First Munch Tips?

[FurryFury]

I'm thinking about going to my first local munch. My husband can't go. I don't know anyone yet. If I go, does anyone have any advice, tips or suggestions about what to do, wear, not do and so on?

Thanks,

Fury

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I'm thinking about going to my first local munch. My husband can't go. I don't know anyone yet. If I go, does anyone have any advice, tips or suggestions about what to do, wear, not do and so on?

Thanks,

Fury

Be yourself and have fun, good luck too.

 

[graceanne]

Never been to one, but I'd have to say I agree. Be yourself. If you don't fit in, you don't fit in, but better to find out at the first meeting than after several of them. And dont' worry if you don't fit in. Their's a lot of wanna-be's everywhere, including munches. Sometimes you gotta look around till you find the right one.

 

[Xelebes]

Relax and walk in. Just think of it going into a book club social or something.

 

[FurryFury]

Thank y'all! I'm feeling kind of nervous and shy about it but excited too. Oh and the restaurant we are meeting at in really close to this little Oriental grocer where I find the best ginger hands. *smiles*

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Thank y'all! I'm feeling kind of nervous and shy about it but excited too. Oh and the restaurant we are meeting at in really close to this little Oriental grocer where I find the best ginger hands. *smiles*

Fury

ohhh going to do a stir fry sweety ?

 

[FurryFury]

ohhh going to do a stir fry sweety ?

Riiight, you know me. I'm just a stir frying fool!

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Riiight, you know me. I'm just a stir frying fool!

Fury

Hey I stir fry and often ....pouts/laughs

 

[FurryFury]

Hey I stir fry and often ....pouts/laughs

Well I rarely cook because my husband is always hogging the kitchen but I don't mind that a bit! *L*

I'm sooooo nervous right now about this munch, btw.

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Well I rarely cook because my husband is always hogging the kitchen but I don't mind that a bit! *L*

I'm sooooo nervous right now about this munch, btw.

Fury

Okay calm down calm down, be yourself as was said above they will love you Miss Fury .
whatever you do sweetheart don't do thishttp://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/st20patricks20day.gif



heh if you can manage not to it will be sweet as. If you get nervous try and think of http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/st20patricks20day.gif if it made you smile.

lurve

@}-}rebecca-----

 

[fieryjen]

That sounds really exciting. Good luck, and I hope you have a wunderful time!

 

[FurryFury]

That sounds really exciting. Good luck, and I hope you have a wunderful time!

Thanks! I'm feeling paranoid, hopeful, scared, and excited all at once.

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

Thanks! I'm feeling paranoid, hopeful, scared, and excited all at once.

Fury

Now that ...is a delicious stew!

 

[babiesmiles]

Thanks! I'm feeling paranoid, hopeful, scared, and excited all at once.

Fury

soon you will be just excited .. I hope you will have a great time !! b

 

[FurryFury]

Now that ...is a delicious stew!

I suppose.

Fury

soon you will be just excited .. I hope you will have a great time !! b

Thanks!

*hugs*

Fury

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Most munches will be about as exciting as a PTA meeting.

People go to munches mostly to socialize and eat dinner and talk with their kinky friends.

They dress vanilla.

They ACT vanilla.

You might... _might_ mind you, get a little color in the cheeks going if there is a good discussion topic.

If you are lucky, you'll meet a few people who will actually sit down and talk with you. Most will keep a wary eye on you to see if you really are "one of us". If you show up a couple more times, the ice will usually thaw pretty quickly.

If anyone approaches you in an unwelcome manner, tries to pressure you in any way, gets pushy, holler for a group leader. If it's a group leader doing it, tell them in a loud voice, "No means no!". If that doesn't work "Look dorkwad, I don't recall negotiating any submission to you. I'm a switch, and you just flipped it...." *chuckles*

You should have a great time. Hell, tell 'em Evil_Geoff sent you... Or LordHamiltonZ. Someone there might recognize the nick. And don't believe a word of what they tell you.... it's not true! I swear! I wasn't even in the country that week...

