For men over 40....

[Willowbigirl]

Hi ;-)

In my recent plunge into the world of everything sexual online - I have noticed some things I hope you can all help me to understand please!

After men turn 40 (sometimes a bit younger) there seems to be a a bit of a sexual awakening, where kinks come out, men are less afraid to indulge and disclose a lot more openly what they are into and (much to my pleasure) seem more likely to openly admit being bi-curious.

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life? Btw I think it is a wonderful and very kinky thing so please don't be shy!

 

[SigmaJay]

At 40 I was soooo busy with work and family.

It didn't hit me until age 52 after all of the kids flew the nest and my wife went into menopause. PM me if you want to know more.

 

[m_and_em_stories]

Generically I think many men focus on family and careers to different degrees in their 20s and 30s, often toxically at the expense of their own personal wants and needs to benefit their family and career. After two decades of hard work, the combined effect of feeling you have succeeded in your role for your family, and now have the financial means and the time and energy to focus on themselfs and their own personal needs and wants. Thus the mid life crisis where men get blamed and demonized for many just finally caring about themselves.

Personally, A lot of complicated circumstances beyond that were also holding me back until recently. That and I really never planned my life much past 40 in any sort of detail. My list of goals and things to accomplish in my life somehow is down to only a few last things. So now what do I do with myself? Start adding things to the list I was too scared to add in the past, or didn't want then and want now, and I'm more willing to not give a fuck about others opinions on the matter.

I've always been bi-curious to some degree but decades of fantasy can turn something small into something bigger. Now I'm just going to own and enjoy wherever that goes.

 

[Willowbigirl]

Generically I think many men focus on family and careers to different degrees in their 20s and 30s, often toxically at the expense of their own personal wants and needs to benefit their family and career. After two decades of hard work, the combined effect of feeling you have succeeded in your role for your family, and now have the financial means and the time and energy to focus on themselfs and their own personal needs and wants. Thus the mid life crisis where men get blamed and demonized for many just finally caring about themselves.

Personally, A lot of complicated circumstances beyond that were also holding me back until recently. That and I really never planned my life much past 40 in any sort of detail. My list of goals and things to accomplish in my life somehow is down to only a few last things. So now what do I do with myself? Start adding things to the list I was too scared to add in the past, or didn't want then and want now, and I'm more willing to not give a fuck about others opinions on the matter.

I've always been bi-curious to some degree but decades of fantasy can turn something small into something bigger. Now I'm just going to own and enjoy wherever that goes.

Love that, what an inciteful response and thank you! I like indulging the new found confidence and lease of life in men tbh, providing a safe space for men to indulge fantasies and desires they can't express irl.

 

[m_and_em_stories]

Confidence is so sexy!

I like indulging the new found confidence and lease of life in men tbh, providing a safe space for men to indulge fantasies and desires they can't express irl.

Thank you for your efforts! The world needs more of you

 

[Willowbigirl]

Happy to be of service!! I actually am though ;-)

 

[PlayfulJay]

I absolutely agree with what’s already been said. For me, there was a full realization of my own mortality that came around 40. I know, that sounds dark. But I think it really impacted how I viewed my daily life. When you fully realize that life has a time limit, it’s easier to open up about the interests and desires that you’ve ignored or kept silent about. Insecurities, social constraints, fear…those all no longer seem like reasonable barriers to experiencing all that life has to offer, especially when it comes to what my mind and body crave.