For those 'newer' here - Any of you into the 'alternative lifestyle?'

[Sparky Kronkite]

Yeah I know - I hate that term too.

To me is simply - 'voyeristic, mutually consenting, group sex - usually with a loving partner.'

Is that simple?

I think it is.

Any of you out there into this extracaricular adult activity?

Any want to but have not yet?

Any that were but quit? How come?

 

[KillerMuffin]

I'm into receiving faceless propositions in bastardized English from all over the globe. I'm into getting unsolicited pics of the average male cock featuring a nice healthy beer belly. I'm into learning the private details of sex lives, particularly how much cum can be produced in the space of 3,000ish words, of people from all over the world.

I write smut. I receive anonymous feedback. I am sarcastic.

 

[Horny Hippie Girl]

I don't know how much this counts, but my husband and I have tried "swinging". We did have some special friends that we used to play with. It became all very complicated when the male of the other couple began to have strong feelings for me. The female had terribly low self esteem anyway. We didn't know this in the beginning. My husband is a very hansome man. The dark and mysterious type. The female of the other couple became upset when my husband didn't respond to her romantically, not sexually, cause of course he did do that, just not romantically. I didn't want her husband to have feelings for me, but what could do but end it. So, that was the end of our swinging.
However, I am bisexual to the core of my being and I truly believe that some, maybe not all, but some people are capable of loving more than one person at a time. Hence, I live with my husband and my girlfriend now. My girlfriend and I dated originally in high school, then broke up after about a year. We got back together after I was already in love and married to my husband. He understands my love for her and she understands my love for him. We all live as one big happy family, with us jointly raising my son by my husband and her daughter by a previous relationship.

That alternative enough for you???

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Swinging is not love. And should never be.

It can't be.

Swingers - when choosing 'that path,' they need to commit to - that understanding, that commitment.......

We - 'as a commited, loving, life long(?) couple - will not, ever blur the reality of a purely recreational, mutual, shared sexual experience - with anything closely related to what 'might' be interpreted 'as love.'

Except to each other.

Fact is - the Shebabe and I - 'use' other couples - and that's it. We don't even do it twice with them. We finish with them and never see them again.

I mean - why would you?

 

[Pamela]

Well Horny Girl!!!

I don't know how much this counts, but my husband and I have tried "swinging". We did have some special friends that we used to play with. It became all very complicated when the male of the other couple began to have strong feelings for me. The female had terribly low self esteem anyway. We didn't know this in the beginning. My husband is a very hansome man. The dark and mysterious type. The female of the other couple became upset when my husband didn't respond to her romantically, not sexually, cause of course he did do that, just not romantically. I didn't want her husband to have feelings for me, but what could do but end it. So, that was the end of our swinging.
However, I am bisexual to the core of my being and I truly believe that some, maybe not all, but some people are capable of loving more than one person at a time. Hence, I live with my husband and my girlfriend now. My girlfriend and I dated originally in high school, then broke up after about a year. We got back together after I was already in love and married to my husband. He understands my love for her and she understands my love for him. We all live as one big happy family, with us jointly raising my son by my husband and her daughter by a previous relationship.

That alternative enough for you???

I never knew you guys all lived together! Wild! That is so cool!

Okay me.....my biggest fantasy is annoymous group sex!!! I have had threesomes...which were awesome!! But, there's something about that "stranger" fantasy that gets me riled!

As far as swinging..... my other half would never go for it! Too jealous! Too bad! I would love to swing!!

 

[lilminx]

I've dabbled in it- I went to Le Trapeze a couple of times with two different men I was dating. I've also been to the Manor- an off-premises swing club.

I wouldn't mind getting more into it, but as of now I don't have a significant other. And I agree with you about swining not being love- there needs to be a huge amount of trust between the couple.

 

[pabloback]

am i a newbey yet?

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Never made it to Trapeze........

Talked to them on the phone once but we favored Anita's when it was down in the Wall Street area.

Still, Manhattan Swing clubs pretty much suck.

Don't know that other one you mention but strikes me - is that the one that got busted? Former Mafia wife and new doctor husband deal?

Hell huh?

Hells Kitchen? Know that neighborhood well.

And..... get a date.

 

[lobito]

I alternate my lifestyle everyday.

The only swinging we do is in the backyard, on the porch swing. We're so straight dull, it's not even funny when it comes to swinging.

 

[lilminx]

Re: Never made it to Trapeze........

