For men over 40....

[Willowbigirl]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

 

[RoanMtn]

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life?

That's a very good question, and one I ask myself. I am now a closet sissy, keep myself shaved, wear panties 24/7, and masturbate to sissy stories and videos. If you would have told me I would be moving in this direction a couple of years ago, I would have questioned your sanity. I have NO idea where these fantasies came/come from.

 

[LustALot]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

As the saying goes, we grow too soon old and too late smart!

 

[nostuff]

Hi ;-)

In my recent plunge into the world of everything sexual online - I have noticed some things I hope you can all help me to understand please!

After men turn 40 (sometimes a bit younger) there seems to be a a bit of a sexual awakening, where kinks come out, men are less afraid to indulge and disclose a lot more openly what they are into and (much to my pleasure) seem more likely to openly admit being bi-curious.

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life? Btw I think it is a wonderful and very kinky thing so please don't be shy!

You pose a fascinating question, and it's one I wonder about most every day. I would quibble, though, with any suggestion that men in general become more open to same-sex encounters. In my experience, at least, the tendency is to grow more rigid in our thinking. I'm confident that those of us who have opened our minds to sex with men are in the minority.

But back to your original question: I've spent years trying to understand my gay desires, and I still don't have an answer other than to say I really like cock.

I'm especially puzzled, because I always thought the mere act of touching another man distasteful, if not disgusting. Not that I disliked gays in any way. I've always been a live-and-let-live kind of guy.

One day, however, I started wondering what man sex was like, why some men would be attracted to cock. It was a slow thing, nothing like the proverbial lightning strike. A long, drawn out evolution instead.

Was it because I wasn't happy at home? Perhaps, but that never made sense to me. If it was a matter of wanting more sex, I could have tried an affair with another woman instead of a man. (Note: I'm not ruling out another woman.)

Was it because I started watching gay porn? I couldn't even watch William Hurt in Kiss Of The Spider Woman. Yuck, I had to close my eyes.

Was it something I read? If I couldn't tolerate a mainstream Hollywood movie, why would I find the written word any more appealing?

All I can figure is that something in me changed, something physical or psychological. Either way, I'm not smart enough to figure it out, so I just accept that I have an appetite for both men and women.

 

[nostuff]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

I can't speak for men in general, but I can say this was absolutely true with me. Oh, the wasted opportunities.

And if I'm being honest, your comment still holds a lot of truth.

 

[Experimentalist]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

I do wish I had leaned into this more when I was younger.

 

[WildFireTN]

The age of 40 seems a long time ago.

I'm 72 now, I'm playing more sport than ever, and I feel more alive than at any time in my life.

Happily retired, and unencumbered by the pressures of working crazy hours, my wife and I have rekindled a wonderful sex life.

We love spending time with our grandchildren, we love walking in nature, and we take care of each other if one of us is feeling poorly.

We cook healthy food, we enjoy each other's company, and we enjoy our sexy times more than ever.

And, even at our advanced ages, we love seeing each other naked and are always turned on by light, tingly touches and beautiful soft kisses.

Yes! Well said, Sir!
My Wifey and I enjoy our life in retirement, more than I dreamed we would. Our sex life is robust, alive and well! Life is good!

 

[kinky_jat]

Hi ;-)

In my recent plunge into the world of everything sexual online - I have noticed some things I hope you can all help me to understand please!

After men turn 40 (sometimes a bit younger) there seems to be a a bit of a sexual awakening, where kinks come out, men are less afraid to indulge and disclose a lot more openly what they are into and (much to my pleasure) seem more likely to openly admit being bi-curious.

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life? Btw I think it is a wonderful and very kinky thing so please don't be shy!

Just less inhabited, maybe wanting to explore things cause life is too short not too.

 

[gtnlynn]

My kinks or more liberal sex approach happened in my 30's when I let my wife have sex with others, and we had a few times when others could see us have sex. What happened after I got beyond 40 was that I began telling others what we had done in our 30's.

 

[Live4themoments]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

I'm trying to make up for lost time....

