Seeing your dom(me) be a sub for another

[Yarglenurp]

Wondering how many subs and sub-adjacent people here would enjoy seeing their dominant partners be submissive to someone else?

I used to think that this breaks the “roles” of the relationship and would make the dominant seem less attractive, but now my tastes have changed. Given the number of stories on here on Lit, I think a fair number of submissive guys would actually find watching their dominant partners sub for another guy or girl to be extremely erotic.

On the other hand, I wonder if it’s fundamentally different for a woman… I wonder if a dominant partner loses his or her appeal to the submissive woman if they ever act out of character.

 

[AG31]

Wondering how many subs and sub-adjacent people here would enjoy seeing their dominant partners be submissive to someone else?

I used to think that this breaks the “roles” of the relationship and would make the dominant seem less attractive, but now my tastes have changed. Given the number of stories on here on Lit, I think a fair number of submissive guys would actually find watching their dominant partners sub for another guy or girl to be extremely erotic.

On the other hand, I wonder if it’s fundamentally different for a woman… I wonder if a dominant partner loses his or her appeal to the submissive woman if they ever act out of character.

I can't speak from personal experience, only regarding fantasies, but I would love to read about such a scenario. My thing is strong men surrendering with dignity. It doesn't matter much what they surrender to. Certainly the sex of the other doesn't matter. I'm female.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I would, this is very popular with cuckolding and cuckqueaning fetishes.

It's so sexy to be submissive to someone and then watch them submit to another bull or Domme, that means they'd own you too and you can service them both.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Wondering how many subs and sub-adjacent people here would enjoy seeing their dominant partners be submissive to someone else?

I used to think that this breaks the “roles” of the relationship and would make the dominant seem less attractive, but now my tastes have changed. Given the number of stories on here on Lit, I think a fair number of submissive guys would actually find watching their dominant partners sub for another guy or girl to be extremely erotic.

On the other hand, I wonder if it’s fundamentally different for a woman… I wonder if a dominant partner loses his or her appeal to the submissive woman if they ever act out of character.

Woman here. I love switches and switchy Doms. I find it far easier to trust them. I think they understand me better. They’re incredibly sexy to me. The sexiest.

 

[subdudeme13]

My favorite Domme was a married slave. She was terrific and knew how to ring my bell. I did my best for her as if I had a choice!

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Apologies for my off topic replies to others earlier. I got over excited and forgot forum etiquette. I'll do better!

 

[Yarglenurp]

Apologies for my off topic replies to others earlier. I got over excited and forgot forum etiquette. I'll do better!

I think you’re more than fine.

 

[Yarglenurp]

My favorite Domme was a married slave. She was terrific and knew how to ring my bell. I did my best for her as if I had a choice!

So, what kind of stuff did she do to you? How’d it even happen if she was married?

 

[magic_rat]

My partner is sub, I am her dom. That's just how we are. Our swing partner is domme in a dungeon, very sub in bed. I've experimented lately subbing for her in a dungeon scenario. Still deciding how I feel about it.

 

[subdudeme13]

So, what kind of stuff did she do to you? How’d it even happen if she was married?

What didn't she do and they had an open marriage.

 

[naughtyishaan]

I think it work in some other manner, sorry if I'm off the topic.

Generally younger female want to be dominated that's why they are looking for dom either of their age or older in late 20s.

But these late 20s have a kink for older ladies,.and the older ladies are dominant as hell in bed. They just wants to pound on younger guys.

Myself I'm male and into mature lady dom, strict and seductive kind. Whereas I just oound the hell of younger pussy.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Good thoughts.

When I was contacted by younger Dommes, sometimes significantly younger, I didn't have any issues with it and actually find younger Dommes very sexy too. Both of them could be trained the same way you train subs. I love the idea.

 

[Yarglenurp]

I think it work in some other manner, sorry if I'm off the topic.

Generally younger female want to be dominated that's why they are looking for dom either of their age or older in late 20s.

