Female Viewpoint on being a submissive

[TheCuriousOne44]

Looking for a female Viewpoint on being a submissive pls post your thoughts below or PM me but Females only pls.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Looking for a female Viewpoint on being a submissive pls post your thoughts below or PM me but Females only pls.

You're better off in the BDSM forum

 

[TheCuriousOne44]

You're better off in the BDSM forum

Ok so i should post their? i am new to this site sry about that

 

[Wifenextdoor]

It depends on what you're looking for specifically. Creating trust with a partner and passing the threshold where you can feel that sense of total surrender is an incredible place to be.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Ok so i should post their? i am new to this site sry about that

You'll get more people who are submissive than here, and there might already be a thread like this

 

[TheCuriousOne44]

It depends on what you're looking for specifically. Creating trust with a partner and passing the threshold where you can feel that sense of total surrender is an incredible place to be.

I am looking to be a good Dom but i also want my gf to be my submissive no matter what to make her completely loyal for both of us.

 

[NaughtyPartyGirl]

I'm not really sure what I am. I think mostly submissive, not that I want to be dominated in some kind of masochistic way, but I like a man to take me and give me pleasure, maybe on the wild and crazy side. On the other hand, when I'm really horny I can be the aggressor.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I am looking to be a good Dom but i also want my gf to be my submissive no matter what to make her completely loyal for both of us.

Make her submissive no matter what?

Yikes on many motherfucking bikes!

There are a lot of threads in the BDSM forum. I would encourage you to scroll through there and read up. Focus on learning about consent, SSC (safe, sane, and consensual) play, and the dynamic between Doms and subs. Submissives do not stop being people with wants, desires, needs, and limits. Being a good Dom is hard fucking work and being a lazy Dom almost certainly equates to being abusive. The quoted post above is concerning.

Also, call women “women,” not “females.”

 

[Wifenextdoor]

I am looking to be a good Dom but i also want my gf to be my submissive no matter what to make her completely loyal for both of us.

Well you can't force someone to be your submissive. There's a lot of dynamics and work that goes into creating a Dom/Sub relationship. Good luck!

 

[TheCuriousOne44]

Make her submissive no matter what?

Yikes on many motherfucking bikes!

There are a lot of threads in the BDSM forum. I would encourage you to scroll through there and read up. Focus on learning about consent, SSC (safe, sane, and consensual) play, and the dynamic between Doms and subs. Submissives do not stop being people with wants, desires, needs, and limits. Being a good Dom is hard fucking work and being a lazy Dom almost certainly equates to being abusive. The quoted post above is concerning.

Also, call women “women,” not “females.”

Sorry for the misunderstanding english is not my native language and not once have i meant to imply any kind of nonconsent all i was asking is about how to go about getting my gf into bdsm and both of us learning and following the lifestyle safely from a womens viewpoint that is all. as for the female part i am a STEM student and new to all this kink lifestyle it is how we talk regarding these kinds of things but i am learning cheers.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Sorry for the misunderstanding english is not my native language and not once have i meant to imply any kind of nonconsent all i was asking is about how to go about getting my gf into bdsm and both of us learning and following the lifestyle safely from a womens viewpoint that is all. as for the female part i am a STEM student and new to all this kink lifestyle it is how we talk regarding these kinds of things but i am learning cheers.

Okay, that makes more sense.

I would encourage you to just talk to her about it, let her know what you’re thinking and ask her if she’s into it. There is not a way to make her into this and it’s not for everyone. If she’s curious, encourage her to read and participate here too.

Also, I don’t really recommend reading 50 Shades of Grey. That series gets a lot of things wrong, but reading something along those lines may help her see if it turns her on. I think the Crossfire series by Sylvia Day is a better option.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Here are some fantastic classic threads on submission: https://forum.literotica.com/threads/submission-bdsm-library-thread-read-only.304819/

 

[IrisAlthea]

I am looking to be a good Dom but i also want my gf to be my submissive no matter what to make her completely loyal for both of us.

First, find out what you mean when you say you want to be a good dom, what you want out of the relationship and how you want it to work on a daily basis.
When you can describe what it is you want, it is much easier to communicate it to others.
If you already have a somewhat longterm girlfriend, it is probably a good idea to talk about your interest in this, investigate your options together and how it could work for both of you.

