Stella_Omega
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Sweetie, you've already gotten the best advice any of us have to give. 
Fisting
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thesweetsweetness
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Another suggestion that was given was to use toys to help stretch you. Wander your kitchen and bathroom on a hunt for new things to try to fit in you.
Good luck, I do hope you will be successful this time. But don't forget that old saying, focus on the journey, not the destination.
Stella_Omega
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no, it's a subby flaw!
If you don't fail once in a while, the doms start getting worried that we can't live up to their subs.
K?
countryboy_69
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fistin
as a bi male sub i have been fisted many times it took long time getting there tied with large obgects shoved in me and ketp in place
as a bi male sub i have been fisted many times it took long time getting there tied with large obgects shoved in me and ketp in place
mjar65
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suggestion
Maybe have a third person with you to play with your clit? As a 'giver' I have seen this approach work very well.
Of course, it is possible his hand is too big for you. But try not to be anxious, just concentrate on having great play and that will naturally allow you to 'loosen up'. Also, be sure not to wait till there end of the session when you're starting to run out of stamina.
I am sure we'd all love a report of whatever progress you both make.
Maybe have a third person with you to play with your clit? As a 'giver' I have seen this approach work very well.
Of course, it is possible his hand is too big for you. But try not to be anxious, just concentrate on having great play and that will naturally allow you to 'loosen up'. Also, be sure not to wait till there end of the session when you're starting to run out of stamina.
I am sure we'd all love a report of whatever progress you both make.
My Dom and I have been talking and I have had some personal advice PM'd me which I have passed on. It seems that some type of "training" is required.
Please all those who have been sucessful, if you could offer any advice here on any things or techniques which would train my subby pussy , I'd be eternally greatful
Keep in mind that because of circumstance we dont meet with any regularity and that the training would be by distance and done specifically by me in preparation.
Heres hoping you can help!
I recommend this inflatable dildo. I bought it after the first time I had successfully been fisted. I use it now to replicate that really full feeling, when he is not around. It is a little expensive, but I have had mine for over 4 years, and it is one of my favorite "go to" toys.
Happy Fisting!
http://www.amazon.com/Rubber-Inflatable-Dildo-Inflation-Bulb/dp/B001U8KJFW
submittingsparkles
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kimuk, thanks for posting your questions!
this was the thread i wanted to find. i came to the boards tonight to ask pretty much the same question, and was more than a little apprehensive about having my first thread here be about fisting, but instead i just got to read your thread and see all the advise and knowledge offered up. and now i feel better about asking questions, too. maybe next time i have one i'll post myself.
this was the thread i wanted to find. i came to the boards tonight to ask pretty much the same question, and was more than a little apprehensive about having my first thread here be about fisting, but instead i just got to read your thread and see all the advise and knowledge offered up. and now i feel better about asking questions, too. maybe next time i have one i'll post myself.
Arrrrr Stella how I love you.no, it's a subby flaw!
If you don't fail once in a while, the doms start getting worried that we can't live up to their subs.
K?
Report back ...we didnt try it in the end we got distracted by to many other things lol
But we had agreat day
biffothebear
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Guess we'll just have to wait and see what happens next time then won't we.
hotrochnywife
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We don't do this a lot but we have been able to pull it off a few times. First of all it also took us 2 or 3 tries to get it right. When we were finally able to make it all the way it was pretty simple. We always have done it with me laying on my back. This seemed to be the best position for us.
First and foremost you need tons of lube. No matter how much you think there is enough keep adding more during the entire session! He starts with 3 fingers and worked his way up to 4 with his fingers as tight together as possible. Once he had all four in like someone else earlier in the tread said. he has to bring his thumb in as tight as possible to where his fingers start. The key though is not to try and bring it up to the same level as his fingers. If he does that it starts to spread his hand. Also make sure his thumb is in the up direction when he starts. Maybe we can post a pic tomorrow of what we mean. Once he does that he starts turning his hand a lot and a little bit in and out till he gets to where the thumb knuckle starts to put pressure on my opening. All the while adding more and more lube (sorry to sound like a broken record but it's that important!).
Once he starts to get to the point where it starts to get really tight he starts licking my clit. First slowly as I am a little sensitive but maybe more if you were less sensitive. All the while continuing to turn his and while keeping in to the point that it's really tight. As I start to orgasm I start tapping him or telling him so he knows I'm close and as I get closer he keeps turning his hand and he keeps pushing a little farther in. As I get really close I get more vocal or start tapping a lot so he knows I am close because as soon as I get to the point of no return he can really start putting more pressure as in the middle of orgasm you will feel very little if any pain.
If the pain should override the pleasure at this point just tell him to ease up and wait for the next orgasm and repeat. Hopefully this helps a little. I know most of it has already been covered but I thought it was worth mentioning. Whatever you do keep trying as the orgasm once he makes it in is amazing! And once he is in for me if he keeps turning gently I can continue having huge multiple orgasms!
Lastly when you are spent and it's time for him to withdraw it might be a little uncomfortable but truly worth the effort and time you put into it in my opinion
Best of luck and keep us posted please...
