Gilly Bean
Princess Spanky Pants
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Ok, I announced over the weekend we were getting a house. Forgot to mention the intamate details.
We don't qualify for financing right now. My mother-in-law decided she wanted out of her house, and was going to move in with her mother. Both are single, and living alone for the first time in YEARS. So, to save on bills for her, and to not be lonely for either, they decided that the 3 bedroom house, with a small office for a nursery, would be perfect for her only son, and his very quickly growing family.
Well, on the eve of going to sign the papers for the house, the mom and grandma got into a huge fight over who knows what (they are both drama queens who say it was the other persons fault). So, the first thing they both do, is call us, and tell us it's off.
Well, my husband told them that if it's off, then they need to find us a different place to live, because we already signed off the lease where we are. We had to break it to do so, losing our $550 security deposit in the process. On top of that, since it would be December when we move, we would have to pay rent here, for $550, plus $451 for a house payment. Right before Christmas, and right before a new baby is born. Both due off the same check. If we do the math, that is all of one check, and then some that would have had to be borrowed.
So, the grandma tells us she will work something out, and not to worry over it, that they will find something for hubby's mom before we need out.
Well, in the mean time, we had found a couple of friends who were willing to sublet from us, and in turn give us half our security deposit back. That excited us. That helps us out of the price perdiciment for the month.
Well, then an hour later, his mom calls. She tells us its off for now, but that we will still get the house, it will just be sometime in the spring, instead. Again, we explian that's not possible for us now. She bickers a bit, then agrees that she needs to find a solution either for her, or for us.
Her bright idea was to find a cheap single wide trailer to live in, put it on the land behind her mothers house, and live there. Well, that would take a few weeks to go through zoning, then laying a foundation after it is approved (and totally assuming it WILL be approved), then getting the trailer there (assuming again, that they found one to buy), and putting it all up. This puts us somewhere around the middle of January. Now, for me, that wouldn't be a problem, but...
Our subleters need a place by December 22. We told them we would be out of here by the 15th. That would give them time to move in slowly, and not all in one day. So, if we have to wait, we lose our subleasor, plus our security deposit. And we would still have to pay two payments due at the first of the month. It would just be in January instead of December.
So, we explained that doing that might make us lose our subletor, and security deposit, and that would make it really expensive for the month. They started looking at another option. Splitting the exsisting grandma house into a duplex, and having someone come in and do all the work to convert it.
Now, I am not positive, but I assume they would need zoning for that as well, since they would be making a single dweeling intoa multi family swelling. So, there are the 2-3 weeks again for that. Then, getting the guy in there to do all the work. Not sure how long that takes, but they need to convert a living room into a bedroom, a bedroom into a living room and kitchen, and add on full bath. Fortunatly, the plumbing runs to both ends of the house for bathrooms, so thqat wouldn't need to be added. Next, putting a door into a solid brick wall, and cutting into, and sectioning off, the basement so they both have half of it.
Ok, so that would take LONGER I believe. I finally sat down with my husband and told him we need to either find out tonight for sure, yes or no, or we would have to tell them we wouldn't be able to do it until June. The only saftey net we have, is the fact that we havn't signed off the lease yet. We told them we did, in hopes they would speed this all up. We need to find out soon, however, because we do still need to give 30 days notice, and the subletors need to know if they should look for another place or not.
His family is notorious for screwing us over. His mom has two kids. One is Hubby, the other is Princess. From the sounds of it, the fight that started it all was over Princess, and whether or not she could live there as well. Princess currently lives with a boyfriend. She is an alcoholic (at the stunning age of 21), she is very verbally and physically abusive when she is drunk. She is on anti-depressants that trigger a negative effect when mixed with alcohol. She is what his mothers world revolves around. You know the type I am talking about. Some back ground info? 3 years ago, when I was overdue to have Chris, on New Years Eve, we ended up in the hospital with some muscel pains that I thought were labor. They gave me some meds to sleep, and we went home. Nick's mom had lived across the street at the time, and had our then 2 year old for us.
At 5am, she called Hubby to come watch Rae for a few minutes because Princess was skunk drunk and ready to fight at a party. Well, she went and picked her up, and sent Nick home. 20 minutes later, she calls again, waking us up again, and asks him to come get Rae, because Princess was throwing stuff, breaking stuff, and generally being herself. Nick went and got Rae, and put her to bed. Then, about 10 minutes after that, another call. This one we new was coming. Princess had locked herself in the bathroom with a steak knife, and was threatening to saw through her wrists. Could Nick come over and get the knife away? Sure, why not, we did it all the time. Usually with me ranting and raving to Nick that i was going to call the cops on them this time.