 

[caela]

Have fun! Dress appropriatly for the restaurant ( our local munch is at a sports bar so we all just show up in jeans unless someone comes straight from work ) and have fun! If you're lucky you'll have a great group of people who will be warm and friendly on the first meet but if not it's likely that Geoff is right and they will warm up once you've come a couple times and they know you aren't going to just show once and disappear.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Fury just a qiuck question, where did you find info about your local munch?? Today I picked up one of those free alterative papers that seem to have wide selection of stuff in them movies, bars and so forth but on quick glance I did not see anything that would be a listing for bsdm stuff. As for more advice just take a deep breath, what is the worst thing that could happen?? I am sure if things go crazy like in the future you will sit back and laugh at the trouble.

 

[FurryFury]

Most munches will be about as exciting as a PTA meeting.

People go to munches mostly to socialize and eat dinner and talk with their kinky friends.

They dress vanilla.

They ACT vanilla.

You might... _might_ mind you, get a little color in the cheeks going if there is a good discussion topic.

If you are lucky, you'll meet a few people who will actually sit down and talk with you. Most will keep a wary eye on you to see if you really are "one of us". If you show up a couple more times, the ice will usually thaw pretty quickly.

If anyone approaches you in an unwelcome manner, tries to pressure you in any way, gets pushy, holler for a group leader. If it's a group leader doing it, tell them in a loud voice, "No means no!". If that doesn't work "Look dorkwad, I don't recall negotiating any submission to you. I'm a switch, and you just flipped it...." *chuckles*

You should have a great time. Hell, tell 'em Evil_Geoff sent you... Or LordHamiltonZ. Someone there might recognize the nick. And don't believe a word of what they tell you.... it's not true! I swear! I wasn't even in the country that week...

Thanks Evil_Geoff!

I've already gone and come back. It was a small group but it went well. So well I got invited to the next education seminar and play party. I hope my husband will agree to go and be off for it! I didn't read your name or float it. I wonderful what that reaction might have been!

The food was good too. The counter man gave me a discount. I think he liked me!

I tried to look good enough to fuck but still woman likeable if you know what I mean. A thin line indeed.

I'm all high now from the possibilities of where this all might eventually lead!

Fury

Have fun! Dress appropriatly for the restaurant ( our local munch is at a sports bar so we all just show up in jeans unless someone comes straight from work ) and have fun! If you're lucky you'll have a great group of people who will be warm and friendly on the first meet but if not it's likely that Geoff is right and they will warm up once you've come a couple times and they know you aren't going to just show once and disappear.

I have a slight tendency to overdress.

I wore black jeans , a black top with green beads (from The Body Shop, my fav ho wear place but it's pretty sedate a baby doll kinda thing) on it because hey, St. Paddy's Day, my black Mandarin styled leather and faux fur jacket oh and my spiked boots too. I even curled my hair and fluffed it! *giggles* (Think rock music video.) I a hella but somewhat subtle job on the make up, again trying to be fuckable but likeable by straight femmes that don't want to share or be upstaged or what have you.

Fury

Fury just a qiuck question, where did you find info about your local munch?? Today I picked up one of those free alterative papers that seem to have wide selection of stuff in them movies, bars and so forth but on quick glance I did not see anything that would be a listing for bsdm stuff. As for more advice just take a deep breath, what is the worst thing that could happen?? I am sure if things go crazy like in the future you will sit back and laugh at the trouble.

I found out by google searching for BDSM groups in my area.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Okay calm down calm down, be yourself as was said above they will love you Miss Fury .
whatever you do sweetheart don't do this. <snip>


heh if you can manage not to it will be sweet as. If you get nervous try and think of <snip> if it made you smile.

lurve

@}-}rebecca-----

Thanks Miss Rebecca! I somehow missed this post before. I was sweet! Of course I was! And I would never flash strangers! LOL! I reserve all that for my darlin.

Fury

 

[Mr. Mann]

I tried to look good enough to fuck but still woman likeable if you know what I mean. A thin line indeed.

HA! HA! HA! That is an absolutely beautiful turn of phrase, FF!

I'm glad to hear your first visit went well. Good on ya for going.. and all by yourelf, too!

