First Time

[Cuckold's Dream]

Hi. My husband has fantasized about me getting off with another man for ages. To be honest the thought really excites me too. The thought of being given free rein to make up for all those years of being a good girl and with his blessing and encouragement. Well!

To cut a long story short, we have agreed for me to see a guy in 2 weeks time when he comes back from holiday and spend the night with him. He's in his mid thirties, single, wealthy, really good looking and clearly (how shall I put it) a stud! He also likes me but I guess that might be self-fulfilling. By the way I'm 29 for what its worth.

Since this is the first time I have ever done this (and my husband's) I wanted to draw up a contract to protect me, my marriage and avoid any pitfalls.

What I wanted to know is if anyone had any advice particularly from someone who's done this and particularly from any young loving wifes!

 

[M's girl]

Well.... you sound absolutely excited and confident at this point, which is good. I am not one for introducing someone else in our sexlife, but that's just me. IF you think your marriage is strong enough I guess it will work for you.

From what you write I'm not sure if it's going to be a threesome or just you fucking this other guy... Is your husband going to watch? Or will you share your experience with him afterwards? Does the other guy know what the deal is exactly here?

You are already talking about some sort of contract so that implies to me that you are aware of the dangers also. That's good. And I'm the last one to say you should not do it when and if the three (!!!!) of you are clear on what it is.

You will see there's plenty of threads about this subject to be found on LIT, with very useful information to help you further make your mind up. Please also read about the dangers and ask yourself WHY you want to do this.

Again, if your relationship is solid, you are both open minded and not jealous, please go ahead and have loads of fun! If in (any) doubt...? Don't do it YET!

That's just my 2 cents...

 

[Cuckold's Dream]

Thanks. Not a threesome. Dont think my husband is up for that or, rather, he hasnt mentioned it. I'm sure he'd like to watch but dont think I'm ready for that. This is my first time on Lit so could you point me in the direction of the right threads about this subject.

 

[Cuckold's Dream]

Oh..and no...the other guy doesnt know. he just thinks I'm playing away from home.

 

[Quoll]

Thanks. Not a threesome. Dont think my husband is up for that or, rather, he hasnt mentioned it. I'm sure he'd like to watch but dont think I'm ready for that. This is my first time on Lit so could you point me in the direction of the right threads about this subject.

This is your best place to start HERE plus also just browse the HT and HT Cafe there are usually two or three threads here on this subject, although most are men wanting to convince their wifes to do what you want to do, so don't be suprised at some of the responses.

 

[Cuckold's Dream]

Thanks. Found some thoughts. Would quite like to find a story, real or otherwise that is similar to mine so I can get some ideas and even tease my husband in advance.

 

[Eilan]

Since this is the first time I have ever done this (and my husband's) I wanted to draw up a contract to protect me, my marriage and avoid any pitfalls.

FWIW, make sure for your own safety that your husband has the address and phone number of wherever you'll be and knows the name, address, etc. of the guy you'll be with. And condoms. Make sure he uses them--again, for YOUR safety.

What do you mean by "protecting" your marriage? If this is something that you and your husband haven't yet experienced, then you honestly don't know how the events you've fantasized about will play out in reality.

If you decide to go through with this, be careful. I know you say that it's your fantasy as well, but make sure that you're not doing this just for your husband. If you're both not emotionally prepared for potential fallout, the results can be devastating.

I've had a handful of MFM threesomes, but I can't really offer any other input into your situation because I won't play unless my husband's with me.

Good luck and be safe.

