Friendly Threesomes

[CBHunter]

Anyone out there involved in, has been involved in in the past, or wants to be involved in a long-term threesome (married couple and single man or woman) that included friendship of all three parties involved as well as sex in whatever combinations applied? How did the relationship start? Did the sexual aspect of the relationship help or hinder the friendship aspect...or have no impact? What were the benefits and pitfalls of such a relationship? I haven't had such a relationship, but have become interested in and curious about them from the perspective of the single guy who'd be involved.

 

[Up4fun&69]

I have. My ex-wife and I were nudists. We met another nudist couple and were friends for over 10 years, through the birth and rearing of their two children. As couples, we spent a good deal of time naked at home, at clubs, etc. So we were close friends but as couples, did not play together except for some teasing. (My ex wasn't into it.) Once I divorced, they approached me and through some sexy pictures and more teasing, asked if I would join them in MFM play. She was never with another M and was curious about it and he, wanted to watch her and, it turns out, was bi-curious. So over the course of 5 years, we played together and explored all variations, including MM which turned her on. Being good friends I was trusted and it helped to know we played just in our 3some circle (they were in health care so we knew we were clean). Our friendship remained strong because they 1) were secure in their marriage, 2) knew I wasn't there to disrupt that in any way, and 3) trusted me enough as a friend to play together or alone with either one. I think the only awkwardness was that at times, it was clear that they had talked about what they wanted to do and had plans while I wasn't part of the plan making. So there were a couple of times it was, "Okay, let's do this now," and I was like, "Whoa. Where did that come from and why?" Over the years, the friendship didn't suffer a bit and only ended because we started a business and business differences severed things.

I was lucky enough to be with another couple for 5 years, no bi play, where we'd play as a 3some or just his wife and I would play, go on dates, etc. Even though they moved away to the other side of the country 8 years ago, we still get together. I mention the second couple only because it taught me that the trust and comfort that I wasn't in it to disrupt their relationship, but add to it, and because we were and are good friends, made it special. And in both cases, the couple were open with me and each other and were on the same page so that there was never any jealousy.

So I can say, it can be a great experience but a lot lies with the couple being on the same page and both wanting to enter into such an arrangement and not one placating the other. That could be trouble for all.

 

[CBHunter]

So I can say, it can be a great experience but a lot lies with the couple being on the same page and both wanting to enter into such an arrangement and not one placating the other. That could be trouble for all.

Thanks for sharing. Very informative. I've always thought that such an arrangement would depend tremendously on honesty and trust...especially between the couple...and you've confirmed that. You're a lucky man to have had two such experiences and friendships. Also interesting to note that business can severe relationships far quicker than does sex.