Free pass

[Elite_Goblin]

I have thought long time about giving my husband a free pass. Not because a really want him to have sex with another woman, but because I feel guilty that I am not a very sexual person and he is. I to feel that a marriage is just between two people and that how I would like it to stay. I just feel that I am not satisfying him in the ways he would like to be.

Wow! That is extremely unselfish of you and truly thoughtful.

My wife has told me before that maybe I should go out and find a 25 year old woman to fulfill my needs. I think that she is only half-serious about it, although she has said it a couple times before. I don't think she would welcome it, if it really happened. Likely end of marriage there. (but great thought, if it would be accepted) If it was acceptable, I would find it a win-win scenario. Everyone would be happy.

 

[hotwords229_A]

You know, I do what I can to bring smiles to the faces of sexy men that get my panties wet.

I clicked on those underlined words more times than I want to admit. Only to be disappointed over and over.

 

[rlaflamme]

The thread didn't last as long as I had hoped lol. Do you think this is a touchy subject for most people?

 

[Diz97FB]

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[rlaflamme]

Does years of sexual neglect count as a free pass in Lit's world? 'Cause I'm at the end of my tether with my husband now.

I'm in yer boat, Slowly..sadly. Not as much.. intentional neglect on her part..as more..physical inability, & lack of interest. She has given.."permission", & I must admit to a hearty desire to accept, but I still worry on her motivation..& sincerity ? still under discussion, but she seems good with her decision. ( as we had been lifestyle early in the relationship, the situation is not without precedent, so..? )

I think that when the sex begins to really dwindle and months go by without sexual attention the free pass should be a subject that comes up. As for me, I not only want sex for the sheer joy of giving and receiving pleasure, but it is a major stress reliever. It helps me relax, forget about pain for a bit and sleep.

Some relationships can handle a free pass and some cannot. Time will tell if yours can I guess. Sex can be a need and a want and many people think of it as only a want. It is interesting though, the idea of a free pass. It makes my mind wander.

 

[rlaflamme]

Do you think that a free pass may be given because the spouse believes that they cannot (will not) fulfill the fantasies and desires of the other? Like, one wants to explore more with sex, do more things, push the limits a bit and the other is not interested at all in those things, so they say, "Go, explore, fulfill the fantasies and see."?

 

[Porkwarrior]

Do you think that a free pass may be given because the spouse believes that they cannot (will not) fulfill the fantasies and desires of the other? Like, one wants to explore more with sex, do more things, push the limits a bit and the other is not interested at all in those things, so they say, "Go, explore, fulfill the fantasies and see."?

Pretty much, yes. There is also a slight ego trip.

But I have made it clear to my sexual partners. Gillian Anderson gets a sexual pass.

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2017/06/26/20/41C6C2B600000578-4641062-Looking_lean_Gillian_Anderson_showed_off_her_superfit_figure_on_-m-46_1498506309741.jpg

 

[JediSurfer]

Gillian Anderson gets a sexual pass.

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2017/06/26/20/41C6C2B600000578-4641062-Looking_lean_Gillian_Anderson_showed_off_her_superfit_figure_on_-m-46_1498506309741.jpg

My lord in heaven. I did not know how attracted I was to Scully until just now.

Thank you.

 

[rlaflamme]

Pretty much, yes. There is also a slight ego trip.

But I have made it clear to my sexual partners. Gillian Anderson gets a sexual pass.

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2017/06/26/20/41C6C2B600000578-4641062-Looking_lean_Gillian_Anderson_showed_off_her_superfit_figure_on_-m-46_1498506309741.jpg

I think a lot of people have a free pass for someone famous, just the way it seems to go, probably because the likelihood of it happening is so slim lol.

A free pass to be with anyone though, a bit different.

 

[rlaflamme]

Does the thought about a "free pass" change if it is only for oral sex, no penetration?

 

[rlaflamme]

So, this thread has been quiet for some time, but now I am really curious, with all the things going on, does it make the free pass more acceptable when this is all done?