catches" or who eventually "catches him."

Original Poster of the Chase thread.

Sounds like you weren't.

And thank Christ for that!

 

[saw_man1]

Lucky woman - I would refer you to this thread, which I believe you've already posted on

It would appear that my past has come back to haunt me. This is so unfair. Why do people have to dredge up ancient history and torment me with it? Shouldn’t the past stay in the past?

For clarifications’ sake I should explain that I was referring to chasing someone for the purposes of physical exercise. I was speaking to those halcyon days of running through fields of clover and daisies. There may have been some hand holding and light hugs of affection but in no way was I referring to anything even remotely related to you know what.

 

[subtleone]

I love being called slut, whore etc...too, but only in the bedroom.
I think it has a lot to do with the persona I work so hard to project on the outside: good, upstanding member of the community. It's good to let go and really be free from any pressure that others may inflict upon me. I have total trust and know that he knows I am in no way a slut; but it turns us both on to think that I may enjoy acting in a sluttish way.

 

[FluteMaster]

I love being called slut, whore etc...too, but only in the bedroom.
I think it has a lot to do with the persona I work so hard to project on the outside: good, upstanding member of the community. It's good to let go and really be free from any pressure that others may inflict upon me. I have total trust and know that he knows I am in no way a slut; but it turns us both on to think that I may enjoy acting in a sluttish way.

Yes, yes, yes.

Trust and letting go.

Acting out the passions we feel using the triggers that work.

None of us is tied to one way of acting, unless we want to.

 

[neonflux]

Original Poster of the Chase thread.

Sounds like you weren't.

And thank Christ for that!

 

[neonflux]

Shouldn’t the past stay in the past...

Ah, but don't you know that the past and present are one? (Sorry, but couldn't resist trotting out that cliche.)

For clarifications’ sake I should explain that I was referring to chasing someone for the purposes of physical exercise. I was speaking to those halcyon days of running through fields of clover and daisies.

Ummm, fields of clover, hand holding....

There may have been some hand holding and light hugs of affection but in no way was I referring to anything even remotely related to you know what.

But what happened to the torture???

Neon

 

[Shaq]

Sounds like she's turned on by humiliation. Sometimes people who crave a certain degredation, feel that being labeled as "bad" allows them to behave like a "bad" person (slut, whore, etc). If the person in question feels a bit inhibited, or tends to follow the "rules" of polite society, such labels can be somewhat liberating. *shrug*

For a bit of perspective, you might browse the section on Humiliation from the BDSM Library, pinned to the top of the forum.

(I must admit, I am so terribly tempted to point out that such desires have nothing to do with being a size 8... or having huge tits... or being intelligent... or well off... but I betcha' made a lot of guys jealous just now.)

Humiliation is so delicious.

I enjoy calling my partner a slut and a whore.

It turns me on exquisitely.

 

[neonflux]

Humiliation is so delicious.

I enjoy calling my partner a slut and a whore.

It turns me on exquisitely.

Funny, I don't know why I don't enjoy verbal humiliation, either Topping or subbing. Yet I love other forms - physical, mental - pushing my partner to do something embarrassing that I know s/he actually deep down wants to do...

 

[Sir Victor]

Thank you bareback for offering a clear perspective on this; I always wondered about it. I have met girls who love being called slut and others who do not like it at all. Your perspective makes a lot of sense.

I've been known to find myself getting turned on by being called a slut...and I've often wondered why it is. I think there are two reasons:

1. It's liberating. It means the man isn't expecting you to be something you're not. He knows you love sex and he's happy about it, and it means you can be free to enjoy yourself without feeling he'll disapprove about how "loose" you are or something.

2. More importantly, it shows he's in control. I might be shouted down here, but I really think that, deep down inside, most women react in a more basic and intense way to a man who "knows what he wants" than they do to somebody fawning and sensitive. It's just biology, I think. Even if women don't like a man to be dominant in all aspects of their life, plenty still want it in the bedroom! Dominance is associated with telling it like it is, and calling a girl a "slut" is a surefire assertion of dominance...

 

[Sir Victor]

nympho - nymphee

You dislike nympho, yet choose nymphee, I have to agree that your choice sounds much better. I hope you live up to the title! Your AV has me thinking that you'd make a very good, bad girl.

I keep getting cross with my friends for calling me nympho- it's such an ugly word! I feel the implication is slightly different too.
Slut is another ugly word, and hearing it does nothing for me, yet being told i'm a bad girl does.
Girls are strange aren't they?

nymphée

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I love calling her My slut, My Whore, My dirty little bitch, etc... Its even MORE fun when I make her call herself these things.