Talked to them on the phone once but we favored Anita's when it was down in the Wall Street area.

Still, Manhattan Swing clubs pretty much suck.

Don't know that other one you mention but strikes me - is that the one that got busted? Former Mafia wife and new doctor husband deal?
Hell huh?
Hells Kitchen? Know that neighborhood well.
And..... get a date.

The Manor is actually called the Couple's Social Club- also known as the Long Island Manor.

Hell- just hell.

And I have a date for Sat- I'm going to the manor with him. I just don't have someone on a regualr basis. Many men don't like the idea of sharing the woman they're with, with other men. Of course, they wouldn't mind being in the middle of a girl-girl sandwich.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I'm actually the opposite......

(Some think this sappy bullshit but.....)

I love my Shebabe so much - and she gets so much enjoyment from - mostly men, but some women too - that I not only don't mind - I love it - watching her go over the edge.

Maybe I'm different (I like to think I'm better) but - I just don't feel (in those, rather controlled situations) any jealousy.

Now, 'in other situations' I could feel jealousy. But I don't tend to go there and the Shebabe doesn't either.

Like I said - we're commited to each other - and we have our rules.

Besides - even though our coupled consentration is 'mostly on her' - I get my strays - if you get my drift.

Better'n most schmucks get.

I'm doin' fine. Thanks.

One thing? Did he ask you or you him?

 

[lilminx]

I think it's very cool that you and the shebabe have such a stable, understanding relationship that you are able to do that wit and for her. Not many men could do it.

As for the asking, the guy I'm going with on Saturday is the one I've gone with the other 3 times I went. It was his suggestion, as I had never been there before, but we always had fun when we went. We haven't gone home with anyone as of yet, but it's a lot of fun to watch other people meet. We met another couple there who I really liked, and the our of us were making out on the dance floor (not the 2 guys with each other though). It was very exciting, and I'm kind of hoping that they'll be there this Saturday.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I hope they are too.

We've 'been there done that' - many times - and it's still fucking different and very fun every time.

Last time was great.

So? The dudes married huh?

 

[lilminx]

Nope, not married- what made you think that?


Too bad you're not still in NYC, Sparky.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Just the way you 'said it.'

Why no commitment? Just fun? Tis cool.

We're there often though.

Have fun this weekend. Take the plunge - do it.

 

[lilminx]

Yup, just fun- no commitment. Although it would be nice to have a commitment with someone who was accepting of and into a relationship that was open- with limits.

We'll see what happens on Saturday.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I look at it this way.

If a guy is jealous - he has no confidence. He has no balls.

Jealous men are - less men. Might as well be fags. (No disrespect intended.)

Our deal is 'that we treat each other like, we're number one to each other, %100 of the time.'

And if "that" falters? Someone has fucked up - one of the two of us.

It's a commitment to live by. Everyone else - except our kids - is number two or down the list. Everyone.

We are souly and solely commited to each other. A rule.

It works for us.

And ya know - if you can make that sort of commitment - all the other shit is - well - other shit.

We win! We always win!

 

[Pamela]

Re: I look at it this way.

If a guy is jealous - he has no confidence. He has no balls.

Jealous men are - less men. Might as well be fags. (No disrespect intended.)

I agree completely! That goes for women too!

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Hurray for Pam.....

on her 74th post!

A lover of life.

You can't realy love life and have jealousy be a part of it.

 

[Pamela]

Re: Hurray for Pam.....

on her 74th post!

A lover of life.

You can't realy love life and have jealousy be a part of it.

Hey I love life....a little too much I think!! Thanks for the congrats....I'm trying to get a damn av!!!

So if you see me babbling lots.....that's why!!!

 

[lilminx]

Re: I look at it this way.

We are souly and solely commited to each other. A rule.

It works for us.

And ya know - if you can make that sort of commitment - all the other shit is - well - other shit.

We win! We always win!

I think it's a great way to live. You and the shebabe are two very lucky people.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Babe?

Babble away.

This is the Temple of Babble.

Babblezon.

As in 'babble's on' - and on and on and on.

 

[Rubyfruit]

My husband and I have been swinging on and off since before we got married. It really works for us.

 

[Pamela]

My husband and I have been swinging on and off since before we got married. It really works for us.

*sigh* Sooooooo envious of you!!!

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Swinging is great! Only if......

Both your heads are very together and.......

You keep it all safe.