First Lesbian Experience??

[Cleopatra]

I was talking to an old friend today, who told me she had her first lesbian experience, "well, not really".

I was confused, thinking either you *did*, or you *didn't*.

She tells me that "guy" with whom she had been talking for a year came out on their boards to being a female and a lesbian.

So, can it be a lesbian experience if she didn't know the other partner is a female in the first place?

 

[Lancecastor]

I was talking to an old friend today, who told me she had her first lesbian experience, "well, not really".

I was confused, thinking either you *did*, or you *didn't*.

She tells me that "guy" with whom she had been talking for a year came out on their boards to being a female and a lesbian.

So, can it be a lesbian experience if she didn't know the other partner is a female in the first place?

If I eat a steak, thinking it's moose, only to find out later it was deer....what did I eat, grasshopper?

 

[lobito]

unless it's a physical thing, she still hasn't had her "first lesbain experience".

 

[Flitter]

hmm... I suppose that whether she knew it or not, it doesn't change what it is.

However, if it's just on a board/internet....I'm not sure I would actually call it a true lesbian experience.

 

[SaucyWench]

I have to agree with Lobito, unless she touched, tasted and caressed real flesh, it wasn't a lesbian experience at all. She doesn't know what she is missing!

 

[Cleopatra]

I'd have to say that 1) since it wasn't physical, it can't be claimed as an experience, and 2) if she thought the person was male, and connected to "him" emotionally as such, then it's not the same "person".

Make sense?

 

[Flitter]

I'd have to say that 1) since it wasn't physical, it can't be claimed as an experience, and 2) if she thought the person was male, and connected to "him" emotionally as such, then it's not the same "person".

Make sense?

It does make sense...but on the other hand...if you connect to someone emotionally does it really matter what gender they are? I am not excusing the fact that she was mislead, but I'm just saying that obviously that person, whether male or female, had some qualities she enjoyed. Does she feel really betrayed or is she sort of shrugging it off ?

 

[Cleopatra]

Does she feel really betrayed or is she sort of shrugging it off ?

When I first talked to her, she was shocked, and very unhappy - I think it was the trust thing - she had trusted this person with some private images etc.

I suggested she might have a few latent homosexual issues, and she just said that she was straight, and the thought of being with a women was not what she wanted....

After a week or so, she seemed to be over it enough to joke about it.

 

[Lust Engine]

I guess she'd have to define "lesbian experience" to the rest of us. It seems as though her definition is a little more varied than most people's here.

 

[Flitter]

I can definitely understand how she'd feel mislead. I do think, too, that we pretty much open ourselves up to this possibility if we participate in this form of communication. After all we never REALLY know who is typing on the other side of the screen.

I am glad that she can joke about it now, however. I hope it doesn't hinder her from getting to know other people.

 

[perks]

if she didn't lick the cooter she's not a lesbian and didn't have a lesbian connection. Just cause you have a connection with another human being doesn't mean you're attracted to the same sex.

 

[Jimi]

Speaking of licking cooters...

if she didn't lick the cooter she's not a lesbian and didn't have a lesbian connection. Just cause you have a connection with another human being doesn't mean you're attracted to the same sex.

I love the thought of a fine Chesapeake Cooter, au Vin Rouge...

 

[Cleopatra]

if she didn't lick the cooter she's not a lesbian and didn't have a lesbian connection. Just cause you have a connection with another human being doesn't mean you're attracted to the same sex.

Excellent points, perky. Thanks. I'll relay them.