For men over 40....

[Mike130]

Similar thing happened to me. I was 24 and my girlfriend was 28. She hinted about swapping with a girl I knew, but I wasn’t really interested at the time. The foolishness of youth….

 

[Willowbigirl]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

 

[RoanMtn]

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life?

That's a very good question, and one I ask myself. I am now a closet sissy, keep myself shaved, wear panties 24/7, and masturbate to sissy stories and videos. If you would have told me I would be moving in this direction a couple of years ago, I would have questioned your sanity. I have NO idea where these fantasies came/come from.

 

[LustALot]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

As the saying goes, we grow too soon old and too late smart!

 

[nostuff]

Hi ;-)

In my recent plunge into the world of everything sexual online - I have noticed some things I hope you can all help me to understand please!

After men turn 40 (sometimes a bit younger) there seems to be a a bit of a sexual awakening, where kinks come out, men are less afraid to indulge and disclose a lot more openly what they are into and (much to my pleasure) seem more likely to openly admit being bi-curious.

I am fascinated to know why this is, so please tell me, what happens to men to open their minds in mid life? Btw I think it is a wonderful and very kinky thing so please don't be shy!

You pose a fascinating question, and it's one I wonder about most every day. I would quibble, though, with any suggestion that men in general become more open to same-sex encounters. In my experience, at least, the tendency is to grow more rigid in our thinking. I'm confident that those of us who have opened our minds to sex with men are in the minority.

But back to your original question: I've spent years trying to understand my gay desires, and I still don't have an answer other than to say I really like cock.

I'm especially puzzled, because I always thought the mere act of touching another man distasteful, if not disgusting. Not that I disliked gays in any way. I've always been a live-and-let-live kind of guy.

One day, however, I started wondering what man sex was like, why some men would be attracted to cock. It was a slow thing, nothing like the proverbial lightning strike. A long, drawn out evolution instead.

Was it because I wasn't happy at home? Perhaps, but that never made sense to me. If it was a matter of wanting more sex, I could have tried an affair with another woman instead of a man. (Note: I'm not ruling out another woman.)

Was it because I started watching gay porn? I couldn't even watch William Hurt in Kiss Of The Spider Woman. Yuck, I had to close my eyes.

Was it something I read? If I couldn't tolerate a mainstream Hollywood movie, why would I find the written word any more appealing?

All I can figure is that something in me changed, something physical or psychological. Either way, I'm not smart enough to figure it out, so I just accept that I have an appetite for both men and women.

 

[nostuff]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

I can't speak for men in general, but I can say this was absolutely true with me. Oh, the wasted opportunities.

And if I'm being honest, your comment still holds a lot of truth.

 

[Experimentalist]

It's such a shame! If men in their 20's knew what women were capable of and weren't scared to experiment, everyone would have a much better time!

I do wish I had leaned into this more when I was younger.