Well, he goes over there, and kicks the door in. Gets the knife away from her, and carries her kicking and screaming downstairs. He tosses her on the couch, and told her to sit there. Of course, she didn't. She instead, hops up, runs for the kitchen, and comes back wielding a cast iron frying pan. Aimed for hubby's head. Hubby took some martial arts, and is quite good at holding a person so they can't move, and got her to drop it. Well, she is screaming her head off, so Nick's mom runs for the phone, to call the cops. On hubby. She didn't end up doing it, because Nick let go, but the entire time he was there, she hovered over the phone, because she was sure that hubby was going to hurt her little princess. He didn't get home until nearly 8 am. That morning he told them flat out, they call us to break them apart again, and before he goes over, he is calling the cops to come deal with it.
They havn't called us since. But through all of this, what amazes me, is the next day, through the broken glass, dented walls, and broken doors (there have been many), they make up, and act like nothing ever happened, though it IS held over hubby's head for months afterwards.
So, princess is the baby of the family. The upstanding drug addicted, alcoholic who always gets her way. God, I have rambled on so much, I am not sure anyone is still reading this. But it feels SO much better getting this off my chest. I have been stressed so badly because of his family. We decided that instead of letting them screw us over this time, that we will do the screwing if it has to come done to it. I refuse to be homeless in december with a newborn just because the little princess doesn't get to move in with Grandma (to whom she is both physically and verbally abusive to. I don't blame grammy for telling her no)
-sighs-
Well, many tears later, and a ton of stress later, I feel so much better. And for once, I didn't have to rant to hubby to do it. I hate doing that, cause he feels so bad over the whole thing. But I need to rant to someone. Oh, another quick point on princess. Out of Nick's entire family, only his father (who drove 12 hours), his Uncle (who drove 4 hours) and two ex-grandparents (who drove an hour and half) came to our wedding. His mother's excuse was that his sister had a party she didn't want to miss. His aunt was 'sick'. His Grandma didn't want to drive alone.
None of them came. His own mother missed his wedding because his sister had a party to go to.
We don't qualify for financing right now. My mother-in-law decided she wanted out of her house, and was going to move in with her mother. Both are single, and living alone for the first time in YEARS. So, to save on bills for her, and to not be lonely for either, they decided that the 3 bedroom house, with a small office for a nursery, would be perfect for her only son, and his very quickly growing family.
Well, on the eve of going to sign the papers for the house, the mom and grandma got into a huge fight over who knows what (they are both drama queens who say it was the other persons fault). So, the first thing they both do, is call us, and tell us it's off.
Well, my husband told them that if it's off, then they need to find us a different place to live, because we already signed off the lease where we are. We had to break it to do so, losing our $550 security deposit in the process. On top of that, since it would be December when we move, we would have to pay rent here, for $550, plus $451 for a house payment. Right before Christmas, and right before a new baby is born. Both due off the same check. If we do the math, that is all of one check, and then some that would have had to be borrowed.
So, the grandma tells us she will work something out, and not to worry over it, that they will find something for hubby's mom before we need out.
Well, in the mean time, we had found a couple of friends who were willing to sublet from us, and in turn give us half our security deposit back. That excited us. That helps us out of the price perdiciment for the month.
Well, then an hour later, his mom calls. She tells us its off for now, but that we will still get the house, it will just be sometime in the spring, instead. Again, we explian that's not possible for us now. She bickers a bit, then agrees that she needs to find a solution either for her, or for us.
Her bright idea was to find a cheap single wide trailer to live in, put it on the land behind her mothers house, and live there. Well, that would take a few weeks to go through zoning, then laying a foundation after it is approved (and totally assuming it WILL be approved), then getting the trailer there (assuming again, that they found one to buy), and putting it all up. This puts us somewhere around the middle of January. Now, for me, that wouldn't be a problem, but...
Our subleters need a place by December 22. We told them we would be out of here by the 15th. That would give them time to move in slowly, and not all in one day. So, if we have to wait, we lose our subleasor, plus our security deposit. And we would still have to pay two payments due at the first of the month. It would just be in January instead of December.
So, we explained that doing that might make us lose our subletor, and security deposit, and that would make it really expensive for the month. They started looking at another option. Splitting the exsisting grandma house into a duplex, and having someone come in and do all the work to convert it.
