Fiance won't pleasure me...help!

[InfiniteZeros]

My fiance absolutely refuses to perform oral sex on me. To make matters worse, I'm a woman who's never had an orgasm. I've been eaten out once before, and although the man wasn't experienced, it was wonderful. I feel that if my fiance would take the time to learn to learn how to eat out a girl and be willing to to this to me, I would finally experience the pleasure that every sexually active person should. Any suggestions on how to go about convincing him?

 

[marksgirl]

My fiance absolutely refuses to perform oral sex on me. To make matters worse, I'm a woman who's never had an orgasm. I've been eaten out once before, and although the man wasn't experienced, it was wonderful. I feel that if my fiance would take the time to learn to learn how to eat out a girl and be willing to to this to me, I would finally experience the pleasure that every sexually active person should. Any suggestions on how to go about convincing him?

Run while the running is good!

 

[ithaqua]

I'm with you

This man ain't worth your time.

Get the heck out.

 

[SpiceCake]

If you love it and he won't do it- misery will become a way of life. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship (for some anyway), but if you aren't satisfied then you will eventually be totally miserable. I learned this the hard way. My ex would only have sex missonary style. No doggy style, no oral - just missionary! Boring!!!!

I'm with marksgirl - RUN!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I hate to say it, but this saounds like it isn't going to work out...run, Forest, run!

 

[peachykeen]

If he is your 'fiance', then you really need to ask yourself this question:

Am I prepared to make a lifelong commitment to possibly never, ever recieving oral sex, ever again?

If the answer is 'no', I suggest you may want to rethink, before you book a hall and buy a dress.

 

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[estevie]

My fiance absolutely refuses to perform oral sex on me. To make matters worse, I'm a woman who's never had an orgasm. I've been eaten out once before, and although the man wasn't experienced, it was wonderful. I feel that if my fiance would take the time to learn to learn how to eat out a girl and be willing to to this to me, I would finally experience the pleasure that every sexually active person should. Any suggestions on how to go about convincing him?

Never had an orgasm?

Never? Not while pleasuring yourself? Never?

You poor thing.

Secondly, why won't he? WHats the problem? Have you talked with him about it? Have you told him how badly you want him to do it? Have you told him you'll return the favor? Have you told him how sweet it...ohhh *ahem* anyway, what have you tried already?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

there's a world of difference between 'refuses to' and 'doesn't prefer it'. If he just isn't much into it, but is willing to do it occasionally, you could work with it. A flat refusal, however, sounds to me like he simply isn't interested in your needs, and that attitude will almost certainly spill over into other parts of your life. If you get married, you might want to brace yourself for when he refuses to have children with you, or refuses to support you in other decisions.

 

[plasticman33]

WTF's wrong with him?? Dump him find a real man who is dedicated to giving pleasure to the woman he loves!

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Fiance won't pleasure me...help!

Why does he refuse?
Whats his reason?>
If he doesnt like the taste, you can always use honey or a lollypop.

I would say 90% of men love giving oral sex.

One out of 10 men are gay?

I didn't know that.

 

[ithaqua]

Re: Re: Re: Fiance won't pleasure me...help!

One out of 10 men are gay?

I didn't know that.

Statistics vary, (how would you get an accurate count), but the generally accepted number is around that.

 

[Sheaf_Beast]

My fiance absolutely refuses to perform oral sex on me. To make matters worse, I'm a woman who's never had an orgasm. I've been eaten out once before, and although the man wasn't experienced, it was wonderful. I feel that if my fiance would take the time to learn to learn how to eat out a girl and be willing to to this to me, I would finally experience the pleasure that every sexually active person should. Any suggestions on how to go about convincing him?

9 out of 10 now posters sound like yayati

 

[tyme]

there's a world of difference between 'refuses to' and 'doesn't prefer it'. If he just isn't much into it, but is willing to do it occasionally, you could work with it. A flat refusal, however, sounds to me like he simply isn't interested in your needs, and that attitude will almost certainly spill over into other parts of your life. If you get married, you might want to brace yourself for when he refuses to have children with you, or refuses to support you in other decisions.

this is so right. Its all about give and take what is he giving you? Do you give him blowjobs?