 

[suavre]

wimp husband

OMG! You are sooo close to having your husband by the balls. It sounds like hes a natural submissive, and if you draw upon this weakness, hes toast The most important thing is a binding contract, in which you need to state clearly that you will be able to do as you wish sexually...with whomever, no matter what objections your hubby may have. He may not agree to this at first, but if you take your time and play it smart, you will not be denied. Use your sexuality to take control, if he doesnt start giving in...at least in theory to some of your demands, start denying him...slowly, make sure he knows if you dont start getting your way, he wont be getting any..lol.. BTW, it always helps to dress really sexxy when you bring the subject up, he will be more inclined to agree with your demands when hes thinking with his lil head
Since hes a natural submissive, it would also help to tease him when your trying to make ground on the situation. Tell him how cute some guy was at the gym...and how large his bulge was..then look down at his crotch and giggle mockingly...say something like... i think hes got you outmanned in that department! This kind of teasing will cripple him, being a submissive, he wants you in control, and even though he knows this is bad for his psyche, and manhood, he wont be able to stop you, because he wants you in a position of power soo badly, and you mocking and teasing him tells him where his place is....at your feet! lol Being submissive is his weakness, and if you play it out, he will do whatever you wish, and happily. Its important to gain some control sexually and over his ego, before you try to give him contract to sign...he must be weak, and ready to give in to your demands. Also it might be a good idea to reinforce that you love him after youve teased him mercilessly. Tell him a good story about a fantasy youve been having about his boss...or a friend etc..after youve got him worked up make him lay on his back...stroke him as you taunt him with details of your fanatsy..when hes getting hot. squat over his face and tell him he better start kissing your ass if he wants you to go on...make him eat you out and ask him how his friends gizz tatses...this kind of humiliation is priceless in taking over the relationship. But right after you work him over, snuggle with him and tell him you luv him, and thatyou do this for him, because HE wants it. Once you can start pulling this kind of thing off, hes ready to sign whatever you want...remember, no contract...no affair...and reduced sex play. At this point he feels you love him because of the positive reinforcement after the humiliation, and just wants to surrender to your lovely control. As i said before make sure the contract is sexually,legally binding, so you have the control( this is what he really wants) make sure in the contract he mst remain faithful to you. And, to make sure he cant get away from your control, make sure you include financial assets, like house/car etc...basically make sure he knows he will be pennyless if he tries to get away! Once he sings the contract you will have all the power in the relationship, for good or evil. This comes from first hand experience, ive had some great times with wives who made cuckolds out of ther hubby! And of course ive asked them how the hell they pulled it off...lol Theres nothing i luv more than to watch some guys wife make her bound husband eat a creampie after ive cum in her! They always say they never knew they could have such intense orgasms...that is until they whipped ther husbands into submissives.

 

[Cuckold's Dream]

Now you're definitely talking my language Suavre...Tell me more!

 

[SweetErika]

Unless your husband has asked you to take advantage of, manipulate, and humiliate him, I think it's a really bad, possibly relationship-destroying idea. Playing on his fantasy by talking about how much you enjoy interacting with other men is one thing, and doing things he's indicated he likes/wants and then checking in is great, but getting him to agree to let you fuck anyone you want or insulting his manhood are dangerous. Being submissive doesn't necessarily mean you want to be humiliated or manipulated either.

My husband and I have a semi-open relationship and have talked about boundaries and made verbal contracts since we started. I don't think writing down what you both want/agree to is a bad idea...it could help in the aftermath, as well as make you think of things to discuss that you haven't previously. I'd consider:

-Safety practices, as Eilan said. What will you do to protect yourself? At what point will you insist on a condom? What happens if you contract something (condoms don't always protect against herpes or HPV)...how will the two of you deal with that? What about pregnancy?

-What specific acts are and are not allowed? Talk about everything that could possibly happen...you never know what's going to touch a nerve or make one of you uncomfortable.

-Will you call him immediately before and after? What about your physical safety?

-What are you going to talk about afterwards? Will he ask what he wants to hear, or should you talk about it without being asked?

-Are you agreeing to talk about the emotional aspects after? What will you do if it stresses your relationship? What if one of you starts to feel guilt or resentment? Will you seek counseling?

-Is this a one-time deal, or is he supporting you doing it multiple times?

-Does this give him permission to go outside the relationship?