 

[emme8]

I am looking to be a good Dom but i also want my gf to be my submissive no matter what to make her completely loyal for both of us.

Just have lots fun sex with her. Do the things you both like and slowly introduce elements you might want to try. And when you see something that sparks your interest show her. See what her reaction is. Encourage her to do the same for you.

 

[TheCuriousOne44]

Okay, that makes more sense.

I would encourage you to just talk to her about it, let her know what you’re thinking and ask her if she’s into it. There is not a way to make her into this and it’s not for everyone. If she’s curious, encourage her to read and participate here too.

Also, I don’t really recommend reading 50 Shades of Grey. That series gets a lot of things wrong, but reading something along those lines may help her see if it turns her on. I think the Crossfire series by Sylvia Day is a better option.

Yeah we got a problem she is the one that wanted to pursue bdsm after watching 50 shades of grey and she loves the books i only got into it after looking at videos of glamazon tyomi but yeah she loves 50 shades ill buy crossfire see what she thinks anyway.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Yeah we got a problem she is the one that wanted to pursue bdsm after watching 50 shades of grey and she loves the books i only got into it after looking at videos of glamazon tyomi but yeah she loves 50 shades ill buy crossfire see what she thinks anyway.

Her being interested is promising. Ideally, you two would explore this together.

 

[IsabellaEmily]

Lots of great advice here.

I'd say that to me, when I make the choice to submit to someone, it's about me bestowing my control onto someone else. So it's not about me being powerless, but about me being powerful enough to put them in total charge of my pleasure.

Of course, I can only speak for myself, others may feel very differently, which is why communication between you and your partner is constantly important. No two people are exactly alike, and as you both explore you will discover things about yourselves and each other that discussion will help you define and explore further.

 

[emme8]

Truthfully I never made far into 50 Shades of Grey. But I started and couldn't finish it for several reasons.

There is some much much better stuff in the stories on here. Let her read through some of Dr_mabeuse . This guy's stuff actually made me cry at times it was so good. I think he had real experience and gets what it means to dominate
there are tons of other great authors, look for the highest ratings. The awarded are sometime great stories but not the best for the sex.

 

[TheCuriousOne44]

Truthfully I never made far into 50 Shades of Grey. But I started and couldn't finish it for several reasons.

There is some much much better stuff in the stories on here. Let her read through some of Dr_mabeuse . This guy's stuff actually made me cry at times it was so good. I think he had real experience and gets what it means to dominate
there are tons of other great authors, look for the highest ratings. The awarded are sometime great stories but not the best for the sex.

Yeah i also kinda hate 50 shades of grey but i have not been able to tell her that as i do not want to go through the whole sex life and 365 days scenario again where she started yelling at me for not liking the sorry to say this but horrendous writing and characters in those shows. still we are just starting our bdsm journey so we will see i guess.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Yeah we got a problem she is the one that wanted to pursue bdsm after watching 50 shades of grey and she loves the books i only got into it after looking at videos of glamazon tyomi but yeah she loves 50 shades ill buy crossfire see what she thinks anyway.

See if you can try to get her to specify what about it, makes her interested.
Worst case, it’s more about the romance hero…

 

[TheCuriousOne44]

See if you can try to get her to specify what about it, makes her interested.
Worst case, it’s more about the romance hero…

Yeah she loves everything about the main guy grey or something she even has the actor that plays him as her laptop wallpaper i was so baffled by the movie i just kept my mouth shut instead of lol.

 

[Lady2020]

Personally, it takes a man who knows what he's doing for me to submit to him.

 

[BSwett060]

Lots of great advice here.

I'd say that to me, when I make the choice to submit to someone, it's about me bestowing my control onto someone else. So it's not about me being powerless, but about me being powerful enough to put them in total charge of my pleasure.

Of course, I can only speak for myself, others may feel very differently, which is why communication between you and your partner is constantly important. No two people are exactly alike, and as you both explore you will discover things about yourselves and each other that discussion will help you define and explore further.

Very well said. I agree, it’s not about being powerless. It’s a gift, giving up one’s control to another. Which is why it’s critical for a Dominant to put the care and well being of the submissive first always.