But these late 20s have a kink for older ladies,.and the older ladies are dominant as hell in bed. They just wants to pound on younger guys.

Myself I'm male and into mature lady dom, strict and seductive kind. Whereas I just oound the hell of younger pussy.

Well, you’d have more experience than me. Everyone women I’ve been with has wanted to sub, except for my wife, who is willing to dom for my pleasure.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Well, you’d have more experience than me. Everyone women I’ve been with has wanted to sub, except for my wife, who is willing to dom for my pleasure.

That's quite rare and good for you.

 

[naughtyishaan]

Well, you’d have more experience than me. Everyone women I’ve been with has wanted to sub, except for my wife, who is willing to dom for my pleasure.

She's a pearl in haystack......

I don't know what you guys have tried, but ask her to give you handjob from sitting behind you and biting your neck

 

[Yarglenurp]

She's a pearl in haystack......

I don't know what you guys have tried, but ask her to give you handjob from sitting behind you and biting your neck

You know, I will do that.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I've seen it a few times, and I always find it hilarious. Which adds to the humiliation for them - the two guys at least. The lady manages to separate the two, just gives me a look to say 'dont even think about laughing, or trust me, you'll regret it when I get my hands on you.'

A certain gentleman of my acquaintance is very sweet when he gets into subby mode. And can then switch back to dominance very effectively. There's something very hot about a man in heels, nude except for caged cock, steel collar and cuffs, with lash marks all over, standing over you going "yeah, look at me, and I'm still the one you're going to answer to." It's also sometimes comforting to know someone who dishes it out can also take it - though if they can take way more stuff than you can, not so much...

 

[Ash999]

Apologies for my off topic replies to others earlier. I got over excited and forgot forum etiquette. I'll do better!

Lotus ,
Bend over and proffer Butt to the Stern Rattan Cane for veering off topic...
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[Ash999]

I am submissive in my worship of Goddess Kali but Dominant with my slavegals....I spank my bent over, panty clad, bare View attachment 2466121View attachment 2466124View attachment 2466125View attachment 2466125View attachment 2466122View attachment 2466123ass cheeks with a pView attachment 2466124air of steel hand shaped rice spoons .....ouch....Victory Goddess Kali!!!

 

[slavejason]

If anything I’d say it reinforces the (1st) subs place at the bottom of the dynamic/hierarchy, here’s the new (2nd) Dom/me taking control of the 1st Dom/me in a way the 1st sub never could.

 

[ChuckWolf]

Had an idea about a male dom and his two submissive females getting lured into a trap by a dominatrix; the male dom rebels, but seeing him sexually humiliated turns on his former female slaves, who under orders of their new mistress, edge their former master, not letting him cum.

 

[OddLove]

I think it sounds fun. And I've never been overly concerned with 'roles' in the sense that they are 'for life' or deeply rooted traits of an individual and shows any sort of inconsistency or disloyalty to their own character. That being said, I'm fully switch, and I move pretty effortlessly between roles. But if I was in a D/s relationship with someone and I was the submissive in our play, I'd love seeing them explore and play with other people. It would be a huge tease. Especially if they're doing stuff with a different person that they haven't done with me.

Even if they weren't being fully submissive to a different person, just something as simple as letting the other person fuck them anally, or finding someone much bigger than me. But I think the scenario you present would be extremely hot, like watching a dominant submit to someone else while their submissive watches him or her surrender themselves to a powerful dominant. That's super hot, as long as the submissive feels secure with their relationship with their partner and can enjoy it, knowing when it's over, their partner still desires them as a 'life partner' or best friend, then it seems like an extremely exciting way to witness your dominant get to explore another side of themselves. And I think a open minded and caring partner would want that, both ways. So maybe a submissive has a submissive play partner if they like switching too. Or if either partner is bisexual, they can find same sex play partners and help each other explore that as well.

Breaking out of 'roles' or expanding the type of roles you enjoy seems essential for me personally. Otherwise I'd probably get bored, and even kinky sex would began to feel mundane at a certain point.