 

[WestVaCouple]

Good Posting

My wife and I tried it, she went out on a date with another guy. It started as my idea, but once she met someone that she was interrested in, she needed little prompting. We had come up with a few rules, however, in the heat of the moment, some of the rules went by the wayside. Would be glad to share our rules with you.

Also, the key to this experience is communication. Communicate before and after, let each other know your thoughts, feelings, and fears.

Good Luck and Have Fun.

 

[Koneko]

...Excuse me? Er...Suarve? Exactly when did "It would be pretty hot for you to have sex with a stranger" turn into "Please fuck whomever you want, do what you want, dont ask me, tease me, humiliate me and make me feel inferior by attacking the very core of my masculinity and then go out and fuck some guy after emotionally blackmailing me into not being able to stop you. Oh and while you're at it can you please take control of every financial asset I have so that I'll be a pauper if you ever leave me? 'Cos that'd be really swell"

That, in my opinion, is seriously fucked up for a loving relationship. I'm normally open minded about the whole humiliation thing but for what she wants to try this is one of the worst things that you could ever do. I can only hope that this was sarcasm and you were making up the last part because if you aren't you've lost any chance you had at respect from me (oh and I dont really care if that doesn't bother you)

Geeze...

 

[Eilan]

...Excuse me? Er...Suarve? Exactly when did "It would be pretty hot for you to have sex with a stranger" turn into "Please fuck whomever you want, do what you want, dont ask me, tease me, humiliate me and make me feel inferior by attacking the very core of my masculinity and then go out and fuck some guy after emotionally blackmailing me into not being able to stop you. Oh and while you're at it can you please take control of every financial asset I have so that I'll be a pauper if you ever leave me? 'Cos that'd be really swell"

That, in my opinion, is seriously fucked up for a loving relationship. I'm normally open minded about the whole humiliation thing but for what she wants to try this is one of the worst things that you could ever do. I can only hope that this was sarcasm and you were making up the last part because if you aren't you've lost any chance you had at respect from me (oh and I dont really care if that doesn't bother you)

Geeze...

Wow. I'm just impressed that someone actually read suavre's post. I had to give up after the lack of paragraphs made my eyes cross.

 

[look and see]

My wife and I tried it, she went out on a date with another guy. It started as my idea, but once she met someone that she was interrested in, she needed little prompting. We had come up with a few rules, however, in the heat of the moment, some of the rules went by the wayside. Would be glad to share our rules with you.

Also, the key to this experience is communication. Communicate before and after, let each other know your thoughts, feelings, and fears.

Good Luck and Have Fun.

We are doing the same thing. The date is coming up and we made some rules but I would like to hear from you on this.

 

[WestVaCouple]

Thanks

WOuld be glad to share our rules with you, give me a private message and an e-mail address and I'll send them to you.

 

[wellnow]

Cuckold's Dream, I would love to know how this went for future reference. I certainly hope it was successful and met your dreams.

 

[bytor2112]

your.husband.is.a.pussy.

what a fucking wanker your man is....an insult to real men everywhere..

 

[horny247]

your.husband.is.a.pussy.

what a fucking wanker your man is....an insult to real men everywhere..

I agree. Either your husband is fucking around on you already and wants to feel better by you fucking someone else or he's just fucked up. I'm sorry but I want no mans dick in my wife.

 

[Ezzy]

I'm sorry but I want no mans dick in my wife.

Why, wont you put yours in her either?

Strange relationships some people have, marrying to keep the other pure, I bet your wife would like a mans dick in her once in a while!

You could always please her with a finger or two, or a toy or your tongue, but once in a while a dick would be a new and different idea, you may just want to try, others have tried it and found it quite pleasant.

 

[silverwhisper]

o, ezzy, there you go again with the logic and stuff... :>

ed

 

[Eilan]

I agree. Either your husband is fucking around on you already and wants to feel better by you fucking someone else or he's just fucked up. I'm sorry but I want no mans dick in my wife.

