Free pass

[TheWorldBuilder]

oh, well I am unencumbered atm, so I think I'd be more likely to be the free pass than to need one lol.

Stand by for a PM box deluge.

 

[rlaflamme]

oh, well I am unencumbered atm, so I think I'd be more likely to be the free pass than to need one lol.

So I guess the question to you would be what would you think if you were told you were a free pass. Would that make you back up a bit or would it be more enticing for you to move forward knowing you would be the "other woman."

 

[Misshotndeep]

Walk away and be very pissed. I am a main dish not a side one.

 

[rlaflamme]

Walk away and be very pissed. I am a main dish not a side one.

That is awesome But, what would you do if you were handed a free pass?

 

[bondagegirl007]

Stand by for a PM box deluge.

lol, my name is bondagegirl... I'm well used to that by now.

 

[Misshotndeep]

That is awesome But, what would you do if you were handed a free pass?

Laugh my ass off. If I am with someone then they are it.
Unless we have some kinda three way thing. I would never leave my SO out of it and it would be an experience for us and not just me. I am still gonna be the only pussy involved though. I don’t share my dick with other women.

 

[bondagegirl007]

So I guess the question to you would be what would you think if you were told you were a free pass. Would that make you back up a bit or would it be more enticing for you to move forward knowing you would be the "other woman."

Do I have some time of relationship with the guy? If so, then no. That's a hard pass for me. If I met someone randomly in a bar and they explained the situation and we hit it off in a kind of "I'd like to see you without your clothes on" kinda way, then maybe.

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

lol, my name is bondagegirl... I'm well used to that by now.

With the number at the end, I had to look twice to avoid adding a space between the first two syllables.

 

[rlaflamme]

Do I have some time of relationship with the guy? If so, then no. That's a hard pass for me. If I met someone randomly in a bar and they explained the situation and we hit it off in a kind of "I'd like to see you without your clothes on" kinda way, then maybe.

So the avoidance of an emotional connection would be key to you accepting being the woman for the free pass. Okay, that makes sense, you don't want to cause a rift in the emotions.

 

[bondagegirl007]

With the number at the end, I had to look twice to avoid adding a space between the first two syllables.

Well, in a weird way I'm impressed lol. Seems like a lot of people read the "bondage" bit and don't quite get to the 007 part.

 

[bondagegirl007]

So the avoidance of an emotional connection would be key to you accepting being the woman for the free pass. Okay, that makes sense, you don't want to cause a rift in the emotions.

I don't want to be someone's #2. It's fine if it's just physical, or even here on the boards where we're just playing around, but when you add in an emotional connection that's when I'm not good with being someone's "free pass."

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

Well, in a weird way I'm impressed lol. Seems like a lot of people read the "bondage" bit and don't quite get to the 007 part.

Does gold paint count as bondage?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I would pass on the free pass, no question. For a couple of reasons:

Sex without a comitted relationship is worse than empty for me, it makes me feel like complete crap and gives me baggage to deal with that I sure as fuck don't need. It's like taking my car to the gas station on an empty tank and getting it filled with dish soap or orange juice or nail polish remover, it causes more problems than it solves. Abstinence can feel like the lesser of two evils, but I'd rather go without than sleep with someone i don't love.

Monogamy is important to me. Not because somebody told me it should be, but because it's what i choose. I would have a hard time forgiving myself for violating my own standard of behavior and that would negatively impact my relationship. No thanks.

In addition, the offer of a free pass by a committed partner who knew that i value monogamy would be a huge red flag that we were likely not well matched, and would cause me to re-think the entire relationship. We'd probably both be better off looking for partners who share our views on the subject.

 

[rlaflamme]

I don't want to be someone's #2. It's fine if it's just physical, or even here on the boards where we're just playing around, but when you add in an emotional connection that's when I'm not good with being someone's "free pass."

The emotional aspect does add a whole new element to it doesn't it? It is an interesting thing, the free pass, and how one would work with it interests me.

 

[rlaflamme]

I would pass on the free pass, no question. For a couple of reasons:

Sex without a comitted relationship is worse than empty for me, it makes me feel like complete crap and gives me baggage to deal with that I sure as fuck don't need. It's like taking my car to the gas station on an empty tank and getting it filled with dish soap or orange juice or nail polish remover, it causes more problems than it solves. Abstinence can feel like the lesser of two evils, but I'd rather go without than sleep with someone i don't love.

Monogamy is important to me. Not because somebody told me it should be, but because it's what i choose. I would have a hard time forgiving myself for violating my own standard of behavior and that would negatively impact my relationship. No thanks.

In addition, the offer of a free pass by a committed partner who knew that i value monogamy would be a huge red flag that we were probably not well matched, and would cause me to re-think the entire relationship. We'd probably both be better off looking for partners who share our views on the subject.

Very insightful, thank you.

 

[bondagegirl007]

Does gold paint count as bondage?

I, hmm... no? lol. That would be more bond girl than bondage girl. But I'm not biased against any part of my name and am open to all possibilities...

 

[Misshotndeep]

Does gold paint count as bondage?

Totally off topic but you can’t pain a persons whole body in gold or they will suffocate. Just in case anyone needs to know for future reference. I learned that from a 007 behind the scenes things years ago.

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

I, hmm... no? lol. That would be more bond girl than bondage girl. But I'm not biased against any part of my name and am open to all possibilities...

Tickling?

To stay on-topic, I'm in the 'need a connection' camp. I wouldn't offer one and I wouldn't accept one.

 

[bondagegirl007]

Totally off topic but you can’t pain a persons whole body in gold or they will suffocate. Just in case anyone needs to know for future reference. I learned that from a 007 behind the scenes things years ago.

You won't suffocate. You can suffer from heatstroke and depending on the kind of paint could have a reaction from the chemicals in it, but no suffocation.

 

[bondagegirl007]

Tickling?

To stay on-topic, I'm in the 'need a connection' camp. I wouldn't offer one and I wouldn't accept one.

... I ...

I think I'm going to give you credit as being the most unpredictable person I've "met" on here so far. So, I guess... nicely done.

 

[rlaflamme]

It seems that many people need a connection to actually perform with another. In that case the free pass has a lot more risk to it, I think, as opposed to a free pass given with a stipulation of the other person being a stranger.

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

... I ...

I think I'm going to give you credit as being the most unpredictable person I've "met" on here so far. So, I guess... nicely done.

Thank you, BondageGirl.

There are hidden darknesses within my overall sweetness.

 

[bondagegirl007]

It seems that many people need a connection to actually perform with another. In that case the free pass has a lot more risk to it, I think, as opposed to a free pass given with a stipulation of the other person being a stranger.

Right. So then the question becomes, is the risk worth the opportunity?

 

[rlaflamme]

Right. So then the question becomes, is the risk worth the opportunity?

Exactly. It is an interesting thing. I get random thoughts in my head and post them and see where they go lol. Is it called something other than a free pass if it has stipulations?

 

[bondagegirl007]

Exactly. It is an interesting thing. I get random thoughts in my head and post them and see where they go lol. Is it called something other than a free pass if it has stipulations?

A contract?