Now, I am not positive, but I assume they would need zoning for that as well, since they would be making a single dweeling intoa multi family swelling. So, there are the 2-3 weeks again for that. Then, getting the guy in there to do all the work. Not sure how long that takes, but they need to convert a living room into a bedroom, a bedroom into a living room and kitchen, and add on full bath. Fortunatly, the plumbing runs to both ends of the house for bathrooms, so thqat wouldn't need to be added. Next, putting a door into a solid brick wall, and cutting into, and sectioning off, the basement so they both have half of it.
Ok, so that would take LONGER I believe. I finally sat down with my husband and told him we need to either find out tonight for sure, yes or no, or we would have to tell them we wouldn't be able to do it until June. The only saftey net we have, is the fact that we havn't signed off the lease yet. We told them we did, in hopes they would speed this all up. We need to find out soon, however, because we do still need to give 30 days notice, and the subletors need to know if they should look for another place or not.
His family is notorious for screwing us over. His mom has two kids. One is Hubby, the other is Princess. From the sounds of it, the fight that started it all was over Princess, and whether or not she could live there as well. Princess currently lives with a boyfriend. She is an alcoholic (at the stunning age of 21), she is very verbally and physically abusive when she is drunk. She is on anti-depressants that trigger a negative effect when mixed with alcohol. She is what his mothers world revolves around. You know the type I am talking about. Some back ground info? 3 years ago, when I was overdue to have Chris, on New Years Eve, we ended up in the hospital with some muscel pains that I thought were labor. They gave me some meds to sleep, and we went home. Nick's mom had lived across the street at the time, and had our then 2 year old for us.
At 5am, she called Hubby to come watch Rae for a few minutes because Princess was skunk drunk and ready to fight at a party. Well, she went and picked her up, and sent Nick home. 20 minutes later, she calls again, waking us up again, and asks him to come get Rae, because Princess was throwing stuff, breaking stuff, and generally being herself. Nick went and got Rae, and put her to bed. Then, about 10 minutes after that, another call. This one we new was coming. Princess had locked herself in the bathroom with a steak knife, and was threatening to saw through her wrists. Could Nick come over and get the knife away? Sure, why not, we did it all the time. Usually with me ranting and raving to Nick that i was going to call the cops on them this time.
Well, he goes over there, and kicks the door in. Gets the knife away from her, and carries her kicking and screaming downstairs. He tosses her on the couch, and told her to sit there. Of course, she didn't. She instead, hops up, runs for the kitchen, and comes back wielding a cast iron frying pan. Aimed for hubby's head. Hubby took some martial arts, and is quite good at holding a person so they can't move, and got her to drop it. Well, she is screaming her head off, so Nick's mom runs for the phone, to call the cops. On hubby. She didn't end up doing it, because Nick let go, but the entire time he was there, she hovered over the phone, because she was sure that hubby was going to hurt her little princess. He didn't get home until nearly 8 am. That morning he told them flat out, they call us to break them apart again, and before he goes over, he is calling the cops to come deal with it.
They havn't called us since. But through all of this, what amazes me, is the next day, through the broken glass, dented walls, and broken doors (there have been many), they make up, and act like nothing ever happened, though it IS held over hubby's head for months afterwards.
So, princess is the baby of the family. The upstanding drug addicted, alcoholic who always gets her way. God, I have rambled on so much, I am not sure anyone is still reading this. But it feels SO much better getting this off my chest. I have been stressed so badly because of his family. We decided that instead of letting them screw us over this time, that we will do the screwing if it has to come done to it. I refuse to be homeless in december with a newborn just because the little princess doesn't get to move in with Grandma (to whom she is both physically and verbally abusive to. I don't blame grammy for telling her no)
-sighs-
Well, many tears later, and a ton of stress later, I feel so much better. And for once, I didn't have to rant to hubby to do it. I hate doing that, cause he feels so bad over the whole thing. But I need to rant to someone. Oh, another quick point on princess. Out of Nick's entire family, only his father (who drove 12 hours), his Uncle (who drove 4 hours) and two ex-grandparents (who drove an hour and half) came to our wedding. His mother's excuse was that his sister had a party she didn't want to miss. His aunt was 'sick'. His Grandma didn't want to drive alone.
None of them came. His own mother missed his wedding because his sister had a party to go to.
But ya know the saying goes....Never do business with family or friends. 