I may not agree with or condone all the sexual behavior that people indulge in around here, but I'm mostly successful in keeping the ignorant, judgmental attitudes to a minimum. Your post shows that you're pretty clueless about the dynamics of open relationships/threesomes/swinging. Lots of couples engage in these types of relationships, and some of them have stronger, healthier, more secure relationships than their monogamous counterparts.

Just because this isn't something that you and your wife would choose to do doesn't mean that the people who engage in this behavior are "fucked up." Why don't you try respecting the fact that all relationships are different? You don't have to agree; in fact, you can agree to disagree.

If you don't have anything constructive to add (either pro OR con), perhaps you should stick to posting in threads relevant to your experience.

 

[Socal22]

Eilian- You rock my world, I agree, My mom always told me if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all. But better for this scenario if you have nothing to contribute to the actual thread, since just calling someone fucked up isn't a contribution, then stay out of it.

 

[erdave]

being ourselves

its hard to perform untoward behavior at least what society dictates as normal but in our marriages we need to grow sexually. we also need we cant change others real intimate feelings. this has been posted before but would like to share a time line in my wifes and I's marriage. we did take a risk but it worked for us.

outside of the bedroom we are a "normal" couple working hard to farm in a small town and yet allow us to feel ourselves.

I was filled with excitement tonight as we prepared for my wife’s weekly visit of her lover. We live and farm in small town Mississippi and hence extracurricular sexual activity is hard find. His name was Mike and had become a regular feature of our lives for the last six months. Over the last year of our nine year marriage my female side had really began to develop. I was frankly letting feelings of femininity take control in my life which had begun during my adolescence years and I had masked over. Being rather small in the penis department, I had always felt maybe it was supposed to be a clit and I began to feel more comfortable during the times I would secretly slip on her panties. Lisa caught me one afternoon and we had a long talk. With some misgivings at first, she agreed to allow me to wear panties and occasional slips and other lingerie but I would have to buy my own. As time continued on, I wore panties with an increased frequency and soon it was 24/7. Our sexual life also changed. She would make inferences regarding her occasional need for a manly lover. She admitted my ability to please her orally was adequate but she was beginning to fantasize of a huge penis also.
Lisa was an elementary school teacher and came home one afternoon and told me one of her fellow teachers had told her during break about a guy she had dated for a while that was a professor of economics and lived close by. Her fellow teacher had related to my wife what a great lover he was and how he was so well developed. Lisa asked me point blank if the professor would agree could we all meet. Nervously I replied, “Sure.” The three of us met over supper and talked with Mike. We relayed our desires to him and he was very accepting. He asked what my role would be and I nervously explained my fetish for panties and my desire to wear them while the threesome was in place. He acknowledged his understanding of my wishes and agreed. He would come to our house in one week.
The prelude for our first night was so nerve wracking as we prepared for the occasion. I had hurried out and bought a new pair of light red bikinis and my wife seemed to take in all in stride. She would giggle at me from our hot tub as I tried to make the living room and the bedroom spotless. The night went very well and all three of us were very satisfied both emotionally and physically. My panties stayed on as I watched them from a recliner in the bedroom. Lisa had multi orgasms, Mike had two orgasms, and my panties were a soaking mess. As Lisa and I talked afterwards, we mutually agreed to ask Mike for a return visit. I asked her how he felt inside her and her reply was, “He touched places, you could only dream of.” She looked at me and said, “I am sorry I didn’t exactly mean that.” I said its ok, “I understand.” She hugged me and asked how it was for me? I looked at her and exclaimed so openly, “Wow! It was awesome Mike was so large.” “I must admit I was sexually very aroused. His cock size must have more than doubled mine and I have to admit envy as he entered you and I watched the look on your face.”