 

[Live4themoments]

In today's world it is much easier to express and be accepted for sexual ideas. Females today seem to be less hesitant and inhibited in their desires. For me it is ideal to take it slow, to be comfortable with the choices I make, and to be sure the other person decisions are what she wants. One thing I dread is maybe 20 years from now, sitting in a chair in a nursing home, thinking back and wishing I did things in my life that I can no longer do.

 

[MuffandNonsense]

Yes! Well said, Sir!
My Wifey and I enjoy our life in retirement, more than I dreamed we would. Our sex life is robust, alive and well! Life is good!

Thank you!

It's good to see the more senior citizens (Litizens?) on here enjoying life so much.

Put your health first, look after each other, and the rest will fall into place.

 

[Midnight_Voyager26]

We gain a lot of experience and perspective over time, and it just seems to bubble up more and more after age 40. Most of us learn to slow down, and take the time to please our lover(s). There is a lustful and savory feeling that builds as you excite your lover, and it is 10,000% better than just dropping your pants to be Captain 2 pump.

We are also more willing to seek out new knowledge and experiences to bring back home too. You could learn a lot about hot, sexy, talk just by experimenting with others in the sexting world (don't try emoj IRL tho). You can learn new skills and techniques by watching, talking to, or actually sleepimg with others. Online communities really do open up a world of opportunities for men that didn't exist 20 years ago.

In the 1990's, the average guy was jerking off to his playbook magazine stack. Now, it is easier to find an actual partner or coach to teach you how to jerk off for your lover.....while they watch or participate. The sky is the limit to be honest.

We also become more cognizant of our mortality, and we can keep over dead at any moment. So as long as we do this stuff safely, then why not get out there to learn new skills and experiences right?

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Hi ;-)

In my recent plunge into the world of everything sexual online - I have noticed some things I hope you can all help me to understand please!

After men turn 40 (sometimes a bit younger) there seems to be a a bit of a sexual awakening, where kinks come out, men are less afraid to indulge and disclose a lot more openly what they are into and (much to my pleasure) seem more likely to openly admit being bi-curious.

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life? Btw I think it is a wonderful and very kinky thing so please don't be shy!

I was part of a community and a clique of moderators decided to spread untrue and vile rumors about me, and I challenged them to prove their allegations and they could not do so.

Doesn't matter, they're moderators, so they banned me anyway. They can do that, banning doesn't have to be fair.

Anyway, after being publicly shamed and slandered and humiliated I thought to myself.... people who actually care about me and know me and know this stuff isn't true, are the only people whose opinions I care about.

And, I suppressed being trans and a lot of kinks because I was married, but we are now separated.

So....

I lost a lot of people who didn't matter and the people who did matter, would stick with me.

So I confessed I was trans and began seeking out people who actually would accept me for who I am instead of the "socially acceptable" version of me, which, people can and will turn against you anyway, for little or no reason. People who don't care about you can be vicious hateful jerks, I don't need them in my life.

My actual friends accepted me for who I am and anyone I meet on here or elsewhere will have to do the same.

I just want to be my authentic self. If I'm going to be stripped naked and accused of being something, it might as well be the person I really am, instead of someone fake.

I'm done being fake.

I want one person who accepts me for me.

Can't find them unless I accept me for me.

 

[MongoSex]

We gain a lot of experience and perspective over time, and it just seems to bubble up more and more after age 40. Most of us learn to slow down, and take the time to please our lover(s). There is a lustful and savory feeling that builds as you excite your lover, and it is 10,000% better than just dropping your pants to be Captain 2 pump.

We are also more willing to seek out new knowledge and experiences to bring back home too. You could learn a lot about hot, sexy, talk just by experimenting with others in the sexting world (don't try emoj IRL tho). You can learn new skills and techniques by watching, talking to, or actually sleepimg with others. Online communities really do open up a world of opportunities for men that didn't exist 20 years ago.

In the 1990's, the average guy was jerking off to his playbook magazine stack. Now, it is easier to find an actual partner or coach to teach you how to jerk off for your lover.....while they watch or participate. The sky is the limit to be honest.

We also become more cognizant of our mortality, and we can keep over dead at any moment. So as long as we do this stuff safely, then why not get out there to learn new skills and experiences right?

Well said.