 

[babyslut1]

It's a matter of context

I think what matters most here is the context. "Slut" has always been thought of as a bad label, like "bad girl" was when you were little. If the word "slut" had been translatable as "good girl", we'd all feel differently about it.

Obviously, we're all here on this message board because we eschew what society thinks about sex. We know what feels right to us and we'd rather make our own rules (or follow those of a lesser known custom), so why adhere to the preconceptions about anything else, including language?

Just because "slut" has been used to denigrate women in the past who were thought to be "dirty", "bad", or unethical, doesn't mean we have to accept that as its only meaning. Many words have several definitions. These have been changed over time, with the custom, geography, or other circumstances of the people using it.

Human sexuality has been repressed for too long, especially the BDSM side of it, and I think it's time we all came forward and showed what an army there really is here. We have no need to conform to society's "norms" any more. What if it turned out BDSM is the NORM?

As for me, I think slut is a good label, and I'm happy to be called it by my master, because I know how he means it. It means he loves me and thinks I'm hot, which I am. He wants me to be a sex-crazed maniac, and I am a sex-crazed maniac, and we're both happy. "Slut" just happens to be the best name to describe me at the moment.

 

[Tuomas]

I think what matters most here is the context. "Slut" has always been thought of as a bad label, like "bad girl" was when you were little. If the word "slut" had been translatable as "good girl", we'd all feel differently about it.

Obviously, we're all here on this message board because we eschew what society thinks about sex. We know what feels right to us and we'd rather make our own rules (or follow those of a lesser known custom), so why adhere to the preconceptions about anything else, including language?

Just because "slut" has been used to denigrate women in the past who were thought to be "dirty", "bad", or unethical, doesn't mean we have to accept that as its only meaning. Many words have several definitions. These have been changed over time, with the custom, geography, or other circumstances of the people using it.

Human sexuality has been repressed for too long, especially the BDSM side of it, and I think it's time we all came forward and showed what an army there really is here. We have no need to conform to society's "norms" any more. What if it turned out BDSM is the NORM?
[snip]

... my name is babyslut1, and I'm running for President!

I agree with you; if BDSM where the norm, a lot of people here wouldn't like it anymore .

In a relationship, calling someone "slut" is not anymore real that calling them "honey" or any other more accepted forms of endearment. It's an expression of mood and emotion rather than fact -like most things in sex.

I never understood why people make such a big deal about it, anyway. It's like standing on a riverbank and yelling at the fish for getting wet...

 

[lonni]

I think what matters most here is the context. "Slut" has always been thought of as a bad label, like "bad girl" was when you were little. If the word "slut" had been translatable as "good girl", we'd all feel differently about it.

Just because "slut" has been used to denigrate women in the past who were thought to be "dirty", "bad", or unethical, doesn't mean we have to accept that as its only meaning. Many words have several definitions. These have been changed over time, with the custom, geography, or other circumstances of the people using it.

Dead right!

Lonni x

 

[JMohegan]

I think what matters most here is the context. "Slut" has always been thought of as a bad label, like "bad girl" was when you were little. If the word "slut" had been translatable as "good girl", we'd all feel differently about it.

Obviously, we're all here on this message board because we eschew what society thinks about sex. We know what feels right to us and we'd rather make our own rules (or follow those of a lesser known custom), so why adhere to the preconceptions about anything else, including language?

Just because "slut" has been used to denigrate women in the past who were thought to be "dirty", "bad", or unethical, doesn't mean we have to accept that as its only meaning. Many words have several definitions. These have been changed over time, with the custom, geography, or other circumstances of the people using it.

Human sexuality has been repressed for too long, especially the BDSM side of it, and I think it's time we all came forward and showed what an army there really is here. We have no need to conform to society's "norms" any more. What if it turned out BDSM is the NORM?

Hello, babyslut1. Welcome to the board.

I have a different view on this issue, and will address your points in the order in which you made them.


1 - Language usage.

As you know, BDSMers have embraced and altered the traditional meaning of many words, such as slut, slave, etc.

There may be benefits to doing this, but the drawback is that the words themselves essentially becoming meaningless (except as an individual construct).

There is no BDSM equivalent of Webster's, and the result is frequent misunderstanding and need for lengthy explanations of individual interpretations. IMO this is quite a drawback indeed. Therefore, I try to stick to Webster's as often as possible.


2 - "Slut" used as a term to denigrate promiscuous women.

The problem is not with the term itself being "bad". The problem traditionally has been that promiscuous women have been viewed as somehow morally inferior.