As our flings with Mike continued we all grew closer and shared more intimate feelings about our sexual desires but except for rare occasions I would be very content to watch the explosive intimacy of their romantic throes. Mike and I would have small talk occasionally during interludes in the action and the subject of my femininity came up. I looked at him sitting nude on the couch and then pulled my panties open. I reached my hand to his semi hard cock and then touched mine. I told him I admired his size and related to him my feelings of feeling mine was a clit. He smiled and said, “I understand with yours being tiny why you would feel that way but Lisa say you are a good lover to her. “I know.” I said, “We have some great times in bed just ourselves but she loves the feel of your hardness and size and talks with such enthusiasm about your sexual ability.” Looking at Mike in the eyes, “I am very comfortable with my feelings and maybe one day I will allow myself to………….” Lisa interrupted us and sits down beside us. We chatted for a while longer before he left. The next week my subtleness of watching them was interrupted as Lisa asked me to quickly come to the side of the bed. Mike was fixing to come and as he got close, she told me to pull my panties open and mike stood quickly up and emptied his huge hot load all over my clit. His cum covered me and soaked the panties and before I could control my self I felt a sudden release of my passion as I squirted all over the two of them. Mike and Lisa laughed and again the three of us bonded even closer. I began to participate in a few ways to their lovemaking. I found myself able to lick her clit as he was on top and the results were awesome to her. I also began to imagine his cock in my mouth as I would deliver a lick of the shaft of his cock as I would flick my tongue over her clit. I would wonder if Lisa knew or if Mike had maybe told her. They had begun e-mailing back and forth as our weekly rendezvous’ would continue.
This last week Lisa and I both especially looked forward to Mike’s arrival. She had no school that day and the rain had kept me from our farm fields. She was getting ready and as I was finishing touching up things with the razor, she told me. “Its time for us to open up some more and we are at a period in this where our trust will overcome any preconceptions”. I only looked at her as she smiled at me and handed me a new pair of lacy panties. Mike came over later and we all exchanged greetings. We started out on the couch as usual with Lisa in between us except this time. Lisa smiled and told me to hop up and switch with her so Mike would be in the middle. She began to rub his rapidly enlarging erection in his boxers and then took my hand and placed it with her. She smiled at me and said we are both going to do this together and yes, I said everything together. Mike smiled and stretched out farther as Lisa and I began to massage and play with his huge cock. She slipped his boxers off and then lowered herself and started licking his cock. He responded by an instant leak of precum. She took her hand, placed it on my head and pulled me down and I responded by licking also. Mike began to moan as Lisa slowly worked most of his cock in her mouth and I licked his balls. As he got close to the moment of release she quickly said, “Mike, wait….Dave go to your knees and I immediately knelt before them. Lisa smiled at Mike and said, “Mike I want you to fuck his mouth.” He stood up and I briefly tasted his precum. Lisa took his cock and rubbed it over my face smearing his liquid over my cheeks and chin. She sits back on the couch and said, “It’s my turn to watch.” Mike slapped my face with his huge cock and slowly I took it and began to lick and suck the head. Lisa told me to swirl the head in my mouth. She giggled at me and said, “Suck him!” and I worked to allow his huge member to enter my mouth. I could feel his pulse inside my mouth. With a loud voice she told Mike, “Dave wants to be female so place your hands on the back of his head and fuck him. Make him know your huge cock is in his mouth.” I felt Mike began to reach his peak as the voice of Lisa boomed out, “Don’t pull out, he is to swallow all.” I smiled at her as we both knew I had reached full circle.

we dont recommend this for all couples of course
our marriage is tight right now and assume this action above will not diminsh it. dave and lisa

 

[Eilan]

its hard to perform untoward behavior at least what society dictates as normal but in our marriages we need to grow sexually. we also need we cant change others real intimate feelings. this has been posted before but would like to share a time line in my wifes and I's marriage. we did take a risk but it worked for us.

No offense here, but a lot of people aren't gonna read your post because the lack of paragraphs is painful to the eyes.

I'm not trying to be mean or bitchy. Just sayin'.

 

[Cuckold's Dream]

Well I read it! But then I have more than a passing interest in this subject.....

Thanks. Was very interesting. Let me know how your relationship develops.