I've thought about visiting a local munch. Not to meet people to play with, but rather just to meet some people whom I know in the back of my mind wouldn't think I and my wife were total freaks if we acutally spoke honestly about ourselves.

Does that make sense?

 

[FurryFury]

HA! HA! HA! That is an absolutely beautiful turn of phrase, FF!

I'm glad to hear your first visit went well. Good on ya for going.. and all by yourelf, too!

I've thought about visiting a local munch. Not to meet people to play with, but rather just to meet some people whom I know in the back of my mind wouldn't think I and my wife were total freaks if we acutally spoke honestly about ourselves.

Does that make sense?

Yes, it does make sense. I am not sure when or if I will be able to ever play publicly or with others. Shedding clothes in public is a serious shy problem area for me.

Do you have to get totally naked to be "demonstrated on?"

I am looking forward to the education and socialization parts of things however.

Question for those who have any knowledge of such things; I was told you wear street clothes to these education/play party things and then bring something to change into if you want. Now I'm trying to think what if anything I should bring to change into?

*gets nervous thinking about it.*

On and if we go, I'll have to worry about my darlin' too. What is he thinking/feeling, or going to say or do?

Eek!

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Up for discussion.

How selfish am I?

My husband says he isn't comfortable with the education seminar or play party but is willing to go FOR ME. (Also so I won't go alone, something I never said I'd do btw but which I might. *L*) He only told me this after I tried really hard to see what he thought or felt about it.

He has said so many fucking things about going to a particular restaurant, movie, play, skiing, going on a cruise and so on. He doesn't tell me he dislikes the idea right off, he usually waits until we are on our way or a deposit has been made but I pushed for an answer this time. In the end, he usually has a BETTER time after he is there, than anyone in his party, meaning, me, the kids and whoever. After all is said and done he tends to LOVE the event/trip/experience.

I think for the first time in forever he might be a bit insecure. (I think that might be good for him. Am I a bitch or what?)

Am I wrong to want to do this? Am I wrong to take the "I'll do this for you," and RUN with it??

Fury

 

[leeroy jenkins]

How selfish am I?

My husband says he isn't comfortable with the education seminar or play party but is willing to go FOR ME. (Also so I won't go alone, something I never said I'd do btw but which I might. *L*) He only told me this after I tried really hard to see what he thought or felt about it.

He has said so many fucking things about going to a particular restaurant, movie, play, skiing, going on a cruise and so on. He doesn't tell me he dislikes the idea right off, he usually waits until we are on our way or a deposit has been made but I pushed for an answer this time. In the end, he usually has a BETTER time after he is there, than anyone in his party, meaning, me, the kids and whoever. After all is said and done he tends to LOVE the event/trip/experience.

I think for the first time in forever he might be a bit insecure. (I think that might be good for him. Am I a bitch or what?)

Am I wrong to want to do this? Am I wrong to take the "I'll do this for you," and RUN with it??

Fury

So many ways to answer this so lets start here, my read of the bible says that the husbands duty is to love his wife and care for her unto death, this is not so drastic but you desire to try this so I think just for that reason your hubby should say yes. On the flip side of the bible coin woman must defer to a man choices for the family, but if he is doing his part then this submission is not so hard to swallow.

I'm not married but even silly young me knows that love and marriage is all about compromise. I am sure that there have been and will be things you do not like to do but because you love each other you do it for your mate's sanity. It could be how you squeeze out the toothpaste or is the toliet paper go over or under, these are silly example but little things matter too.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I think for the first time in forever he might be a bit insecure. (I think that might be good for him. Am I a bitch or what?)

Not at all. Well, hell, maybe you are, since I don't know you f-2-f you could be leading us on. But in this particular case, I wouldn't think so.

Am I wrong to want to do this?

No, not at all. Knowledge and education allow you and yours to engage in new areas of play more safely, it gives you ideas to take your relationship in new and exciting directions. It's all good.

Am I wrong to take the "I'll do this for you," and RUN with it??

Fury

Not at all. Growth opportunities are to be siezed. Call it "Eye-opening 101".