Scroll through this thread, and you'll see a lot of people saying the equivalent of: "Oh, I don't actually want my partner to *be* sexually promiscuous. I just want her to act as if she is driven by out of control sexual desire when she's in bed with me."

Personally, I fail to see how this helps the image of women who really *are* promiscuous. I'm not saying that it's wrong to use slut in the way I just described, but I don't think this has anything do with taking a stand on behalf of women with multiple sex partners.


3 - Rebelling against "the norm".

Some, but not all, people who embrace BDSM do so to feed a need for sexual experiences that feel, or are perceived as, edgy or extreme.

But the people I know who fall in this category don't call their partners "My little slut". That term lost its power to shock long ago. It has become so popular as part of BDSM norms, that it is really no different than referring to a Master as "Sir". It is just that commonplace, and no more provocative.

 

[Vessira]

See I have the opposite problem. Kind of. I greatly dislike being called a slut, whore, etc or any word I associate with a negative connotation (being called a bitch is okay though, guess I've always seen that a positive label) and I'm learning I greatly dislike humiliation play. It typically only causes me to get overly emotion, confused, and shut down in a very unhappy state of mind. The problem is, in my semi-limited experience, and search for a suitable partner, so many Doms enjoy humiliation. With such a narrow group of people to choose from in the first place, this narrows my possibilities even further.

 

[callinectes]

Funny how things change. When I posted to this thread back in September, I said I enjoyed being called slut, etc. because it "allowed" me to release my inhibitions and repressed sexuality.

Three months later, however, gentle and sweet terms of endearment have a much greater affect on me..he doesn't even use the other words anymore.

 

[Tuomas]

See I have the opposite problem. Kind of. I greatly dislike being called a slut, whore, etc or any word I associate with a negative connotation (being called a bitch is okay though, guess I've always seen that a positive label) and I'm learning I greatly dislike humiliation play. It typically only causes me to get overly emotion, confused, and shut down in a very unhappy state of mind. The problem is, in my semi-limited experience, and search for a suitable partner, so many Doms enjoy humiliation. With such a narrow group of people to choose from in the first place, this narrows my possibilities even further.

I know what you mean. When I first started, I was somewhat shoved in the deep end, and the girl I was with was quite insistent on the use of "slut", and I had a lot of trouble getting it out I was such an angel back then (which is kind of interesting, because she said something to the effect, "I like going out with you, because you are so kind and sweet." Half an hour later she was begging me to call her a slut and spank her harder... ) After a while, I was too uncomfortable with it and had to quit. Anyhoo, the point is, there maybe are a lot more people out there who don't actually like the whole humiliation/whore thing, and are just doing it -or have gotten in the habit of doing it- because their partner enjoys it more. Or something like that.

It's supposed to be a pep-talk, but it came out lame

I should just go back to being snarky...

 

[neonflux]

...2 - "Slut" used as a term to denigrate promiscuous women.

The problem is not with the term itself being "bad". The problem traditionally has been that promiscuous women have been viewed as somehow morally inferior.

Scroll through this thread, and you'll see a lot of people saying the equivalent of: "Oh, I don't actually want my partner to *be* sexually promiscuous. I just want her to act as if she is driven by out of control sexual desire when she's in bed with me."

Personally, I fail to see how this helps the image of women who really *are* promiscuous. I'm not saying that it's wrong to use slut in the way I just described, but I don't think this has anything do with taking a stand on behalf of women with multiple sex partners.

Hi JM, thank you for posting this. I so, so agree. I've always felt that women should be allowed as much sexual agency as men - that this ultimately is crucial to having our full humanity acknowledged. And I still see words like slut, slag, etc. as used to deny us this. I have been noticing that many women who don't mind the word used to describe them by a lover insist that it be used within the context of being "His" or "Her" slut - this to me is an implicit acknowledgement of the pain and discrimination that the word still carries with it...

I am in no way "dissing" anyone who enjoys being called by these terms, but it has always been one of my hard limits. I also have difficulty using words like whimp, pussy, etc. when Topping a male partner, although have reached more of an accomodation with this since I think that for some men it serves to release some of the pain associated with the shaming we do to boys to force them into rigid masculine roles where they must deny all that is soft and gentle in themselves.

Neon

 

[Sir Victor]

Calling all sluts!

 

[minx1]

*shimmies in* Did someone call?

 

[Sir Victor]

*shimmies in* Did someone call?

Welcome minx! Slut #1 how are you one this fine day?

 

[minx1]

Welcome minx! Slut #1 how are you one this fine day?

Good thanks Sir Vic, not been on Lit for a while...when I heard you call *giggle*

how are you? And where, pray are all the other sluts?