First and foremost you need tons of lube. No matter how much you think there is enough keep adding more during the entire session! He starts with 3 fingers and worked his way up to 4 with his fingers as tight together as possible. Once he had all four in like someone else earlier in the tread said. he has to bring his thumb in as tight as possible to where his fingers start. The key though is not to try and bring it up to the same level as his fingers. If he does that it starts to spread his hand. Also make sure his thumb is in the up direction when he starts. Maybe we can post a pic tomorrow of what we mean. Once he does that he starts turning his hand a lot and a little bit in and out till he gets to where the thumb knuckle starts to put pressure on my opening. All the while adding more and more lube (sorry to sound like a broken record but it's that important!).
Once he starts to get to the point where it starts to get really tight he starts licking my clit. First slowly as I am a little sensitive but maybe more if you were less sensitive. All the while continuing to turn his and while keeping in to the point that it's really tight. As I start to orgasm I start tapping him or telling him so he knows I'm close and as I get closer he keeps turning his hand and he keeps pushing a little farther in. As I get really close I get more vocal or start tapping a lot so he knows I am close because as soon as I get to the point of no return he can really start putting more pressure as in the middle of orgasm you will feel very little if any pain.
If the pain should override the pleasure at this point just tell him to ease up and wait for the next orgasm and repeat. Hopefully this helps a little. I know most of it has already been covered but I thought it was worth mentioning. Whatever you do keep trying as the orgasm once he makes it in is amazing! And once he is in for me if he keeps turning gently I can continue having huge multiple orgasms!
Lastly when you are spent and it's time for him to withdraw it might be a little uncomfortable but truly worth the effort and time you put into it in my opinion
Best of luck and keep us posted please...
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RoxyChick69
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newbee taking notes..
Wow! Thank you for posting this thread. Up until reading this thread I had NO IDEA that fisting could bring about such pleasure! I don't know what I was thinking, but I always rejected the idea of being fisted feeling that it would stretch me out too much and make regular penetration less pleasurable.
I can see that I have a lot to learn here! Thank you to all of you for sharing your advice and experiences. I have a new partner who has mentioned us getting to the point of fisting, but I shied away. Now I can't wait to tell him that this is something I am very curious to try!
I am enlightened today! (I love the Lit community!).
Have a great day everyone!
~roxy~
Wow! Thank you for posting this thread. Up until reading this thread I had NO IDEA that fisting could bring about such pleasure! I don't know what I was thinking, but I always rejected the idea of being fisted feeling that it would stretch me out too much and make regular penetration less pleasurable.
I can see that I have a lot to learn here!
Thank you to all of you for sharing your advice and experiences. I have a new partner who has mentioned us getting to the point of fisting, but I shied away. Now I can't wait to tell him that this is something I am very curious to try!I am enlightened today! (I love the Lit community!).
Have a great day everyone!
~
roxy~Thanks for that. We both really want to try it again but we tend to have 4 month intervals between being togeather. So regular practice is not possible. We will get there . We have talked about it so many times. I think we just need to S_L_O_W down. Overly keen me thinks. But he'll read this, I know he will and I'm sure he'll take the advice on board
Rolando2
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Uh this isn't FDA approved but might I recommend alcohol or Xanax or some kind of (MODERATE!) combination?
Just sounds to me like could be as much mental as physical. Breathing exercises or calming music/sounds might help as well but alcohol and pills work with the least amount of effort.
Just sounds to me like could be as much mental as physical. Breathing exercises or calming music/sounds might help as well but alcohol and pills work with the least amount of effort.
I communicated the technique in a way in which he could understand. He's an electrician.
"After the wires are pulled into the box, begin to screw the wires together. Proceed with your usual and methodical attention to detail. By the near finish, you should be able to fasten the last screws in place with the manual flat head."
I'm teaching him about reality versus the porno, and it helps his brain when I communicate what I want in a way he automatically understands.
I don't have any issue with lubrication, but if I did I'd relate "the problem" to mechanic specifics.
Thinking about the process right now, I think I'll torture him later by making him watch a yoni massage video while he's still in Type A work mode.
"After the wires are pulled into the box, begin to screw the wires together. Proceed with your usual and methodical attention to detail. By the near finish, you should be able to fasten the last screws in place with the manual flat head."
I'm teaching him about reality versus the porno, and it helps his brain when I communicate what I want in a way he automatically understands.
I don't have any issue with lubrication, but if I did I'd relate "the problem" to mechanic specifics.
Thinking about the process right now, I think I'll torture him later by making him watch a yoni massage video while he's still in Type A work mode.
How funny! My man is too. So i need to get him an instrrruction manual and he can follow the diagrams!!!!!!
Well our next visit is in 3 weeks time so guess it might be a case of 3rd time lucky?
God I get shivers down my spine and a growing moisture every time I think about it!!!!!!!
countrygentdom
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What I found that works is something I learned from pre-natal classes:
Once he has 2, or 3, fingers inside you, he needs to massage your vaginal-wall down -toward your anus. This will begin to relax the muscles, and open you up. Lubricant can help the process along, but is not the answer -if the muscles of your vaginal-walls are not limbered, it's not going to happen. But, once it does, be prepared for some blinding orgasms!
Once he has 2, or 3, fingers inside you, he needs to massage your vaginal-wall down -toward your anus. This will begin to relax the muscles, and open you up. Lubricant can help the process along, but is not the answer -if the muscles of your vaginal-walls are not limbered, it's not going to happen. But, once it does, be prepared for some blinding orgasms!
Just an update. We suceeded
We just have to refine our technique! lol
May I be the first to congratulate you!! Hope to follow in your footsteps one day...
LOL NO! Hard limit!
